I am moving in with my boyfriend, won't have a job immediatly and might even take 4 months (due to some reasons I cannot help) that I won't have an income.
I already told him I would take care of the cooking and cleaning, but I also told him I would pay rent together with him. Not sure how he felt about that tbh as he kinda avoided replying to that and I haven't pushed it since.
I have plenty of savings and not worried about not having an income for a couple months but I just don't want to give him the idea I wanna take advantage of him financially.
Is that a good idea? I also don't want to make him feel like any less of a man. I don't know what's fair or should be done in this situation.
Most Helpful Guy
In my opinion you should insist in paying half of all your living expenses including rent. It is healthier that way I think. Also talk and talk about everything so there would be no misunderstandings about some stuff, including this "issue". Also you are stepping in to another phase of life, the "adult" one, so you should know to be relaxed and enjoy and also just communicate and navigate life in a 50-50 ratio. Good luck and best wishes on your together life! )4
Most Helpful Girl
I think you have to look at this as a long term thing. Are you guys planning to get married or is this just a convenience thing?
What would you expect if he moved in with you and had no job?
Honestly if it were me I’d probably hold off on moving in until I had the ability to pay. Once you settle into a long term committed relationship though... for me each person contributes in their own way and that can’t necessarily be measured by dollars.
I’d be fine with paying all the bills if my guy was out of work. Likewise I’d expect him to be the same way.0