Is it weird that I'm not mad at my girlfriend for cheating and I still want to stay with her?

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Her reason was because I don't sexually satisfy her and she needs more. So we decided she's going to cuckold me
So we decided to give the cuckolding thing a try and so far it's going good it's something we're both really getting into

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  • She CHEATED on you. She went behind your back and did it with another man, while you’re still protecting her and loving her. She doesn’t deserve a guy like you. Unless she feels really bad and shows you that she truly cares about you, then you’re allowed to consider it.. but the fact that she clearly stated that you’re not good enough for her. Why is she good enough for you? You deserve way much than that. I think you just don’t want to accept it and you’re afraid of losing her, because you think that you’re not capable of getting someone worthy of you.. but I do believe that you can find someone that will appreciate and respect as who you are... okay you get turned on by the fact that she’s doing it.. but doesn’t it cross your mind that she’s basically the one that’s manipulating and controlling you. She doesn’t respect you enough to make you the only one that she loves. I think you need to see that you’re actually worth being loved.

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    • I know but I just really want to be with her anyway

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    • And I need you to know that there are going to be a lot of girls that are lucky to have you. You will find someone worthy of you. You just need to move on.

    • Good for you two being able to work together through your problems.

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  • For your own self-respect and self-worth I'd certainly question the situation. You're willing to be faithful to only her, but it's ok for her to be unfaithful? I think you're blinded by intense feelings for her, and I could be wrong, but I'd guess it's probably because you don't think you can do better. I would leave the relationship immediately, it sounds very toxic, and you're only going to get hurt more. Because the truth is, you CAN do better, nobody should be with a partner who openly cheats on them. It won't be easy, but you should leave her.

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    • But in some ways I'm actually kind of turned on by the thought of her doing it

    • Well, I mean if that's what you're into, then I guess that's what you're into. I'd wonder why though, and I'd think it has to do with self worth issues. But do you man. I just think down the road it would lead to unhappiness

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  • Its lack of respect for yourself.

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  • I know we tell girls who get cheated on by their boyfriends, "you need to gtfo of that relationship" very plain and simple and everything...
    But since you're a guy cheated on by a girl...
    The case doesn't change.
    You need to gtfo of that relationship.

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  • Maybe she knows this and it's the reason she cheated in the first place. She knows you are soft for her... Stand your ground. She has to be the one who experiences a loss, not you. Cheating is never good, and she might do it again with that attitude... You honestly deserve someone who is like you in that way. Who WOULDN'T cheat on you because they love you so much

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  • Some people can look past cheating. Not many, but some. Most everyone I know, male and female, would have a HUGE issue sharing the one they love. You are definitely in the minority that you are okay with her cheating on you, and you watching someone else bang her. But to each their own.

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  • Once a cheater, always a cheater. Remember that, amigo.

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  • Yes and no.. Yes because she cheated on you but also no because it shows that you really care about her.. even though it was wrong that she cheated. She’s lucky that you’re not mad at her because most people would have probably been mad. But it’s good that you forgive her.

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  • You can't help how you feel so it's understandable about you still being with her after she cheated. You love her I guess

    But then you need to know your worth and still staying with her or not being mad at her just makes it feel like you're being disrespected

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  • Don't know if weird or not but I don't appreciate this thing at all... You don't respect yourself enough if you're staying with someone who did not consider you worthy enough to tell or inform before doing & chose to cheat (even if it was just a temporary casual fling which you're okay with) & I would not stay with a cheater no matter what..

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  • No because you love her too much. Loving someone needs no explanation/reason.

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    • Yeah and I want to be with her no matter what she does

    • That's what's called "being a doormat'

  • Yes. It’s very weird to not be affected by your mates dishonesty, disloyalty and disrespect. You must not really love yourself.

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  • Yeah that’s weird, it lowers trust and I don’t get why you would want to be with someone who doesn’t put you first and gets with someone else behind your back

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  • I ask myself the same question before and the best answer I could come up with was weather or not I could live without him. If there's love there it's worth it in my opinion but you have to be willing to forgive but stand your ground that you won't stand for it again.

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  • I had a brief urge to have my first marriage to go back the way it was when he cheated. I was socially isolated and he was the only person I trusted, and I was tempted to want to hang onto that trust a little longer so I would have someone to talk to.

    But, it wasn't real. It was more like the memory of feelings than actual feelings in a way - I felt like I was in suspended animation for a few days there, even weeks to some extent.

    Give yourself time to understand what the situation really is before you decide how you want to proceed.

    It may not be good for either of you to just forgive and forget.

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  • It's not weird and it's understandable for many situations. But I definitely would advise you to leave her to prevent being hurt more in the future

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  • It isn’t weird you may just love her that much and really don’t want to lose her but I hope you don’t constantly let her do it and get away with it because she won’t stop ! Good luck

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  • I do find it odd that you are not mad at her, but I urge you to not stay with her. If she really loved you, she wouldn't have cheated.

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  • What did she do?
    Why weren't you mad at her?
    Why do you still want to stay with her?
    Are you sure she won't do it again?
    Do you think she is the one?

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    • Have sex with other guys. I'm not mad because I know that I'm not very good at sex and I have a smoke and she deserves better I stay with her because I love her. And I know she'll do it again but I don't really blame her yeah she's the one I want to spend my life with

    • But how could you? How could you just let the one you love go? How could you just undermine yourself?

  • Yes it is weird. When you enter a relationship you usually enter it within the boundaries of commitment and trust. Unless you are poly and you have multiple partners and everyone knows about it. If you are in a monogamous relationship, I would question why it won't bother you that your girlfriend just betrayed that basic trust. Also, in general people cheat when something is lacking in their relationship (not blaming the person that got cheated on, still doesn't justify cheating as cheating is a COWARD move) so basically, she just told you that you are not satisfying her needs.

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    • Yes she told me that I do not satisfy her sexually so I feel that's my fault not hers, and you're cheating did affect me I was hurt but not mad at her for it

    • It is not your fault. She should discuss things with you before going to sleep with another man!

  • No it's not weird I don't know if you love her or don't, probably you don't view cheating as others do also. You might have see why she did what she did.

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    • Because I have been having problems down there so that's why I'm not mad at her

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    • Well she took it didn't she?

    • But it wasn't enough for her

  • You have no self respect and probably don't love her.

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  • It only becomes weird, if you find yourself liking the thought of your girl all up on another guys junk.
    Forgiveness is a very powerful thing and if more people could be like this, the world we be a much better place.
    Yes my friend, we all Fk up at times but hopefully she has learned from it and will now wholeheartedly commit herself to you.

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    • The more I think about it the more I actually do get turned on by it I'm not sure why

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    • Ok, so you're saying that you'd be perfectly ok with and even seriously turned on by watching the woman you love and who is supposed to love you, getting nailed by some other dude?

    • I actually think I kinda am

  • Yes. Most of the time it shows a lack of self-respect. Most likely she will keep doing it because she is going to see you as a pushover.

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    • Yeah she pretty much knows I won't do nothing about it

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    • @Wally48 I am on the small side and I have a hard time keeping an erection

    • Your story just freaked me out. The issue here is much more about you giving up on your libido and your dick than it is tolerating her cheating. Your are far too young to give up on having a normal healthy sexual relationship. It's one thing for a 70yo guys dick to quit and call his sex life over, but you realistically cannot spend another 35 years living like a cuck. And with the attendant emotional degradation, you might wind up with some kind substance abuse problem due to the pain. Please, please work every medical, dietary, and exercise solution. And talk the situation over with a counselor.

      And being "on the smaller size" is simply not a good excuse. I had a lifetime friend, named Mark that was handsome, witty, a total fuckboy and an absolute rock star in bed. I know this because his ex's came crying to me when he dumped them. Mark was 4" ALL UP. And I know that because I had to endure his fucking girls 6 nights a week in our little dorm room. Good Luck!!

  • You have the same problem many guys have. You aren't confident of your ability to get another girlfriend; a better girlfriend so you'd rather stay with a cheating girlfriend and have a girl to be with regularly. Problem is, this tells her it's ok so she'll continue to believe she can get away with it and lose respect for you as well.

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  • No offense but it's stupid. You're not stupid but the fact that you're not leaving her is stupid. Think about it: she valued you as much as you valued her then why would she cheat? Maybe you're a Nice Guy this may seem alright to you but I'm telling you now. If you leave her now you're gonna be better off later and if she really wants you back she'll be desperate.

    Don't be afraid ask for real and honest advice bruh.

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  • I mean, it's because you've got a lack of self respect man. In your eyes, you're probably just happy she hasn't left you, which she pretty much has. You need to stand up for yourself. You can do better, you just need to try.

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  • If you have some side gfs yourself it isn't. But if you are this zero self respect loyal cuckold, I pity you.

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  • I'd reevaluate what you want out of the relationship and if you're not just afraid of being along or don't have enough confidence in yourself in general. Not trying to sound condescending, but really just thinking you should give that some thought. Why would you want to be with someone you can't trust? If they let you down that way, what's next?

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    • I still want to be with her no matter what

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    • Lmao Just shut the fuck up already. You were too insecure and watched too much porn. Im half and half thinking you're just a wannabe cuck and not a real one.

    • Guess I can't fool you

  • U r not weird

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    • whoever made this cringed so hard that their heads exploded

    • Yes but I did not say it is good or bad. That up to decide.

  • Yeah it's weird. You should probably check down there and see if you have any balls at all.

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  • She's not your girlfriend anymore. She belongs to this other guy. It sounds like you do too.

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  • Well if she cheated on a test its probably for better results. I mean she probably didn't study and had to pass so she cheated. No big deal, I might have cheated in a test once or twice, doesn't mean I am a bad person. Just tell her to study a little bit more so she wouldn't need to cheat. Also if its a subject you might know better than her you can help her get better.

    Much love !

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  • Bro stay away. i know u r crazy about her but its not worth it anymore. Poor girlis not getting you how good r u! So leave her u deserve somone better 🙂

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  • Not weird think of it from the other loint of view your feelings wouldn't change for her if u cheated on her and plus we all adults if someone wants to do it they will do it anyway. Nobody owns or owes nuthing its free will What matters is how u feel when u are 2geta not what they done in past or what they might do, enjoy the moment coz nuthings forever

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  • Yes 100%. You can still love her but that doesn't mean she should be allowed to get away with it bud, break up with her and do it asap.

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  • It's so amazing how so many people can so thoroughly psychoanalyze you based on such a brief statement. Keep in mind that what they say is more about them and their beliefs/expectations about a relationship than yours.

    Is it ok with you if your partner has lovers outside the relationship? Many people are... how does she feel about YOU having sexual partners outside the relationship?

    The relationship belongs to the two of you, and you both need to talk about what you want/expect/need from each other...

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  • I read how you got aroused by it. Stop watching porn, its warping your mind. This thot literally cucked you. Dump her ass and go see a psychiatrist on why you have such low self worth

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  • Not certainly weird, but if she has cheated on you, it Will probably happen again

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    • I know probably and I'm willing to accept that

  • Yes it is weird. Why are you still with this person if they have cheated on you? Have some more respect for yourself brother.

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  • There are always reasons why people cheat. If you feel like she was justified because you weren't doing your part in the relationship then its probably normal you feel that way. Try to recognize WHY she did it. Maybe you guys can work it out

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  • Dude, I understand your probably seriously into this girl, the same thing happened to me when I was away with the military. I was thinking in the same way at the time, but I was lucky as hell that she felt ashamed of what she did and broke up with me. She had already moved on by the time I was back and I was in a rut for awhile but it let me get my mind together and figure out what sort of woman I should have been looking for in the first place. She literally told me she had gotten to a stage where she just wanted to sleep around. And that's her own business, there are plenty of women who wouldn't do the courtesy of telling you that straight though or are denying it to themselves that will straight mess up your life if you don't dump them first!

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