Is my boyfriend actually poor?

When we started dating, he was giving me money every month... like 500, 600, 700 euros. Taking me on trips and shopping. Even though I work. Now he gave me his card. I don't plan to use it. I told him it's stupid and makes me feel uncomfortable. He is planning a vacation for my birthday. It will also be one year since we started dating.

But he quit on the idea of buying a new car. He sold his old one and he told me he has to get used to public transportation cause it's cheap. He also sold a building and is starting to build a new one next year. Is he just investing all of his resources in that project or is he actually a bit poor? He only has one apartment and he is basically taking care of his parents. They have their own apartment and house but their income is very small. His bro doesn't have his own place, he lives at his girlfriend's now. I didn't know these things before. Is he telling me now cause I cost him too much?
  • Yes, he is kinda poor
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  • No, he is ok
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  • He is investing in that project, he has to save
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  • He is getting poor
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  • He doesn't wanna spend that much on you anymore
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  • He doesn't really love you
    Vote F
  • Stop overthinking
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What Guys Said 13

  • Years ago there was a story about a multi-millionaire who tried to pay a shoe-shine boy with a $100 bill. The kid couldn't make change so the millionaire walked away without paying.
    The moral is that thrift is unrelated to wealth. In fact I would suggest the poor are relatively more generous than the rich, FWIW.

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    • 1d

      He was poor as a child. He grew up in the countryside with his grandparents while his mom was working abroad to send them some money and his dad left them.

  • i think he invested to much in you to make you happy and honestly if he treats you right above that you should be proud and respectful of him, i hope you are not with him cause of money and if not even if is poor, you sould be even more proud cause he tried to give you what he had and what he didn't have

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    • 2d

      I really love him, but I wanna know what future will be like... as we live in different countries, he wants me to move there at some point and I don't speak his language, it will take time for me to learn and to be able to get a job there. If he can't take care of me, we don't stand a chance.

  • He probably has money because he lives so frugality. You don't get rich living the devil may care lifestyle

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  • This is one of the shallowest post I've seen here. Ask him if it matters, and if it matters then you're with the guy for the wrong reasons and money won't make u happy

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    • 2d

      It matters for our future. I know it won't make me happy but lack of it won't make anyone happy either.

    • 2d

      That's fair enough.

  • I think you're just overthinking it. he's probably conserving some resources for his project but still trying to put into the relationship

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  • Every thing has to be balanced in life, and if you are also earning be happy and discuss with him clearly , why are u expecting too much..

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    • 2d

      I am not expecting too much.. but he wants me to move in with him soon and I won't be able to work then and I wanna know if I will have a life like now... and also I care about him... I wanna know if things are going well for him

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    • 1d

      That's a different situation , I would suggest please don't be in hurry wait a bit , till you are 100 % confident then only move ahead else held back yourself and search for new guy. It's matter of whole life for you.

    • 1d

      I agree 😊 Thank you

  • Maybe he got himself together. It's not smart to throw money around.

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    • 2d

      Indeed: meΓ± who flash money attract gold diggers

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    • 2d

      How can I know if it will be forever... 2 months ago he broke up with me... he was dating another girl and then I called him, I told him I missed him and he told me he was an idiot, he loves me, he only wants me... but I don't feel like I can trust him 100% now. And my friends are just telling me take all his money and I'm like fuck off he is a lot more than money to me...

    • 2d

      Yep. I think it would be disgusting to try to get money off him.

  • You are a gold digger taking all that money from a guy he must be thick as shit as well l would make you my submissive girl and l would be your dom daddy sir and you would have to pay me money every month as you could never ever get a daddy like me go and work for your own money

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  • why is there no option for "stop being a sugarbabe" ?

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  • maybe, just maybe, HIS money is none of your business...

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  • I think u like money.

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    • 2d

      And who doesn't? Everyone likes to live comfortably, not to struggle.

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    • 2d

      Lol now look who's talking... living off of your parents. My boyfriend is not my age. He is 35.

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      At least i depend on my birth givers, i have only them in my life.

      35? Ohh i see wats it about.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

  • Nice sugar daddy.

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    • 2d

      Yeah ^ xD
      Although there are probably better sugar daddies around.

  • He wants to show that he keeps deep trust in you and that he has faith in you. He 's ready to take responsibility.

    You should marry him as soon as possible.

    It's okk for a husband to do these things. A wife has ultimate control over her husband.

    I would like my wife to keep control of my money. I'll keep money for my expenditure with me and she can take care of rest of the money.

    It's nothing but "showing" that we completely trust the person.

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    • 2d

      And women are known as home-maker. They're​ known to keep the money safe.

      Men are usually distracted by many things because they're dynamic. So they're likely to spend more. They can spend money on unnecessary stuff.

      But women are not distracted due to static nature.

      Women usually have better understanding of things.

      So it's a common belief here in India that women are better preservers

      They (women) are called "Gruh-Lakshmi".

      Women are the centre piece of a home.

      So they're given the responsibility of keeping the money.

      Apart from this a woman is expected to control her husband. She's the one who stops her man from doing "wrong" deeds/things.

      Women are seen as powerful and influencial beings.

      So, they keep money. They keep control.

      A woman is the most important person in her family.

    • 2d

      Wow you make me like India. Interesting view on things. 😊 Maybe I'd marry him but I don't think he'll propose any time soon.

What Girls Said 1

  • What is the issue of asking him?

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    • 2d

      It's so hard to get him to talk, and we broke up for a month... I kinda don't want to start some conversation which could lead to conflict.

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    • 2d

      Do you not have any money of your own? I would not be comfortable having someone give me 700 euros monthly like I'm their sugar baby or personal escort...

    • 1d

      I do. I have a job. But if I move in with him, which he wants to be before New year, I won't be able to work anymore.

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