Why are you still single?

Have you ever wonder why are you still single?Why are you still single?

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  • @Luna1998 No point of me ever pursuing a relationship since I don't believe it will actually make me "happy", "fulfilled", "complete" or whatever you want to call it. I simply am more than 100% certain that it won't last and I think I'd only become even MORE MISERABLE AND UNHAPPY if I ever did try and then end up all back to square one when it's all over, as that is MORE LIKELY to happen than NOT. THUS IT'S BACK TO EMPTINESS AND FUTILITY ONE WAY OR ANOTHER FOR ME.

    The incentives or desire to have one just isn't there within me one way or another anyway. I think the whole finding the "right" person is all hit or miss and completely random and inconsistent, entirely based on luck. It's a a bad joke. They could actually turn out to be just "right" for you for 5 years, maybe 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, etc., but NEVER GUARANTEED to be the "right" person for the rest of your life, etc. I always live by ANYTHING THAT CAN GO WRONG, SIMPLY WILL GO WRONG. Roll the dice, spin the wheel, toss a whole bunch of coins and hope they all land on the same sides. It's just very simple, if something isn't broken then there's no point in ever fixing it. If it is already fine the way that it is, then it's simply BEST TO JUST LEAVE IT THE WAY THAT IT IS INSTEAD.

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  • Oh geez... well,

    1) I'm picky. I don't want to settle for a girl I'm not physically attracted to and while I do see a lot of mildly attractive women, I rarely come across ones that really grabs my attention.

    2) I keep to myself because
    a) I'm not presumptuous enough to assume girls actually want me to approach them
    b) I lack the energy to socialize for more than a couple minutes
    c) I'm a hardcore introvert
    d) I'm not really interested in other people's lives and seldom let people into mine
    e) Any attempt at feigning interest and generating something out of nothing usually winds up being really awkward

    3) I assume women aren't actually interested in me and that anything they do is them being friendly. So while I definitely pick up on potential flirting, I write it off because I know that none of that actually mean anything.

    4) I can't connect with anyone on anything other than a superficial level. The majority of people bore or annoy me and I haven't really met a girl that can make me feel anything on a deeper level. And when I start coming close, they end up breaking my heart and a little more of me dies inside.

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  • I've been told that I'm too intense about things I'm passionate about. I'm too detail oriented and expect my partner to be able to maintain a standard that I hold towards myself. I spend too much time reading or too much time worrying about "Hippie dippie bullshit" (as someone once said) I've been told that my expecting someone to use their brainpower or be an adult "say what you mean, mean what you say" was unrealistic. And I don't tolerate disrespect of any kind so when I'm shit talked I stop giving a fuck and give the real deal of my thoughts about someone. I'm still single because I believe in equitable relationship Dynamics and I don't let these women just coast. Relationships are work and females these days just wanna be taken care of (ones I been with at least). I'm single because I'm not gonna be a slave to someone. I refused to be ordered around and barked on. I refuse to adhere to any standards my partner won't.. I'm single because I believe in traditional courtship and romance and these women out here have no clue what that is.

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  • Yes. And I can probably write a long essay on it. But obviously no one's gonna read it. So I'm just gonna make a list of some reasons.
    I never had any success with girls in school which made me hopeless.
    I'm too skinny which makes me insecure.
    I got social anxiety (self- diagnosed).
    I don't have enough finance.
    I fear intimacy due to inexperience.
    I'm 28. Too old.
    Most women are feminists these days πŸ–•

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  • Because I haven't met anyone interesting. I'd like to meet a woman who can trade one-liners and quips with me, but so far, the opportunity hasn't presented itself.

    That, and I probably spend too much time working in front of the lappy.

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  • I realized lately that with the girls who are into me, I make mistakes. Getting too sexual too soon out of anxiety, pursuing her when she should be pursuing me, or texting too much when we have only gone on 2 dates.

    That being said, now that I know these things I'll be able to keep the girls I want interested. still, im gonna stay single and just enjoy what's around me.

    I don't see myself in a relationship with a lot of these people.

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  • Never had any luck with women that I actually am interested in. I've had a few actually ask me out or express interest, but the feeling wasn't mutual sadly.
    Beyond that, I'm really picky and I don't plan on settling. I'll be single for life rather than settle for someone I didn't view as an equal or potential partner.

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    • Single For Life for the win! If settling for something less ain't gonna make you happy then what is the point of doing so anyway? Better be absolutely certain that person is gonna be "right" for you not for just merely 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, etc., but "right" for the entire duration for the rest of your life. I mean otherwise, you'd be back to square one, and probably end up losing lots of financial resources, especially if it was a situation where you married somebody and had established a family with them and then things completely went to shit and fell apart at some point later on and the only option left is a divorce. But that's just the thing. THERE ARE SIMPLY NO ABSOLUTE CERTAINTIES NOR GUARANTEES that whomever you end up with would actually be "RIGHT" for you FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

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    • I'm just too cynical one way or another.

  • Modern life is my response. We spend more time working at home and at work, that we all forget to live life. I myself am still single, and I know it's because I work too much. However, if we work less we won't pay the bills and have basic life needs, like shelter electricity food and water, met.

    In fact I have read studies that suggest most of us meet partners at work, not socialising. Haven't checked to see new trends, but a part of me hopes this is not still true.

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    • It's only true if you choose to only meet girls at work. If you spend 5-10 minutes each day to just meet 1 girl a day that's 365 girls a year you could meet and potentially date.

    • If my looks don't scare them away first πŸ˜‰

  • It's because I'm picky and don't want a superficial girl who only cares about looks. I want a girl who I can enjoy my time with rather than just being in a lustful relationship based on looks only.
    Looks are what catches someones attention, your personalty is what keeps us around. It really is that simple.

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  • Uh oh well... im not socializing enough i guess... i would like a girlfriend but im shy most of the time, and also i dont really know how to get a girlfriend besides inviting her out...

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  • I dont really wonder, why I am single, it's quite obvious.

    I am a very direct and straight forward person, not that often thinking about what I am saying. Its just not easy to spend time with me together, without me saying anything hurtful or triggering.

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  • I don't socialize.

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    • Why don't you try here, who knows maybe the person commenting be you next partner. ☺️❀️

    • I don't socialize either but there was this one guy flirting with me like MONTHS ago.. an I was to damn shy... he had the most beautiful green eyes. Oh well 🀷

    • @TheRish lmao 🀣 this isn't a dating site as people like to tell me...πŸ™„ I did meet a guy on here who was.. cool but I messed that up. But he was SELFISH any way. Fucking Taurus..πŸ˜‘

  • Because:
    -I have standards
    -Won't settle
    -Not very feminine/tomboyish
    -Introverted
    -Location. Most guys my age around here are already taken, married, or not interested
    -Wary of most men's intentions (by that I mean they just want sex or a fling and not a real relationship)

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    • Same with the introverted and not feminine part (more like im like a man though lol).

  • It's hard to find the right person. It takes a lot of effort to go out an socialize and even then, no one comes around or I don't find anyone interesting. It's hard to find someone with similar interests and be open to having genuine conversations. However, being single doesn't bother me much because I've got other things to worry about.

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  • I am single because I don't view a relationship as a necessity.
    They add value to ours lives, but they are not necessary for our lives to hold value.
    I don't let any desire to be in a relationship dictate my standards.
    If something doesn't look or feel right, then I am not going to force myself into it for the sake of having a relationship.

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    • I feel you

    • At least somebody else here recognizes that it isn't something we have to have or needs to have. But rather it's just something the majority just "wants" to have, but it is unnecessary. Best to figure out how to survive on your own anyway, to many are overly worried about the whole "dying alone" myth or delusion that if they have a partner/spouse/significant then they won't "die alone". But the truth actually is that it's nothing but a false sense of security. Anything can happen to anybody over the course of their lifetime and more often than not one partner/spouse/significant other will pass away before the other and the one that's left behind, well guess what? They're gonna be left behind to suffer and grief the loss.

  • I do, first off I don't put in enough effort lol, I'm not gonna wake up an hour earlier to do hair and makeup (cause without them I'm like a 5 but with them I go up to like an 8). Second, I don't have an interest in any of the guys I've seen. Third, I don't want one.

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  • I tried it's not that I didn't . But the ones I met were bad examples of men. And now I met very good examples I don't have the will to pursue a relatioship anymore

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    • Once the will is gone I doubt it's gonna ever return if ever. Better to just learn to live without it completely instead. Too many people rely a lot, if not, completely dependent upon their relationship for their own "happiness" or "fulfillment". But then when shit happens and that relationship eventually is all over and somehow falls apart, then so does that "happiness" or "fulfillment" too. So it's best to not rely on or depend upon ANYBODY ELSE for one's own "happiness", etc. especially not completely, like head over heels, is that how that phrase or word it? Because I forgot. All just to set oneself up for disappointments and miseries, but hey, it happens more often than not.

    • @JudgmentDay I totally agree yes

  • I'm not, but I was for several years before my current relationship. There were different reasons - didn't want a new relationship too soon after my last one, wanted to focus on other things in life, enjoy single life, and so on. And then I started developing the urge to be in a relationship again, so I opened up to that again. Still took quite a while until I met someone I felt a connection to, because you cannot force these things.

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  • Not single anymore but when I was it was because I didn't meet someone that made me wanna change that aspect of my life. I love being single coz I love my life and I'm so glad I didn't go for just any guy around. It was so worth it to focus on ME because now I crossed path with an amazing man that is not a need, its a want.

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  • Being in a relationship either leads to marriage or break up. I'm 21 I want to live life freely and spend more time on my own and be indepedant. I'll settle down when the time is right and when I find my guy best friend. But for now there's nothing wrong with being single while you're young. There's more time to focus on yourself, hobbies, school, work, family and friends. Also I have trouble trusting so it takes me a while to really be interested in a guy.

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  • I'm single because I don't know enough single people in my waking life that I am interested in. When I was in University finding guys I liked was so easy but I graduated this year.

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