Most Helpful Guys
That depends a lot on the individual person. My girlfriend and I have gone on trips where we were together pretty close to 24 hours a day for 9 or 10 days and that wasn't too much for either of us. One of my exes had trouble even going 24 hours without needing time alone.
Some people really like being with their partner as much as possible and others need more time to themselves. There's nothing wrong with either of those, but if you have very different ideas about how much time to spend together that can be a big problem in a relationship.
How much time would you like to spend with him? Were you excited about the idea of three days together or kind of nervous about it?
Have you ever taken the quiz at www.5lovelanguages.com? If not, I recommend that you do. It will tell you what things you need in a relationship. If your Quality Time score is high, but his is low that's going to be a challenge in your relationship. My girlfriend and I both have high scores and that's probably why we're perfectly happy being together almost all the time for a week or more when we get the chance to do that. My ex had a low Quality Time score and that was an incompatibility that was a challenge for us throughout the relationship and one of the reasons we split up.
It's completely dependent on you and your partner. There isn't any set time limit that's too much or too little, some people have very busy schedules and make the most of the few times they can actually see each other but it's also perfectly acceptable to want to see your significant other just about every day. You gotta remember that your partner is your *significant other* and so many people are happy to spend as much time as possible with that person simply because you're interested in them and you enjoy their company. If you feel like you don't get to see each other enough then that's definitely something you should communicate to your boyfriend!
What I find a bit odd though is that he cancelled completely because "three days is too much". Why not just only sleep over one day and still spend two days together if three seemed like too many? I'm not following that all or nothing mentality. Maybe that's an alternative you could discuss with him as well?
Most Helpful Girls
It is different for everyone, maybe he does feel an immense need for space but I personally wouldn't date a person like that bc if they feel that way still after a year together then it is doubtful you will ever actually progress to something as extreme as living together, 30 min a week doesn't really sound like a relationship either. My situation is reversed actually, I have been dating my boyfriend for half a year and ever from the beginning was very surprised at the amount of time he wants to spend with me which is basically every weekend all weekend and more if possible as long as I feel comfortable with that (he lives 1.5 h away). We are thinking of moving in together.
There is never too much time with my partner. I've had times where we spent 1-2 weeks together or only a few days and it was super fun and amazing. We started missing each other right after that. We never get bored of each other and always love to be together.
I feel like if my partner told me that a certain amount of time is too much, I'd feel he just isn't interested in me anymore. Cause when you Start living together and are married, you will literally see each other every single day. If your boyfriend can't even see you for 3 days in a row, there is a BIG problem here.