Speaking from experience, There is no excuse for cheating. If someone doesn't like their partner or likes someone more, then break up. Cheating is a concious decision, regardless of intoxication. Nobody can get that fk'd up where they forget they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, yet not fk'd up enough to still know penis goes in vagina.No matter how shit faced I got in my party years, regardless if my head was in a toilet puking my organs out, I still knew right from wrong and I never cheated, despite having a few opportunities come my way.People who use drugs and alcohol as an excuse for their cheating are just trying to hide their real intentions. And if they did it once and got away with it because you excused them due to drugs and alcohol, then they're going to do it again. There's a good chance they've already cheated before or will cheat again, even when drugs and alcohol aren't involved.Break up. They don't truly love you no matter how much they cry or how sorry they may act. The moment you buy that BS, is the moment they know they landed themselves a chump and they will keep cheating."If you know they really do love you..."They clearly don't really love you, otherwise they wouldn't have cheated. "Oh but they were really fried out of their brain and they're not usually like that. My partner is truly a nice person otherwise."Really? Who are you trying to fool?Two possible conclusions:1 - They're full of sh*t, you should have some shred of self respect left and dump them.2 - If they're the type of person who can get that out of control with drugs and alcohol to the point where they black out or otherwise have no recollection of what is right and wrong, or get so fried that they forget that they're even in a relationship with you... Do you even want to be with someone who is so easily manipulated by drugs and alcohol... Who has zero self control... Or worse, doesn't know right from wrong and therefore a dangerous risk to be around? Both physically and mentally?Look I get it that nobody wants to just break off a relationship and admit it failed and acknowledge that they just wasted months or years on that relationship. I get some will try everything they can to make it work, to the point of blindly excusing the inexcusable.But despite wasting that time on a failed relationship, and despite eventually learning and growing from that failure... Is it really better to waste even more time in your life in trying to prevent the inevitable and looking like more of an idiot later on... Like I did?
I think many of them are not pretending to be sorry, they are sorry after they did it because they know that is a shit move and they lie to themselves that they love the person and it won't happen again. But it will. That is not love, thay are just used to that person always being around, they have grown on them therefore are afraid to be left on their own again, but still they don't love them and continue this circle of self lying and cheating.
Drinking and drug use are conscious decisions that should be made with awareness of the potential consequences, and a person should always be held responsible for their actions while under the influence.
God forgives all of your sins, does he? So yes, you forgive them. But that doesn't mean you stay with them. Have more respect for yourself. A changed person changes and never does them again. All the more reason not to have sex before marriage and risk marrying somebody who is going to be unfaithful to you. A husband who does that owes me a divorce. If a person really loved you, they wouldn't cheat. They would just end the relationship.
I'd be able to forgive my partner if he kissed another girl while being drunk. Even though that's still cheating, if he actually apologizes and feels bad about it, I could forgive him. it is less bad than if he had sex with the girl. Now that's unforgivable. No matter if he was drunk or not. Drinking is a choice. And everyone knows that they can't control what they do when drunk, so why drink to the point of getting drunk?
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Kissing, maybe. But having sex? Never. It's a conscious action and requires an actual effort. If he could fuck, he wasn't that drunk/high. Unless he was SO HIGH that he was actually raped. Bur I'm not sure if he could even get a boner if he wasn't conscious?
Just because they love you doesn’t excuse the fact they made a choice to be with someone else. Being high and/or drink doesn’t make you a different person nor does it change your relationship status so if that person can consume without “forgetting” then they shouldn’t do drugs
If they truly loves you then they wouldn't do such a thing, who knows they are trying to make intoxication as an excuse behind their intentional cheating, just ask them to quit the bad habit and see if they ever cheat again, and see how long they goes with words also notice their behavior.
Depends on the drugs, but I'm not great at forgiving.Having had some experience with drugs I wouldn't say they make you want to cheat, except for ecstasy, but that makes you feel love not lust, also it gives you pilly willy so you couldn't have sex no matter how much you wanted it.
Being drunk or on drugs shouldn't make you forget that you love someone. If a person decides to cheat under the influence, they were still the ones making the decision. Being messed up isn't an excuse.
When you are drunk you don't lose control over your actions or feelings, you don't just forget that you love someone. If he/she cheats in any state it just means they don't love you because you would not deliberately do something when you know that it will hurt the one you love, no matter the temptation.
Nein.Why put yourself in that situation in the first place? This is a lack of personal responsibility and I don't want the lack thereof in a girlfriend.Cheating determines that the person, who got cheated on wasn't loved. There is infatuation however.
Any cheating is bad. If you can't handle drinking then don't drink but don't use it as an excuse for cheating.
I would only forgive them if they promised never to drink or do drugs again, and even then the trust would be broken, if they truly loved me that must they wouldn't have done it, even under influence.
If my partner gets drunk or drugged and does something stupid, she is on really fucking thin ice already. Add cheating to that and her chances of staying in my good graces are near-zero.
Sure. Provided they never touch one sip or one smoke or anything ever again. Not even a taste. Lol they will never agree to it. If it really was the alcohol they would say fml i better never do it again. But since they won't they know it was their fault and won't feel its "fair" they can't partake something that is ACTUALLY unrelated to their cheating. Its a great test if you are too in love and need to prove it to yourself.
No, if you can't hold your liqueur and you get so sloppy drunk that you cheat then that is still on you. There's no excuses for drinking and driving, everyone knows it's wrong by now so everyone should know it's wrong to cheat even when you're drunk.
Cheating is cheating. No excuses and never a mistake. Being drunk or high on drugs is self inflicted and never an excuse.
Why... that's a nieave cruch to be leaning on that Evans it's ok to let them cheat ok you only when there under the influence... hell tf no. If they have no self control over alcohol or drugs... why do u think they'd have self control over not cheating on you when there messed up and its happened b4. Its toxic
The big issue is the person getting drunk or being on drugs. That has to be fixed, regardless if they make inappropriate advances on so in such a state or not.
No, usually we maintain our senses to a certain degree. My mom use to say that drunks do and say what they really want, I thought she was kidding until my ex girlfriend did that.
Intoxication isn’t an excuse. The only difference drugs or alcohol would make for me is that I’d probably punch a guy who tried to pull a move on me instead of simply telling him off.
They proved that you are more yourself when you're drunk because all things you try to hide while being sober are out in the world. So I could forgive a kiss but no way I would forgive sex...
Cheating is still cheating regardless of weather they are under the influence or not. If person cheats once, there is always a strong chance that they will do it again even if they promise not to.
I think that even when someone is drunk these decisions didn't come from nothing maybe the intend was there and the partner being drunk sparked the whole situation of cheating. So no.
If they do it once, probability is they will do it again :/
No. If you throw morals out the window under the influence of a substance, you shouldn't be taking it.
Unforgivable under any circumstance, People should stop making excuses for disgusting cheating cunts.
If they really do love you... then they should know to slow the fuck down since it ain't your thing.
This is why its retarded to go to bars or clubs when you are in a relationshipNothing ever good comes from drinking. They shouldn't be forgiven
If you did it while you were drunk, you thought of it when you were sober.
Truth be spoken.
Booze and drugs only heighten what's already there.And wronged women desperately want to believe them.You just hear what you want to.
Of course they can be forgiven. Then NEVER do those drugs and alcohol ever again and I mean NEVER EVER EVER AGAIN.
You need someone better. If they can't drink responsibly and if they're abusing drugs, they need to be better for you. If he / she isn't willing to change, he / she can get lost.
My ex that’s in rehab was drunk when he cheated on me and even though I’m worried about him I don’t know if I can forgive him
I would say, it might be, if it the drunkeness was that bad and it happened once, but it would be a forgive but not forget kind of thing. She would really need to feel sorry for it
that's some straight up teenage bs. oh hell no. dude needs to get his life together. ain't no forgiving. nigga, you're childish
I have a very forgiving heart. Wouldn't take him back though. 💙😇 Like I love you but I'm leaving.
they shouldnot be drinking so much and doing drugs in the first place
If they “really loved you” they wouldn’t have cheated
"drunk and on drugs"Ha! That alone would make me question the relationship. Nope.
Which is more important to you: justice or being with them?
I can forgive them but I can't be with them after that especially if it was sex.
I’m seriously going to be honest. I have gotten blackout drunk and never thought to do anything remotely cheating on someone. I have made really dumb decisions like breaking my ankle, but I’d rather that than breaking my girls heart. I don’t get the stigma of “you can control yourself when you’re drunk.” I party pretty damn hard, and I was always able to control myself. Always. Never once found myself not being able to say yes or no. You have to get a grip on yourself and it’s very possible, even at blackout stage. But it might just be me. But because I can do that so well, I say no. Cheating is unforgiving. It’s never an accident. It takes a processed thought. And you take time to prep before the action to say no. So yeah, I would say it’s unforgivable.
Thats one opinion. and you probably party with the wrong people... party right? you just hear stories the next day.
I party with good people, sometimes my ignorance makes me wrong people haha. But when it comes down to the safety of me, my friends, their relationships, and same with strangers, then I tend to try and help steer people is the right directions.
I couldnt forgive a partner who got drunk and took drugs without me
No matter what they were on at the time they don't deserve to be forgiven.
Even worse. They are a Thot and a drunk/ junkie. Fuck that
Nope. He choosed to get drunk so he has to live with the consequences me leaving him
They won't get any forgiveness from me, whether they deserve it or not
Well, maybe I would forgive a kiss but definitely not sex
If they love you they won't get themselves in those situations
there is no excuses in cheatingonly politicians would disagree with me ;p
I wouldn't forgive her, only if she won't do drugs again. Becasue drugs are a red flag
I have cheated myself when on toxic substances. It's not good at all.. I treated my ex like shit as when your up there you think your king Kong. I messed up with it and my relationship. The question asks. Would you take them back.. It seriously is a big question as it depends on the mentality of the person and only you know if they are not going to do it again.. It's in the gut feeling? But lying about things is not what any relationship needs either with parents or friends? Specially the love of your life
I personally would unless it happens a lot or to frequently.
If they promise to stop and never do it again than maybe yeah
No even when I’m drunk I know what I’m doing. So no.
Forgiven, but dumped.
I would not forgive.Just giving them excuses.
Cheating is cheating. No excuse nessesary.
First of all they shouldn't had cheat second of all they shouldn't had gotten drunk
Cheating can never be forgiven.
Can’t be forgiven.
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