when one or both start to not bother, and neither want to waste time discussing what needs to be discussed... communication breaks down, feelings of neglect sets in... then you both drift apart and before long it's too late to go back and fix things... only then realising that had there been a sit down and a talk about what is going on and address the issues, then the place of those in the relationship are in, could have been avoided and their relationship strengthened unfortunately the answer when you are in that situation, isn't as clear.. as you don't see what is happening until it's too late, because you mainly don't want to accept that you are losing what matters the most to you
I have no idea, but I imagine it starts with excuses. Namely you going out of your way to see some one whether that be just trying to run into them, and making excuses for why your doing it, then making more excuses for why your flirting i. e. its not really flirting your joking around or its harmless fun. It then escalates from their as you make excuses for why you should go out with that person i. e. its not a big deal, your a good person and would NEVER cheat. All the while these excuses allow you to put yourself into a position where you will inevitably cheat.
this is a gem!
@anon1903 Thank you.
I guess it starts with all the things you don't have or don't do for your partner.For example, I have very small tits, and my ex was a tits man (but he claimed he likes my small tits too). And he was a fan of anal sex, which I never wanted to do (and he claimed he's okay with that too).Then he meets this blonde with freaking huge tits, who wouldn't stop talking about how much she likes anal sex. And she was after him (he refused to admit it, he kept saying that she is just his "study-body" and def not into him, but I knew better!). Well what do you know; I caught them fucking on our kitchen table.
I can only hope it wasn't anal or you may need to replace your table, not just your ex.
Flirting is only part of it. The main reason it happens is because one or both of you are not getting your needs met in the relationship. When you start flirting a little too much, thats when you need to step back and evaluate why and talk to your partner.
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Depends on the person, I think some people look for opportunities to flirt and cheat while some people just convince themselves it is okay after the flirting has begun. An ex of mine was cheating on her boyfriend because he grew distant while in college but she didn't want to leave him because her family liked him. I guess from my experience with my exs, I think it starts with a feeling of being unfulfilled in some way. Tbh though I dont know too much about cheating from a personal perspective.
I'm curious about why you're asking though, I would assume because you cheated since you askes another question about cheating a couple days ago?
I think cheating starts when things fail within the couple. If communication, affection, respect and care are not there, then things go to hell and you can expect one feeling unloved and starts to cheat. I might be wrong but is just how I think this works.
It depends really, most of the time it’s innocent & then boundaries are crossed. Usually friends first , you confide in the person , thinking that they understand you better & sometimes they do. It’s what you want to believe is missing from your life. Sometimes people see it as an outlet or an escape from their hell. People think it’s so easy to get a divorce when children & finances are involved. Unfortunately it isn’t.
I don't like to get into the details of my failed marriage online, but for me it started with feeling neglected and wanting someone to talk to. There was no flirting involved at first just talking. Eventually the talking got personal and that's where the first line was crossed.
People who cheat, fear being alone. Thus they find a new partner while still in a relationship no matter the reason why that relationship isn't working anymore. They don't end it out of fear of ending up alone hence cheating is the answer.
It starts long before the relationship even begins. It starts with the mindset or personal philosophy/worldview of the person who will be doing the cheating. Their moral code (or lack thereof) tells them that cheating is okay. Because they believe in moral relativism.
for me it started with being treated like shit, falling out of love and just not being able to end it due to trying to get him to pay me back money he owed yet but 100% committed to ending it once i had that money back
I think it starts more with confiding in the other person. Like your relationship is hitting some rocks, so you want to talk through the problems with someone who isn't involved.
The person becomes unsatisfied in their current relationship... then they start lying followed by the cheating and it continues. Sad how selfish some people are SMH
When you meet someone you like but then all of sudden dream guy shows up asking out. you turn him down but you still thinking of him but then your boy friend flirt with some other girl touching her and you piss off end up cheating on him and then you feel that he is too childish and have no money. So you end up saying goodbye to him and start escorting for $$$.
falling in and falling apart. like mentioned in other opinion, making excuses to ditch current relationship indirectly and giving your best to someone else you seem to get thrill from.
however I think 40% times its their partner's fault they let it happen
Being a selfish piece of shit only really. carimg about yourself, instead of trying. to fix the relationship the selfish person will seek their desires elsewhere
I believe it starts with your mind set. You have a desire to cheat and then seek it out.. your energy attracts low life people that are selfish and will cheat too
Statistically partners who cheat do it because the relationship lacks emotional bonding and they don’t feel any real connection. It’s rarely done because someone is really attractive
A decrease in attention to you and increased frustration over petty issues.
I'm not 100% on this for sure, but I think it is like anything else. It starts as e feeling of filling a void/loss//hurtsomething missing. That thing may be very deep, not conscious. leads to temptation. an emotional connection occurs, may be unintentional or intentional putting onself in that place where they are noticed. The rest is fulfillment of the sin. I think there are unintentional "cheats" which arent' cheats. meaning... someone is imposed upon uninvited but didn't have the awareness, maturity, or strength to perceive it and stop it before it occurred. An example would be the woman that shows up in the Pastor's office, slanks her legs across his desk. That happened... luckily... he was aware of the manipulation.The Matt Lowry story would be an example not of the above... he intended, he'd bait, left the door open and welcomed it. He was functioning out of some wound that I've not yet heard is discovered or resolved.
Choosing a partner you don't love, or falling into a relationship you didn't intend to get into. If you're seeing someone for several months and they just start calling you their boyfriend/girlfriend and you don't contest, just going along with it. That's sort of falling into a relationship before you really ever considered if that's what you want.In my opinion that's someone who is more likely to cheat, far more likely than someone who consciously decided "I want to be with this person. I love them and want them in my life". If you get to know someone, fall in love and them consciously decide to get into a relationship. The chances of cheating are very very low.
That's a good explanation
Usually starts with the person being unhappy, or having an unmet emotional need, or not being satisfied sexually.
Someone gets really bored in the relationship I suppose. I don't know. Never cheated or been cheated on.
When you withdraw and stop sharing your day to day, then the gap keeps growing and extending to all aspects of your life.
The girl only wants dick and money. That means she will go and get it.
When they are always too busy, you feel ignored or forgotten, and someone else makes you feel more important. That's when temptation sets in. Beyond that, it's a matter of choices. I moved on once after several months of the girl ignoring me. Then she came back, and was bothered that I'd moved on. You can't ghost me for months, and expect me to be okay. That's like leaving lettuce in the fridge for 7 months and wondering what that smell is when you finally want lettuce. Now, those who were cheating from day one? Those are manipulative assholes.
When he isn't able to keep up with my sex drive anymore.Im bored with you, Next!
not appreciating the good in from you and being greedy.
When it doesn't take much to trigger:"You're just being insecure about my friend/best friend [of the opposite sex]"
I think cheating starts off with a simple thought: "What am I missing out on in other Women?"
This man nailed it
Never been cheated on and never gonna cheat but I would say lying.
I’ve never cheated so but I think it starts off with selling your soul to the devil then turning into a heartless ahole? There are a lot of factors that could lead into cheating. I’m sure most people flirt to state the initial attraction to the other person. So it has to always start off with flirting. I don’t think people walk by each other without knowing the other is there, and immediately engage in intercourse out of nowhere (it’s probably happened at one point.) But I would say it starts off with flirting. Innocent or not.
Is naive to think someone cheats for the same reason. Cheating can originate from several things, overall from fear.
Well it usually starts with a brain-dead or manipulative individual that finds a person that interests them more.
it starts off when they are borncheaters are born, not bred
It usually starts with her getting fat and a hotter chick walking by when I have a beer.
😂😂😂😂😂The one rule my mom taught me, when you decide to get fat your man deserves to leave you!
@SexyAshh what a smart thing to say to your daughter! 😂
@justcallmealy and then i got a degree in nutrition and personal training and health is my life. I dont believe in getting fat. My mother is 60 and looks 30, because she has always kept up with her looks. I appreciate all of her advice👍
@SexyAshh This wasn't a nutrition issue lol. You're just talking about your own fitness issue but I couldn't care less LMAO
With the looking, and then the talking and then you know...
If your girlfriend always say no to your request guys usually try to get what they need out site of the relationship even if he love his girlfriend
What a lame excuse! If you no longer care about this girl just break up. So many cowards... Jeez!
I don't know mine's just bitching and nagging all day so much cheat on her the first chance I get
someone doing something they shouldn't. people sometimes.. how they can have the thought to not do right...
or what he said, but the thing to do I would say is if you wish to be with someone else then nicely be honest to the one you're with now i guess I don't know
Yea you know as kids your mom always says before yelling at you or whooping you if you would have been doing what you were suppose to be doing or if you wasn’t doing something you shouldn’t be doing in the first place such and such wouldn’t have happened lol so yea that is the big reason. Sneaking and having outings and conversations in messages and in person with someone you know your boyfriend/girlfriend wouldn’t approve of you doing all those things with usually leads to it. Innocent flirting and constantly innocent liking of someone’s pictures usually Leads to many innocent face to face “friendly” dates and that leads to the not so innocent bed lol and it’s a mess from there.
I dont like the s-x or kissing, but I still want a marrage in life. I dont like making love all that much, but I would love the s/o every day
Flirting is a common way that it starts, but not always. Especially now, in the internet age.
Lack of interest or boredom. So it requires a lot of discipline and self control, as well as trust.
Finding parts of women that your current woman doesn't have, bigger boobs, ass, nicer body etc
Thats why women need to keep up to date👏👍
Can be both ways flirting that over time becomes more or outright listing from the start for another
Generally with dissatisfaction with partner/ mental pressure/
When a polyamorous starts a monogamous relationship
It's more than that but starts with flirting attracting without notice
Cheating starts with a C 😁
Selfishness on the part of one or both.
Well the lying is when they’re already cheating or have already cheated usually lol I mean before they actually get in bed with the person and kiss them you know intimate things like that, what usually leads to that?
Oh I see. Okay so my ex started standing me up for dates. Just no call and no show which is weird. He started leaving me on read on my text messages. Eventually we didn't talk for three months. I refused to contact him anymore. And when finally remembered his "girlfriend" I had moved and basically asked him to just come clean because we are never getting back together and he fessed up. Hope this helps. These were all my red flags and why I walked away wayyy before he admitted it.
A friend of mines experienced the same signs. I had warned her but she didn’t believe me until she saw the signs for herself. He just kept acting weird when around her, every time he got up to leave he took his phone with him. Always coming up with an excuse to why he couldn’t see her or hang out or go out on a date. Declining her FaceTime calls and then texting her with some weird excuse. Then just acting distant but what’s funny with her is that it’s been almost two years, he did end up leaving her for who he cheated with, she ended up finding out and with who and when she did he flipped the script and left her for the girl, almost two years later, he has gotten the girl pregnant, flaunts how happy and ready he is to be a father even has the ultra sound as his profile picture and got engaged to her but my friend has shown me messages of him telling her he misses her and loves her and how he still wants to be friends lol. she doesn’t think much of it though, just ignores it. She hasn’t been messy with posting screenshots or anything just sees how the tables turned lol.
Omfg that's crazy 🤯
u never know how this may start
Someone is unhappy but doesn't want to be single
I think its then trying to find another lover
When the other person doesn't feel appreciated
When she starts messing with somebody else.
flirting or eye contact
Disinterest in your partner.
Also, lack of commitment.
Don't know never done it
Definitely started with flirting
I'd say looks
Hiding things from your partner.
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