You know a bitter tongue is a bullet slung it'll shoot some people down. And a gentle word though it's seldom heard can wipe away or frown. So if you don't have nothing good to say Don't be a Dick keep your mouth closed.
I dislike sugar coating things. Im gonna be honest and if you feel that's abusive then you can leave. Everyone Im like that with actually says it helps.
I think I’m the moment, they might motivate that person but in the long run it will cause great harm and self doubt
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How many times you been called a bitch and said " I'm going to better myself now."No ma'am 😃
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NO definitely not. You are simply creating a fear by using abusive words & this breaks down the other partner's self esteem and self worth. Abuse of any kind is toxic and extremely damaging.
No that’s out right abuse.I had a boyfriend who emotionally abused me it did motivate me to do better, finding someone better than him.
Very rarely. Most always it makes a person feel awful.
Abusive words by definition are not good. If the person is very strong mentally and emotionally they may be able to handle it and even respond. I would say for 9/10 people this is not the case though. Do not use abusive language on anyone... Not your partner, your friends, your enemies, no one.
A negative words, never give a positive result. So I’m short - no never. If you want to motivate someone you give them words of encouragement that will lift them up.
I was in an abusive relationship myself and no, abusive words definitely make you feel shitty not better or more motivated. It definitely pushed me towards harming myself. If anything it motivates you to get the hell out of the relationship.
Not very effectively. I don't think it works with family, children, or lovers. And it's not just abusive words themselves, but it includes even otherwise non abusive words used in a habitually abusive connotation/tone.
Definitely worse. If you yell at your partner that he is ugly and a loser every day, eventually he will believe it and think that of himself as well.
Different people have different results. But abusive words isn't a good way for motivation. Especially some sensitive and self-abasement guys may be hurt and hate you.
Its negative all around if your partner puts you down its a toxic relationship move on. No one should be abused in anyway.I was bullied all my life. Words hurt the most.
Yes. You are absolutely right. It helps your partner to do better... by picking up their shit and leaving you.
This is a joke, right? Abusive words have absolutely no place in a relationship. You are supposed to encourage your partner, not make them feel inadequate.
It character specific. Some need negative, some positive motivation. You can't just make a general assumption here
I think abusive words only result in a guy or girl doing worse.
They can't motivate, only instill fear and loathing.
Great way to tear them down and send them a one way ticket to lifelong useless therapy
Please break up with whoever is doing this to you. So sad.
It makes them be better, but not for the right reason
Sometimes, but it’s more than likely just going to upset and discourage them.
Honesty is important and sugar coating is not honest. You can be honest without being abusive. No room for that on any level in a relationship
Abusive words Never helped anyone they will make people feel more insecure even if you said it jokingly. That's why I sometimes even think if I should joke or no
Why need to joke with abusive words 😅 do with funny 😂
Being harsh on someone can work. I have some confidence in my judgement. When I really hate a service and Google it for others' reviews they often turn out to be one or two stars out of ten (for example Airbnb customer service uk 1.3/10) But this is true with the good as well. There was this travel company I loved them, so I asked if I could give them a review somewhere. They sent a trip advisor link. They had 476 excellent and 4 good reviews out of 480. So if I get ape shit on someone usually I have the support of the surrounding, cus they think the same, just want to avoid the conflict. When one feels that someone represents the public opinion and it isn't favourable it can open eyes.But you asked about a partner. And that kind of things meant to be private. That means no public opinion just one on one. That isn't working.
No I can say from experience that this type of abuse can really change you. It hurts a lot more then bruises n it last a long time
It really depends on how strong (emotionally/mentally) that person is
I wouldn't call them abusive words, id call it brutal honesty.Yes they do in my opinion.
I think there's a difference between brutal honesty and abusively telling the truth to your partner.
I think there needs to be a mixture of both to get the point across. Its how i was raised and im fine with it. Plenty of friends have gotten really upset, then thanked me later for it
The most important thing is that the truth is said.
The truth is the truth. Brutality is what you add to it. In my experience, being mostly "brutal" without a positive, solution based approach doesn't work. Not that that's what I think you're saying but I'm just clarifying.
That is what im saying and it works. I dont need someone else to confirm👏✌️ thnks
Oh okay. That last part would make more sense we were trying to serve you 😂
Nope. Makes me loose interest and motivates me to get rid of them.
it be worse cuz people always hate mean words no wants bad words said it's like saying the pants make you look fat
It might all depend on a person's ability to cope with a negative environment. Funny, sometimes people are actually better of in a ineperfect situation in order to over come/ manage a mental health problem.
Nope find another way for motivation if you care about someone u don't do that. If they harm themselves then it can be on you.
You can not sugar coat things and not be abusive. Basically constructive criticism.
No. It definitely made me worse and abusive myself.
Absolutely not. It's abuse the clue is in the term.
Is abuse good? No. Is abuse useful? Not in a healthy relationship
It depends on the receiver, some will get better and some will get worst
No, I don't. Abusive language will do the exact opposite of that.
For some yes, it can be motivation but for others it can be a killer of self esteem .
negative reinforcement CAN work, it's all about dosage
Even if it does, it's still a bad thing.
I don't think they help or motivate anyone, ever.
Worse... abuse is the worst kind of motivation.
It's only a negative thing. Never do this
I think that’s what a friends for, not a partner.
Get up on his feet and leave your ass
It will make it worse
abusive words never help anyone!
It motivates him to kick you to the curb.
It depends on the person
Mean people suck that's a direct order!
It usually discourages them.
Worse cause I would just shut down.
Sometimes its called tuff love
Abusive anything can motivate anyone to do worse.
It motivates me to leave!
For some people they help, for others they don't.
They can, but at what cost. You may achieve the desired goal but shatter the person in the process.
Abusing someone you supposedly love is not good, you will only create instability, insecurities and anger in that person and within the relationship.
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