Interesting question, since I've heard both statements countless times and they seem to conflict.Ultimately though, it really depends on what it means to "strive to be the best you can be." I take that as a statement suggesting one needs to constantly improve on their self to try and increase their worth in whatever facet, whether in relationships or whatnot.If we define it as a strive for improvement, I'd argue that it's not necessarily that one has to be the "best [he/she] can be," but rather, it's more accurate to suggest one should be the "best [he/she] *wants* to be." The key difference of wanting, as opposed to meaning, implies a person can stop aiming for change to be the best when he/she wants to. Naturally, the aiming for change is category specific, meaning one may want improvement in one area but not another. Taking into a dating perspective, if someone feels like they aren't getting the attraction they want, they should seek ways to improve their self to increase their mating value. (This is as opposed to making complaints about life being unfair, playing victim, or whatnot.) There should be a question asked of how to have a more positive mentality or approach to make proactive changes or clean up an act. However, if one is attracting who he/she wants, I don't think there is a necessity to become a better person. In that scenario, it's perfectly fine to just be the way they are. It doesn't have to be a specific or explicit want for change, but sometimes, aiming to complete a goal or something else indirectly implies the want for self-improvement.Now, there are some exceptions to my argument. Specifically, if one is doing something that is a negative/toxic behavior to their self or others, their should be a goal to change said behavior and reform. For example, if someone is being super abusive to their partner, it's not like it makes it ok if the abuser internally justifies his/her behavior. Being abusive is clearly not the best one can be, and for something like that, the want to be the best he/she can be turns more into a need.
EDIT: as opposed to *needing or having to [...not meaning]
Very good answer... and the bourbon in me will expand on your diagnostics of the question at hand! I look at it like this. When two people meet and they hit it off and then fall in love... are they essentially fine the way they are... or should they keep striving to be the best they can be? If they should strive to be the best they can be when is does it stop? When are they the best they can be?
The answer is obvious. Who couldn't stand some improvement, whether it be physically, intellectually or emotionally? Life is all about learning and improving.
Who couldn't stand some improvement,No No No No That is not what the question is! You might want to read it again!
I my mind, being "the best you can be" means continuing to improve. For example, the best musicians in the world strive to continue improving. The best minds in the world strive to continue learning. How could anyone be fine the way they are? That would imply being static. Maybe I'm still reading the question wrong. Are you simply talking about accepting yourself for who you are, as in not beating yourself up for not being perfect?
I think everybody should work on self improvement unless they are old and just focused on staying alive but I don’t think a man or woman should ever hate themselves for being poor or for not being their definition of attractive. As an example I always try to look better but I don’t hate myself for not looking like a Victoria Secret model.
You have to strive to be the best you can be. The best thing you can be is continuously evolving as a person.
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I've already attained perfection s so there's nowhere else to go. It's you lot that need to catch up.
Can't argue with that! Love the confidence!
I think you need a healthy mix. Too much of "you're fine the way you are" and you'll do nothing to better yourself in any way, leading to stagnation and mediocrity.Too much of "you have to strive to be the best you can be" and you'll constantly believe that you're not good enough, leading to low self-esteem and insecurity.
I think striving to be better is more motivating. No-one is perfect so it is good to reflect on ourselves and who we are and work at becoming better in all aspects.
Depends on which is more important... I need to develope more self discipline as far as life goes. If someone is pestering me about my body fuck off🤷🏾♀️I’m fine as I look, but I need to strive for the best me to improve who I am.
I don't think they necessary contradict each other. I think "You're fine the way you are" mean you don't need to change your personality or what you are passionate about, and "You have to strive to be the best you can" could just mean be the best version of yourself
Obviously, we all have limitations, but if you don't strive to be the best version of yourself, you won't be able to know where these limitations fall.Bottom line: You gave too strive to be the best you can. Every professional knows that you have to undergo continuous training, and keep up with new advancements in your field.By telling yourself that you are fine the way you are, you're denying yourself the opportunity to be better.
You may be fine the way you are but that doesn't mean you should strive to be the best you can be. Do you think professional athletes ever stop trying to improve. They're more than fine the way they are. Yet they want to be the best they can be so they continue to try and improve.
I think it's somewhere in the middle. I think you should be accepting of who you are and where you're at. However the day a man stops trying to better himself is the day a man should go outside dig a hole and start burrying himself.
A little bit of both. You strive to do better but you stop to acknowledge how far you've come.
Depends, is the reason I want to better myself for a person I like, or am I just bettering myself for the sake of it? Before I started being more social & met women I was interested I was content with who I was, now I see my flaws so blatantly now that I've met women & want to date them.
strive to be the best you can be, unless it's something you can't control
nobody is fine "the way they are." you can say this to a high school dropout or a drug addict, and they won't believe you. everyone can be better, of course. but i suppose at one point, you have to be content with who you are. for instance, if you've worked your ass off to get a promotion and you're making 80-100k a year, i think "you're fine the way you are" makes better sense in this case. but if you are not content with yourself and you know you're capable of more, by all means, strive for more. i know when i've reached my limit. hell, it would be unrealistic for me to say i'm going to become prime minister in the next 5 years. i'm barely out of school. it's all about being realistic, and setting attainable goals.
People are at their best when they strive to be more.
Depend on you if you're happy the way you're then stay like this but if you want to better yourself then just do it. Personally I prefer to better myself.
I want to strive to be the best I can. I'm mostly fine with what I am, but that does not mean there is no room for improvement
This is tricky. We should all strive to do our best but many of us get depressed if we fall short ofour goals (despite being better off than not trying at all)
They're not mutually exclusive. Everybody has things they can improve about themselves. That doesn't mean you suck as you are now.
Why are you even alive if you just want to be a sack of potatoes? Be the self you’d be proud of when looking back when your about to die.
Both, in a way, kind of sorta. You strive to be the best you can be, and have to be fine with that result.
Good, better, best. Never let it rest. Till your good is better, and your better is best.
You have to strive my dear... Try to be better than before
I think everyone is fine as they are but we should constantly pursue our passions to blossom into the best people we can be.
Be yourself but become a better version of yourself. Focus on your mission, purpose and drive.
Both just one implies being grateful and one implies continuous self improvements
"Man is something to be surpassed, what have you done to surpass him?" Nietzsche
Striving to be the best sometimes is more difficult then you think.
l am good the way l am l only strive to find a nice girl to date
If everyone was fine just the way they are, there wouldn't be criminals.
Strive to be the best for you. Not anybody else but you
There is no "more true" statement. That's not how truth values work.
Strive to be the best 💙🖤💜
Strive unless you are a depressed alcoholic.
Be the best for sure
You should always try to improve your life
Vote B for sure.
Be the best you can be
Strive to be the best and always give it your all
See poll lol
Never stop striving.
Depends coach, depends..
To be the best you can be
The second one.
Never be satisfied and always try and be better.
What's life without improvement?
The first. Nobody HAS to strive to be their best
I don't want to change.
We should always try to improve, to learn, to grow. :)
I feel like you should be the best you can be but don’t change for anyone else. You need to be happy with yourself
OPTION B) for sure.
B ahahah I dunno why It did that
Definitely the second. Most people are most definitely NOT fine the way they are. We all have things we need to improve. Pretending otherwise does us NO favors. The "your problem here" positivity movements that have become so fashionable are just a load of crap.
It depends on the way a person is. Some people are fine the way they are. Some aren't. We should always strive to be the best we can be, just like it says in Smashword's book "Woman to Women".
so what does best mean?
As a guy, if you want to stay single you're fine the way you are.If you want to be attractive you have to strive or face rejection a lot.
Props... good answer!
Even if you are fine the way you are, if you're not trying to be the best you can be in some way, you're just being lazy and cheating yourself. It's definitely more true that you have to be your best
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