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Nope, not in the sense that anyone means it. I believe in initial attraction followed up by true love in the future but you cannot truly love someone if you don't know them well enough to know HOW to love them. Love is an action and a behavior, not just a feeling. If you don't know enough to properly act on your "love" it isn't truly love.
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There is instant chemistry, attraction, cannot take eyes off each other, meet hesitant, chatted and a few weeks later we kissed. End of story married for more than 20 years, still walk holding hands, hug lots, spend time with each other, regardless of kids, we have everything we need. When old friends see us together they ask are you two still on 'honeymoon"
If you "love" someone before you even know their name, what is it that you love?
That's a good question
An idea you created in your own head
@houseofmince I'm curious to see what her answer will be
@Just_a_human @houseofmince Obviously, I don't believe in love at first sight. I do believe that people can feel an attraction at first sight but that is lust, not love. Falling in love means that you know someone, you are familiar with their strengths and weaknesses, and you want them in your life forever. If you want someone at first sight, that is obviously based solely on physical appearance, and to call that reaction "love" seems to me to be a great insult to the real meaning of "love."
@OlderAndWiser Okay yeah, that does make sense. I admit, I’ve never thought about it that way.
It's called true love.. aka Unconditional love.
@Mikael818 What is called "true love?"
True love means unconditional love.
@Mikael818 Yes, I already knew that. How does that relate to the prior discussion?
Their gender... Gender only.. not beauty, personality , money or anything.. Only gender... I love women.
Thanks for MHO!
People place the personalities they created into the bodies they liked and call it, love.
@Mamamialetmego Yes, it's all a fantasy!
Sad for you that you never met your other half. Not all are that fortunate. Have to be picky, never took out any women that were not attractive, beautiful and intelligent with good bodies. My wife looks after herself, cost lots of money, so what, I walk the streets with her by my side proudly.If you are just looking for sex, find a few one-night stands, one night stands will not work in the long term. I would keep wondering how many hundreds of other men had sex with the person I am with.
@Badballie how is this relevant to anything that they said?
You ruined it
@lilblue Many fantasies get spoiled as you become an adult.
I believe in lust at first sight but I don’t think you can love someone at first sight, because they might look wonderful but they could turn out to be a jerk.
I don't. That's infactuation until an actual connection with the person has been established.
Of course not. If you can love someone without knowing them even, your love must be incredibly shallow and superficial. To love someone you have to know them. I do believe in lust at first sight though.
Yes, but some love blossoms gradually
I certainly believe that love at first sight is a real thing. Only because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean that others haven't. And love is a conscious choice. You can certainly choose to unconditionally care for someone and want to be a part of their life, at first sight. And that's all you have to know. It's possible. Even if it doesn't make a lot of sense it is possible and everything in life doesn't have to make sense anyway.No one just stays still like a mannequin or painting model. When you see someone they are probably doing something that reflects their personality and vibe. And one can certainly fall in love with the person that they see.A mind coach on social media rephrased love at first sight as "Love at first vibe" and I love this phrase so much. It explains in the simplest way that love at first sight isn't just looking at someone on the outside.
It's not logical to fall in love with someone you don't know anything about except that you love the way they look. I guess superficially you can love at first sight.
@PinkMichae Firstly, everything in this world doesn't have to be logical. People need to stop throwing around this phrase to everything acting like anything that they don't find logical enough isn't the right thing to do or whatever. Secondly I already explained why love at first sight isn't simply loving how the person looks. Sure, a person can just be attracted to someone's looks, but I don't count that as love. That's not love.
No offense. I just find it odd to think you can love someone you know nothing about. Do you not think love at first sight means loving someone the first time you see them? Not knowing them, their name or anything but that first sight appearance? Or do you define it differently? I really want to understand where you are coming from. The only love at first sight I can understand is when a parents child is born. That would be love at first sight. But romantically I don't understand unless you define it differently then me.
@PinkMichae I already explained it. You don't just love someone without knowing them. When you look at someone you are looking at them doing something that reflects their personality. And a someone can can fall in love with the impression that the person is giving off.
Thanks for trying to make me understand.
@PinkMichae I tried 😅 I hope I could explain at least partially if not fully. The main thing is that one doesn't just fall in love by someone's physical appearance (that's lust not love).
That's exactly why I don't believe in love at first sight. I do believe you can quickly love a person even in a day. I felt that way with my current man. Like this instant love driven by such a strong connection. But it took spending the day getting to know him that sealed the deal and my heart was hooked. So I guess I believe in love at first meeting. Lol!
@PinkMichae love at first meeting is also a real thing!
That I can get on board with.😉
I believe some people are capable of making our bodies secrete the hormones associated with "love at first sight"; but biochemically speaking, it's an illusion. As a previous commenter said, love is an action and a choice, not "chemistry" (although chemistry should be a component of falling in love)
I looked at your profile pic... it wasn’t love at first sight. Sorry lol 😋But I think it’s possible. I think people put these strict rules on love. Like, love on first sight only applies if you get married and stay together for 90 years. That’s a bit extreme.I think it’s possible to love someone for a day. Or a week. Or 3 months. Doesn’t mean it isn’t real.
No. I think thats impossible. I think lust at first sight which develops into love. I mean you dont look across a pub or wherever, see a guy/girl and say "i love him/her"... love is based on personality and that can only be determined by interaction over time.
Gotta feel the magic, the chemistry the twitch in your penis, etc, won't find that in a pub. Anyone who goes to the pub to find the love of his or her life is cuckoo. One night stands yes, but the next morning when you realised who you slept with, should put you off one night stands forever. Online dating is creepy, for those desperate.
No I don't. I believe that is where it starts though. Pulling each other together. Most of the time you have to be attracted to each other before anything beyond friendship can occur. That being said I prefer to call it lust at first sight with the possibility of it turnint into love at a later period in time.
Yes and no because people don't think like hardly so what's the chance that you both like each other as soon you see them not very high and if that is the case there's not much chance that your both gona get along good the chance of it is very low it could be possible but highly unlikely
Love because of lust? Please tell me how that will end up in a life long engagement.
Well it happened to my parents, and they are very open about it. They have been together for over 26 years, and they’ve been married for 24 years. Plus my brother and I exist lol
I mean it does happen... it's just not based on solid ground is more gruanteed to happn. I have no argument against it except that it might be more plausible with other criterium.
I worded that all the fuck wrong.
Well its all about risk, if it is not working dont have children that makes it even WORSE. You win some you lose sum. Simple he who does not dare, is lost, some of you guys sit at a fishing hole and dont catch anything, because your line is not in the water, or you have bait on the hook. Whos fault is that?
I have seen it amongst many married people for 50 years etc my own 20 years. Look for the right kind of women. Both young ladies and young men go to his home and see how he treats his mother, the will be the role model he is used to. likewise, guys look at her mother if she is untidy etc thats her role model.. A cliche "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree"
guess it works then.
no i dont. i saw the guy im seeing now and he is not my type at all physically wise but there was something about him that caught my eye. its def not love, at first i just wanted to mess around with him bc i wasn't really attracted to him but i have fallen in love with him. so no i dont believe in love at first sight i def think there is lust like with my ex, but i think love takes time to grow
No, its impossible since you don't know that person. Deep physical attraction? Yes.By the way you have a pretty looking face. 👌
Thank you 😊
for a cool guy you are saying all the wrong things.
@Badballie: How the hell can you love someone you don't know at all? You guys must be super stupid and naive about this world.
To the contrary, I am a fully qualified counselor.
@Badballie: LOL.. ok you right.
Well, I am glad you do! Now I'll not have to turn up at front of you again to make you believe in my love😍
You’re crazy 😂
Crazy in love for you😍 mi amor 😘
Now I feel like a fool LoL 😂😭💔
It's lust. And just in case the feeling lasts, it means you've found ur match. Congratulations. Otherwise, doesn't surprise me if u loose that feelings once the butterfly effect fades..
Yes I do, however it takes more time to truly get to know the person more. Also by first sight to me it's not their beauty, but the action being carried out. Such as comforting a sibling, playing with them. Cheering on and supporting a friend.
There's no such thing as 'love at first sight', it's called lust.
Understandable. What about infatuation?
Infatuation usually happens at the start of the relationship I think, when the sexual attraction is so strong. It's different from love.
When I first saw a Scottish flag I knew from that moment onwards I would love it till the day I die.
I believe in lust at first sight and even deep infatuation at first sight, but not love.
Have you really ever truly loved? I have only once in my life my current wife.
@Badballie, yes I have. I love my wife. I had lots of girlfriends in my life. There was one that I lived with for a year. Besides my wife, she is the only one I loved with all my heart. But in the end, we couldn't have made it as a married couple. Nevertheless, when we broke up I was devastated for about a year. I never stopped loving her and never will. She moved out of the state and we reconnected on FB several years later. We spoke a couple of times on the phone. Then one day I heard that she had passed away from a sudden medical problem. The world became a dimmer place when she left it.
I am sad for you, not all men ever find that love you and I found. I am sure you love your wife, but other is special and will always be.
You can love the way they look but unless you have gotten to know someone there's no way of falling in love with all of them. They could be a totally sucky person that's beautiful and very attractive.
love is just a chemical reaction, nothing more. So yea, why not
I used to but I messed that all up and now I'm a sceptic. But even though I messed up at least she's happy now.
I believe in lust at first sight and infatuation. You can’t love a person without knowing them
It's more like infatuation, lust, or physical attraction and desire at first sight actually. All nothing but delusions and illusions.
What a boat load of movie fantasy crap.It does not get more materialistic than this.
No you can't love someone at first sight. Love is an emotion that comes over time. A very strong one once it is formed. You can feel attraction at first sight.
Ladies, ladies, ladies, gross speculation and misformed are obvious. I never believed it, till it happened to me and my wife. Few are the ones finding it because you are all looking with inexperience.
No, but I immediately liked my now-boyfriend's personality when I met him. I wouldn't call it love at that point but we did "click" instantly.
Nope I believe love isn't just this instant thing I believe that it's built over time but I've never had a love at first sight before so never know
Not first sight, maybe, but I know that you can definitely tell if they're just going to be a friend, upfront.
More like infatuation at first sight but thats just me
Attraction at first sight? Sure Lust? Yes but love? Hell no
Last time I checked, getting a hard-on doesn’t mean you’re in love with that person.
When I'm young and don't even know what "love" is, I would believe it.
I think this is more true for guys than girls since we fall in love with our eyes and girls fall in love with their ears.
No I don't think it is possible. Love is something that develops over time
The romantic side if ne says yes. The rational and analytical side says no
No cuz u can’t just fall in love with someone without knowing then. That’s basically attraction
I think you can love the way a person looks at first sight. That's it.
Romantic love? No, I don't believe in that fairy tale shit.
I believe in lust at first sight but love over time
No but I believe you can have such a strong attraction to someone at first sight that you could mistake it for love.
yES, i BELIEVE IN lOVE AT FIRST SIGHT, BECAUSE THAT WAS MY FIRST INSTINCT OF WHAT I SAW ! MAYBE MY VIEW COULD CHANGE LATER ON !
i used to believe in it, i felt it on December 16 2017 and it was an amazing feeling
Lust , attraction, obession at first sight.Love no.
You young Americans, are weird seem very superficial you want to fuck at first sight, what a lot of BS. Young culture is all flawed, caused by the lefties, want to make babies that mostly murdered, by abortion. What is so difficult, once the sperm enters the egg it starts to multiply and grow soon has a heartbeat. This is crazy irresponsible sex, just dogs on heat. It is a sex-crazed youth out there, by all means, have sex if that's your desire, use the pill and condoms. I m very strong on this all my 5 children know the day they come home pregnant or have impregnated another girl. THAT SAME THEY I THROW THEM OUT. I REFUSE TO PAY FOR THEM HAVING FUN, not my fun I have been paying for. TOUGH SHIT IF ANY OF YOU DONT LIKE IT>
@Badballie Hey there I'm unsure why you think I'm like that. Just because I'm from a certain region on map doesn't mean I align with all your preconceived notions of said region. Although I do agree that this generation is terribly broken. They equate sex with love and getting what ever they want with happiness even though it will lead to their demise.You cannot assume everyone is like that. Let people prove you wrong or right, let them tell you who they are through their words and actions (95% of their actions & 5% words). Its better to listen and watch to see how interact with people Funny how you're telling me about my whole life story after a comment that features 9 words. But since you assume so much let me correct you. I'm in my early 20's , I have never dated or even kissed a guy. I WILL be celibate until the day that I'm married this weeds out a lot trash. I'm sure if your spamming or just going on a rant or both but...In summary,You assume too muchI'm not sex crazedI'm not a leftistI'm am not the one But all in all I hope you have a good day sir (I really mean this with no animosity lol)
Wonderful I commend you, you must stay CHASTE and when you do find a husband, you will learn how to enjoy each other's bodies. You are an example to other young women around you. Once a man has taken your virginity, it's lost, perhaps to a man who wants to just to pump and dump. Men will lie and tell you how much they love then once they have had sex with you they are gone. I am a man and let me tell you, young lady, men will do almost anything to get into your panties, these days it is almost the opposite.
Nah attraction at first sight. It takes more than on look to fall in love with someone
Not anymore, I don't I need romantic love either ways.
The other person has to feel the same unfortunately lol
To love is to know. The term love, at first sight, shouldn't be interpreted as something literal.
i believe falling in love at first sightthose eyes can get you
No. Lust at first sight. Not love.
@Tyffen is it?
Yeah, I haven't thought about that 👀It makes sense tbh
yes, but again, only on a shallow level.
Yes I fell in love with myself the second I saw my reflection in my mum eyes minutes of being born
I don’t. Yes, I admire attractive young women but I don’t loose control and name it love. I can never love someone unless the character fits. This could be the most attractive woman in the world.
When you go to bed at night do you make love to a character that is 250lbs and get sick with the waves of blubber? Can you find the spot?
This has nothing to do with my point. I don’t give pretty a pass. If this person we talking about is lacking in character, she is unattractive for me. Like I said, I also do admire attractive women. I only would be further interested if I like the attitude. You go further looking for your golden ratio. You never gonna find the most perfect people with this attitude. Love on first sight doesn’t exists in my book, it’s bullshit. And I feel bad for everyone, who thinks it does. I can’t fall in love with someone, who’s name I don’t even know. If she a wonderful person, now we talking.
I am sad for you, with all that negativity, you will not be able to see those women if she slapped your face. "Seek and you will find", Become positive look for the beautiful things from a woman. You will have a lot more pleasant relationships. Be positive your stereotyping is very inaccurate. So turn your life around.
At least I know what I want mate. I’d rather dating someone cute with amazing personality rather than the superficial arrogant stunning beauty with golden ratio. I’m not a perfectionist due to not being perfect myself. Nobody is. Have a good one
Actually your point is exactly what I’m looking for. I’m looking for the beautiful things but I’m not as superficial as you.
No, Ma’am! I do not. I believe in attraction but not love at first sight.
Yes. But I also believe some people confuse love & lust lately.
Yes also i believe in santa claus, the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny
Yes but it doesn’t last for long.
I don't know, it happened to my parents and they have been together over 26 years.
No.I do not know why I just do not
That's a complete paradox to me.
Attraction yes. Love no.
I don't believe in love at first sight
Reality: Wannafuck at first site.
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