No , what would be the point of making your partner jealous for No reason and giving them insecure thoughts? all that really matters is you are turning down those passes to respect your partner , If u always told your partner that u got hit on it's going to do is make them jealous and bring troubled waters into your relationship cuz they Will think what did u do to get that person to hit on you? They will think their is something you aren't telling me. Usually the people that tell their partners they were hit on are the ones that have low self esteem about themselves. I dated a girl that always told me when she was hit on and I thought it was disrespectful considering that's something i dont do cuz i respected myself and her , i didn't get into a relationship to be single but by her telling me just Made me realize she doesn't respect me like of. respect her so i ended up just ending the relationship , Love only grows when you respect someone like you respect them. With all the cheating that goes on nowadays you're best just just to keep shit like that to yourself. Cuz if you need validation from someone else rather then yoir partner then u really shouldn't be in a relationship cuz you are only really. thinking of yourself
I don't need that, because I trust her, and I know she loves me, and she might flirt, or tease, a little, just to make him smile, when she rejects him, saying she it committed, but that wouldn't bother me either, because she comes home to me.I see what she wears, and I know she likes to look hot, and amazing, but that makes her feel good, that other guys think she is REALLY HOT, too!! So I am not, just saying that she looks amazing, because I love her! Other people say it, see it, so she feels wonderful!!Is that why women spend so much time, on their make-up, hair, and clothes, not just trusting, their Boyfriend/Husband, when he says she looks AMAZING, but having some 'rush' when others see her, and smile, and love how she looks?She wears sensible things, and even when she flirts, I know it is for her, and makes her feel good, and maybe makes some of the other women jealous!! Isn't that the best part for women?
I overall think that one must you tact and common sense. Do you have to ALL the time? I wouldn't think so. But if you can't handle yourself, maybe you need your boyfriend to chaperone you, and not get offended for a man to defend you? As a woman who gets hit on, YOU have to be responsible for your decisions and your actions. These men would not be doing that to you all the time if you take responsibility for how they want to treat you. You cannot be nice to everybody. And there are plenty of lustful creeps out there. Men should know better than to lusting and catcalling girls, it's sickening and makes other women scared of men as a whole. I don't even bother to want to be with somebody after all I've been through. And besides, telling a person who could be jealous easily may not be a good idea. You could be starting serious trouble or get somebody killed. However, if one is not like that. One should be honest with their partners about these things.
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No way, he probably doesn't want to hear about that anyway. I'd only tell him the funny things.
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It just makes my boyfriend upset for no reason. If it's just a stranger that I ignore or immidiately turn down, then I don't see the point of telling. If it's someone I know or he knows, I might consider saying something at a risk of making him feel bad.
Only if it's same person doing it regularly. Someone in their usual group that he/she ends up spending time with, at work or group friend, cause that could lead to trouble if they keep hitting on a taken woman/man. :) if it's just random then no, unless it was funny or a good story in some way.
No. And I don't want to know if anyone is hitting on him either. As long as he is faithful and not acting on it, then all it could do is cause me some unnecessary concern. I know I don't act on it either and faithful to a fault. Isn't that called trust? :)
No if I told him about every guy that tried to hit on me, he would probably go crazy. I'm not up myself or anything, but a lot of guys try hit on me at my job, on insta, Snapchat, Facebook, when I'm out with the girls etc etc. If I told him about every single one, he would get jealous whenever I would want to go anywhere. So no I don't think it's necessary
Why would you say anything and surely if someone was in a loving relationship they would be oblivious to another persons advances unless they person was giving of vibes!! Perhaps the person what’s to tell the other half of these so called ‘hot ons’ because they’re insecure?
There was a woman at my friend's wedding that followed me around the entire wedding reception and weekend. She was attractive, but it pissed me off as I had a ring on and clearly wasn't interested. It affected how i enjoyed the wedding and how I had to conduct myself. I didn't bother sharing the story as it would have stressed my SO out possibly. She probably would have liked hearing how I handled it though.
And equal partner should tell their significant other everything not wait for them to ask or find out in the future something that has happened in the past makes it very embarrassing in an awkward moment for all parties truth honesty open minded and non-judgmental
No, he wouldn't get jealous but I think he'd be annoyed unless the stories were something funny or relevant. so I just keep it to myself.
Only if it's someone that's suppose to be their friend. But I don't with strangers that hit on me. I would feel like I'm trying to purposely make him feel jealous by telling him. And I don't want to make him feel insecure.
That is my thoughts exactly. ^^
Why would you? Even when it's true and you get hit on every day by 10 different guys, don't you think it would get old after say, a week? Would you like if your SO came home and said "hey, today I saw 7 really good looking girls", "today I saw 5", etc. I'm sure your SO knows you're desirable and how men act. Bringing it up just begs the question after a while "why does she feel the need to tell me this"?
Id say yes as it keeps the relationship fully trustworthy and it makes you want to stay the same as you did while dating and not let it get stale and boring thinking you dont have to try any more... but never rub it in your partners face thats being a dick
Not unless you want to set yourself up for nagging, control or invasion of your privacy.You may be innocent but all your friends may slowly vanish or rapidly too.
I think you should simply ask Irma your SO wants to hear about it... I love when my girl tells me about other men checking her out... I love wearing my sunglasses in public watching other men (even with their SO’s) check her out... total turn on. But ask you SO first... simply communicate
Don't see a reason to tell, its not like anything will happen from itLike if they ask sure, but beside that seem pointlessI will tell if it was funny or odd how ever or creepy
I may randomly mention it to my SO. But if there are more important things to talk and dicuss about, I may not tell him at all as I don't see it as important.
No they don't want to hear about you getting hit on all the time. That being said you should tell them if someone is being super persistent or borderline harrassing so you two can work as a team to solve it.
Yes and no. Yes, so you can cover your ass, if they are together and they hit on you around them, and no because it's unnecessary trivial stuff. I don't tell every encounter to my SO because half these people I will never see again..
I usually mention it and he has told me about girls who've hit on him. Depends on the couple and situation.
You girls always worry about coming off as desperate for the wrong things (like approaching guys)... well THIS is a good example of low self esteem/desperation
Unless it's going to negatively impact your relationship with him, I think it's best not to mention it. In my experience with guys, they get extremely jealous and it might just ruin their day. But no, I definitely do not think he wants to hear that.
I talk to everyone about everyone that hits on me, especially guys im talking to.Im a hot commodity and they already know but its fun to remind them of all their competition;)❤️
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Thanks babe, everyone does;)👍
What would you do if a 6"5 250 pound black man came to hit on you? Would you run away because you feel threatened?
I dont like black men. So nothing would happen, nor would i feel threatened.
What would you do if he came up to you?
Stop asking this damn question!. Id most likely mase or taze you at this point since you ask this everyday!.
Not the majority of them. Just the ones who are especially weird, obnoxious, or funny.
No! To be quite honest if my partner was telling me he was being hot on every day its make me be suspicious as I'd think he's looking else where and trying to grab attention.
I see no obligation to do so. But I tell my lady anyway if a 'hit'-attempt had been somewhat serious. But it does not happen often - I communicate clear enough that I am not 'on the market'.
Eh I’ll tell him if it’s a funny story. I don’t feel that I have to tell him every time
If your S/O is insecure, I'd recommend against it. Otherwise it's fine.
this is a good question and i've wondered about this myself. i personally wouldn't, but i'd be ok if she did tell me.
No, why the hell would I do that unless someone was making me uncomfortable?
Yes I should. So he can be aware of what is going on
No.I would find it boring and I mean there is no reason really.
I want to be with the woman other guys want. Happy to hear about this.
No. It has even happen in front of them. Thing is, I never give them cause or concern so they feel quite secure. A non-issue kind of thing.
Only if it's become a problem or a repetitive thing with a certain person. If it's just a random one off thing, then it doesn't really matter.
Not unless it turns into something more like sexual harassment. A passing flirt is nothing to get worked up over.
a degree of privacy is necessary for a healthy relationship, just don't be stupid and hurt someone's trust.
Why would you do that? What good would come of it? Then why do it?
I don't see why I'd wanna hear about that unless it's a funny story or someone made her feel uncomfortable and she wants to talk about it.
If it's someone your SO knows then you should definitely tell them.
I don't think so. I will tell him just if someone is beeing to agressive in their advances.
No. Because it doesn´t matter. And it´s like telling him every time you pick your nose.
He probably doesn't want to hear about it. Could also make him jealous which isn't very nice.
If you would want to push the jealousy button. Unless they would be someone that gets turned on by that.Some things are better left unsaid.
No. Nothing in this world is really that serious and monogamy is just dumb.
Nah, monogamy is great.
I put it out of my mind so there's nothing left to tell.
No way... Both she and I get hit on so often that it would be pointless to talk about anyway.
yeah, its good communication. It shocking how 32 women and 34 men said no.
I always tell him lol. But it rarely happens. Maybe once a month lol
No don't do it unless you really want your partner to be jealous
Sometimes it's just not needed and can damage sensitive people
I don’t think so, I’m a guy so I’ve never ben hit on before so I don’t have any experience with that
No it's a waste trust me. Just keep the complements to your own ego
No. i like to keep such experiences strictly private.
Lol ofcourse not!!
OMG. There aren't enough hours in the day.
No, why should I?
No cuz it’s just a little flirting. No harm done
It's better to be honest
Like it happens all the time. LOL!
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