wow this was a very detailed answer thank you. i’m just trying to figure out if my guy friend sees me as more than a friend. he’s called me gorgeous on multiple occasions and there’s been some other signs too
but what if the guys develops feelings for the girl? would it turn awkward?
Everything in life is awkward. Especially if you're an introverted and sensitive person. Awkwardness is just part of your life and there's not much that you can do anything about it. Just because the guy develops feelings for the person, it still doesn't mean that he loves her. It's just a passing attraction. What matters is what that person chooses to do with it. And that is where it can become a problem especially if it's not mutual. The problem with a lot of people is that they do all these things but they don't really communicate with others. It's the same thing that I had to deal with growing up for myself. I had to figure out why was I feeling the way I was feeling, and whether or not what I feeling it's something that's important to me or not. So I can really care less about being involved with a person romantically because I know for myself that's not exactly what I really want. I seek a friendship. But if that person cannot be a true friend to me then why am I going to be friends with the person? Why do I owe that person anything if they don't owe me anything? A person that really cares about you thanks about your welfare and well-being before they put themselves before you. A lot of people do these things out of selfishness. And then I'll see how their behavior and actions are affecting the other person. They don't talk about their feelings and it builds up until it becomes resentment and then that's how friendships end. At least with the guy friends that did admit that they had feelings for me, they understood why I couldn't reciprocate. And that is because we have two different belief systems, and our paths are very different. They believed in premarital sex, and I didn't. At the end of the day they had their relationships, and I stayed by myself. But I can tell you that we are still friends today.
ok, that makes sense. in my opinion they can be friends IF there are some ground rules and barriers preventing it. like if one was gay, friend zoned, etc.
There is no such thing as the friendzone. When you say your friends, YOUR FRIENDS. If you want something more, you must ASK for that. If the person is willing and accepting they may date you. But if you just want something platonic, you are entitled to that. They are entitled to leave if they don't like it. But they have no right to force you into something you don't want. Many only sadly seek sex as a reason to date. They can say they want other things too, but image sex is never on the table. Are they still going to stick around? That's how you know you have true friends or good possible mates. So yes, boundaries are important. But it's never good to assume about others. Communication is always key. Because what you don't want is miscommunication. Everybody voice should be heard without malice or unrighteous judgment. Never tolerate having your values stumped on. That's what I learned.
But every relationship has rules and boundaries. You just have to enforce them and mean it.
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my close friend which is a guy called me attractive.
yeah me and my guy friend have some tension going on lol. he called me attractive
but what if the guy develops feelings for this pretty friend?
She could tell him she's not interested
but wouldn’t the friendship turn awkward?
A little but you shouldn't have to force yourself to love someone that you don't really love
Is that the situation your in?
have you known them for a long time though?
Yep. I live together with one of them, as a matter of fact.
Perhaps because sex can have extremely serious life-long consequences.
but do you think feelings will develop at one point?
sometimes of course. But not always, and not even in the majority of cases. Sometimes people just know they're meant to be friends.
ok, that’s a good point. but since this girl is attractive wouldn’t they want something more just because of their tendencies?
just because someone looks good doesn't meant we are forced to wanna get with them. :P Sometimes when one of my girl friends is in a bikini or something, I get a boner. but it's not that I wanna get physical with her. Her body just is smokin'. lol. It's totally possible to think someone is good looking, but not want anything more than friendship. It happens to people every day.
but do you think one will end up catching feelings at some point?
what i’m trying to figure out, is if my guy friend has feelings for me. he says i’m attractive and he’s said this multiple times out of the blue but he hasn’t made a move of anything
I am pretty sure if at least one finds the other attrsctive they can act like friends but one will have feeling at least
yeah. he’s acting like both it’s so confusing
I am pretty sure he likes you
omg this 😂
why do you say no?
Cause the guy will be attracted to her and want more
but what if someone ends up developing feelings?
Could still work may be hard for the one who has them.They can make it work
did you ever have feelings for them at one point?
Nope.. I didn't get any feelings on them. it is not about attractiveness of the person.. It's about the emotional connection that happens irrespective of the beauty.