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This is a hard one. If it's compulsive cheating or simply not interested in me then of course I'd want to know. If it was a one time thing, eg a drunken or badly influenced mistake and he felt extremely guilty about it, almost to the point of self hatred, I think I'd rather naively continue on with my life without knowing. No one needs the heartbreak and distrust that such events cause. Yet, if I hadn't been told, and then somehow found out years later... I'd be furious! Yeah, the worst part is we don't get to choose. We find out or we don't.
Of course I would like to know! It is better to know the truth than to live in a lie for a long time. Nobody likes to be a second option for anyone. The truth is better than a ball of lies that only lead to unhappiness.
I hear that!
Yes. I'd want to know because it makes no sense for them to cheat based off how or relationship is set up.It's being untruthful for no reason, which means we have no trust. And our relationship is over.
Ignorance is bliss sometimes but I would rather know before I leave them. I deserve the truth.
Yeah I would like to know
The fact to know that he cheated is the cause why I would sever the ties with him, so yes it is important to know that he did it but totally irrelevant to know whom he cheated with.If you don't know, you may take the totally wrong approach on the next steps to take in a relation. You want to know that this person is an unreliable individual. How can I be sure he would save my life should something happen to me rather than not just act upon it and leave me to my fate.A person that cheats on an emotional and/or physical level is a person that I cannot trust with my life and that needs to be removed from my life as quickly as possible. I only live once and I intend to make the best out of it and not be stabbed in the back when I need medical attention or emotional support.
... This again? Every single day? The term "cheating" is erroneous and stupid, and no one should use it. ↗
Ugh people like you again with this crap. Just bogus. I'm going to continue to use the word cheating. Stop making life complicated for no reason. If you don't want to be with someone then don't break vows (rules) of a relationship and stay single, simple as that.
Really, Its people like you that dictate to every one what words they can use are making this life intolerable. Man UP.. Words are words not an attack on you as an individual. Are you so weak that words upset and shake the fantasy land you live in?
I mean YOU @thatsamazing
@LaBrownEyes... well said...
My partner did cheat, repeatedly. Dhe never once told me, i always had to figure it out for myself, after the third time, i stopped taking her word for it, and started monitoring her conversations. I caout her cheating anouther three to four times before i finally had enough and left.
Exuse you retard. I dont recal asking your opinion on my explanation to my answer to someone elses question. There is a difference between being cheated on unknowingly and giving someone enough rope to hang themselves with. Then again some people like yourself dont need rope to hang themselves with, they just find the closest puddle about 2" deep and promptly drown themselves out of their own stupidity.
It took you 3 times to figure it out
I gave her three chances, three strikes.
That's even worse you should have left her the first time if not the second. Why would she change after cheating on you again. Also how do you know she was only cheating on you the times you found out?
I gave her three chances, not for her benefit, but mine. So i could look back and say that i through away a decade long relationship having given her every chance to choose differently. And i know because as i stated i started monitoring her phone, we had each others pass codes, so i monitored her calls txts dms and even her message boards because she was on a few old school forums.
That's a bit to far if you have to go to that lengths to make sure she isn't cheating you don't trust her anymore and probably never will. You should have ended things rather than watching her like a hawk.
Again, it was a decade long relationship, i wanted to make sure i had done everything in my power to make it work, so when it didn't i couldnt blame myself. So I couldnt look back and wonder "what if"
Welp yeah that's how it goes for some.
I'd want to know. I'm not going to waste my time wondering why she isn't showing me as much affection as before or why she became so distant. I just want to know if the person I'm dating is a dumbass, so I can move on.
yes...to dump her immediately without any questions and emotions.Some people say "but sex is just like food... love is love"Someone cheated on me and I cheated, there is no love anymore if you consider to cheat.
Yes and I would want to know every detail. As horrible as they might be. This is the only way we can learn and grow. And this is a fact that everyone shies away from but is true... almost everyone cheats in their lives almost everyone. So learn from it, understand it... it doesn’t have to destroy your relationship but can actually make it grow.
Of course I'd want to know! She decided that she doesn't care about me anymore, and is at this point probably keeping me around because she derives some kind of utility from not leaving. If I don't know, she'll probably keep doing this until she gets caught. If she tells me, the relationship is still over. But I'll at least still have some respect for her afterwards.
yeah i'd definitely want to know because it could be problems in the relationship or maybe they want to leave or possibly STDs might be a concern so yeah for sure
Of course I’d want the choice of staying or going based on what respect or lack of they’ve chosen to show me
It would be hurtful but I would want to know. That way I could open my eyes and be more cautious next time I'm in a relationship.Also, I would know the reason why the relationship had to end.
probably not but everything in darkness always comes to light doesn't it?I know I would find out regardless because I find out about things even when am not looking for them
Obviously.. Why would I not want to know this. Gives me an opportunity to move into something better
Relax, it's not obvious for some and others aren't always going have your mindset.
I am so sorry my "obviously" sounded very rude... Didn't mean it like that 😅
I’d want to know and from them, I can forgive that.
I'm hoping he ain't gonna hear about what I've been doing.
I just assume all women cheat and so I have adapted to that and never take one serious enough to have it affect me. Therefore, the answer to your question is I don't give a sht either way.
YES! I would want to know so i can break up with him immediately!
The one thing that has been an issue for me is going out with her and some dick sitting I'm snickering staring. That is the shit that will get a man thrown in jail
Yes, I would want to know. So I can get out of the relationship.
I wouldn’t want to know. If he’s doing something for her they I’m not able to then i don’t want to know
Yeah so I can make them dig their graves jk Yeah but either way once it happens I can’t with them anymore yes I’ll go crazy I’ll probably open the window and throw the bitches shit out the 2nd floor window idgaf if it’s fragile or not
I wanna know with who... How many whos... Where at... For how long... And what they had that i didn't... Oh yea and if he already packed his shit to gtfo
Yes, I would want to know, so I'd know what I'm dealing with instead of being in the dark about it.
My very first rule is if ure not confortable with me, just tell me and we can end the relationship without any trouble as I respect the fact there's a possibility our love for each other gets lost and ai just want u to be happy with anywhere ud like
I* and anyone* 😔
I would not want to know, but i should know. Ignorance is bliss obviously, but the relationship will suffer if the partner who has betrayed the expectations of the relationship refuses to communicate failures, large or small
Off course I would want to know. It would make it easier for me to move on with my life and find someone better.
I would absolutely want to know. I don't appreciate secrets being kept to one's self if they're in a relationship.
Yes, so I could end the relationship. I have no interest in being with someone who doesn't love or respect me enough to be faithful to me.
As I do not require sexual fidelity, you could tell me all about it. And it wouldn't matter...Sex doesn't mean love.. Maybe its time we stopped confusing the two.
Think it's time we stop making excuses for liars and deceivers. True it doesn't always mean love. But actions and breaking some vows will have consequences.
Maybe we need to stop making vows and promises like that. Maybe we need to learn how to forgive more. Instead of taking our pain out on others, because it never fixes a damn thing.Maybe we need to stop making expectations for each other to live up to. And people will stop commiting to things they can't uphold. For fear of being abandoned. Maybe we need to recognize each others humanity more. Make room for each others weaknesses, be understanding, as we would want others to be for us.You would be amazed what you can learn to forgive. And the burden it takes off your shoulders when you do.
The people who can't keep them, yes they need to stop making such promises, glad we agree on that lol. Recognize eachother's humanity? Where was the humanity in them being deceitful, yeaaah it takes two. Don't just ask one side to be sympathetic. You're asking for a lot of kumbaya type stuff and I'm not even trying to go that far and preach for all that, I'm just simply asking for people to just be honest. A lot more pain and unwanted outcomes would be avoided when people are honest from the start especially honest about theirselves aka bring up those weaknesses and flaws too. I've said my peace ✌🏽
I'm not preaching.I'm simply sharing what I've learned through my own personal experiences.. I'm also an artist, so I have a bit of a habit of dramatic flare.😜But here's something straight forward.Doesn't matter what others do. You are responsible for how you feel about it. And you can choose whether or not you feel hurt.So long as you let others words and actions affect you. You are a slave to everyone around you.
I dont understand how this answer is not yes for everyone
That would be awful to think the relationship is going swell while my partner is messing around other guys.
I'd be hurt as hell, but I'd want to know. Telling me would always be far better than me finding out by some other means.
I guess but she might start giving unnecessary details so maybe not I’d just move on like nothing happened
I would need to know so that I would be able to cause the little fucker some sorrow and as far as my cheating woman goes meh
I don't think I'd have any partner that would possibly cheat. It's conflicting
Definitely yes. I'd maybe even hear him out but break up would still happen.
My partner would never "have to cheat"... for a variety of reasons. :)
Hell motherfuckin yea. Absolutely. No question. The only thing worse than being cheated on, would be to NOT KNOW you as been cheated on.
yes for if I know that they cheated on me then I can dump them and find someone that is not a jerk like them ! Thanks
If she cheated on me, not only would I have wanted to know about it but also get rid of her. There Is no place for being unfaithful
Yeah, I would. Then I would be making an appointment at the clinic to make sure I have not caught any STDs
Yes, id rather them sit me down and admit it so we can see when, where, and why it happened. Im a strong believer in a second chance so I may be able to forgive depending on the circumstances.
Yes I would and the why - Why the why?, there is probably a 1% I would accept it and take her back - Why the knowing?, the 99% chance to dump her
Yes how else would I know to catapult them into Mexico
I don’t know honestly. This concern scare me and hate to think about it
Of course! Why wouldn't you? If you didn't know, you could never know if she does it again.
It depends on how our relationship is, if she the yolo type then I'll just break up and let her go.
If my partner cheated on me I would want to know coz I don't want to put my whole life into someone that doesn't love me I'll just look dumb
I would want to know if they cheated. So I can break up with them and evict them from my house. If you can't be loyal like I have gtfo.
Of course you would want to know. Are you like an ostrich? Just bury your head in the sand and hope?
Who wouldn't want to know? The fact that I didn't know hurts more and then you continue in a loveless and distance relationship.
Knew someone who didn't. They knew they weren't going to leave anyways so they were cool with not knowing.
Yeah but not everyone is like that. Very few people are like that.
Ofc. not everyone. Unless you've taken a census can't really say "few" are. It's a simple question at the end of the day.
Yes one should know, bec there's none who does not have pre, extra marital affairs . There must be something which made s/he doing such behaviour
Yes I would. I’d rather them be honest than try and make me feel crazy through emotional abuse.
Yes, because either I would find out from them because they are genuinely sorry or I find out some other way because they don't care
I would want her to tell me. I hope she would or otherwise she would have to carry this burden on her shoulders or I would find out from somewhere/someone else. Of course I’m lonely right now, but I hope I can change that soon.
Yes. People seem to be confuaed about truth and facts. Even if i do not know i still have a liar and a cheater. Not knowing does not change that fact
If he cheated I would already know the reason because he’s not faithful
It would hurt but yea I'd want to know. Need to know when to pack my bags and hit the road.
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