I get it and it sounds good in theory but I am not sure I would look at her the same ever again and that in itself would be worse then just breaking it off all together. I guess you don't know until it happens. Thanks for the comments.
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I do think it's possible for things to be forgiven though.
Again like I have said in other comments... you are correct if your standards are that low.
I did not mean that there would be another chance given-- just that there would be forgiveness.
I can imagine, maybe years and years down the road when the one who cheated has grown and maybe atoned for the mistakes he/she made... a chance is possible. But that seems highly unlikely.
I think a chance down the road is possible but only with someone new. People need to grow and mature but not necessarily for others but themselves.
I like that... stuck with the trash you cheated on me with!
Amen same here
Ha Ha Ha
There will always be one off scenarios like this that can happen but in general I have a zero tolerance policy.
yes, agreejust saying all people and relationships are different, you never know :)
Question was what would be a GOOD reason not just any reason!
That's my point. There are no "good" reasons for it.
I know i just contradicted myself by saying they deserve a second chance when they don't in the first paragraph. I mean to say everyone should at least be given a second chance even when they don't deserve it.
How would you trust someone again after they cheated on you?
Out of love.. if you don't, did you really love them in the first place? Take it as 3 strikes you're out.
Yeah but if you really love them why would you cheat on them? I guess I never understood the second chance thing... my experience is that most people feel guilty for cheating and don't have the balls to actually break up before or after the cheating. They stay literally out of guilt. But I did ask the question and you gave an answer and I appreciate that! Thanks for the comment!
We're not perfect - and we all know that being cheated on is the most painful thing someone could do in a relationship. I guess you still have that hope it was a once off thing and they would stop. Unfortunately, once they start cheating, they tend to continue cheating. Cheaters are thinking about themselves - in any case, if they cheat a second time - I break up with them. They already lost my trust once. Fool me once, I'll forgive you. Fool me twice, get the heck out of my life
I hear ya dude!
Well there are many reasons why people would STAY in a relationship... kids, finances, baby on the way... but are they considered GOOD reasons is my question?
LOL I think I have seen that in a movie once.
I hear that dude!
Wouldn't you have to lower your standards for yourself to get what you supposedly say you want?
The housewives made their choice as did the strong and independent women 😎
I don't think cheating necessarily has to lead to break up.
I think it's very possible that the relationship wasn't working and one decided to cheat and not break up first but if it doesn't lead to break up then what would break you up?
I think if the cheating was a mere mistake, it can be compromised but if the cheater had the intention to cheat from before then the relationship's probably bound to end, unless they can work it out by talking about it all.
Every cheater has the intent to cheat... just because they didn't plan it out doesn't mean it wasn't intentional. If the keys are left in a car and you jump in and drive away and get caught... is that a mistake? Not sure what the difference is here.
Oh, i just thought some people are easily distracted by what they find attractive. What about people who realize they weren't thinking straight - or they were drunk, and regret it afterwards?
I believe that is the excuse for the behavior that was premeditated in their mind. Can you make bad decisions after drinking too much? Yes but how drunk do you have to be to really do that and not be able to take responsibility for your actions? People can get drunk and say stupid stuff... that is and can be forgiven but actually physically having sex with someone? That is a stretch. But that is my opinion.
I agree, it is a stretch. So, would you say it's always best to just end it as soon as one cheats?
Well if you don’t you are telling them the standards that you are willing to put up with... I believe in zero tolerance policy! So yes!
That is mutual cuckoldry! LOL
Ha ha ha no doubt!
I guess if you don't have standards for yourself... that is true.
what makes you said that?
Loving someone and having standards for yourself are two different things. I have standards that if someone cheats on me they don't get another chance... love has NOTHING to do with it and everything to do with my STANDARDS on how I will be treated now and in the future. Just me though.. . obviously people are different.
Thank you for the thoughts.I see it as a chosen mistake... Which make us human. They'll ask for a second chance coz they realize they did wrong. I respect people most when they can take responsibility of their mistakes.
I get it but in my experience they aren't taking responsibility... they usually got caught and now feel guilty and will do anything to clear their name. Again, just my input. I appreciate your comments!
thats a smart way of looking at it. Never thought of it like that.
You are obviously too good for them. There's a difference.
I dont know, my mom was cheated on by my dad and I think it is justified considering she is a terrible human being
Excuses for said actions don't make any of it right.
Trust me it was justified
Thanks for the comments!
I hear ya closer! I hear ya!
I said GOOD reasons not ANY reasons LOL.
Note to self lilmeri99 will cheat and blame alcohol @lilimeri99
The question was GOOD reasons not ANY reasons lol
Them being close to, if not completely blackout drunk is the only viable reason I will accept for them cheating on me.
What is not going to far consist of?
Simply talking or flirting with someone
Cause I think going out and nudes is passing the line
My question would be why? Flirting with someone else means she is missing something in her actual relationship. Chalking it up to "messing up" is probably not going to help the core issues.
But that's the thing maybe it's just one of the things she can't control
Like yeah if the flirting goes also beyond like she tryna fuck that's also a different story but if its some like ohh I like your hair than it's still acceptable
Okay well let's not get in the weeds on the particulars. I think I understand where you are coming from! Thanks for the comments.