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Not for me to be honest, I love sleeping so much so waking up can be annoying, but to wake up with someone I want to be with makes it all worthwhile!
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That's fine. As long as it doesn't mess up our togetherness and communication routines
I'd rather buy a really huge bed and share it
Oh fuck no, I need my night night cuddles
For me, the best part of the day is going to sleep with my arms around her.
This is actually very common. Many people are insecure about sleeping in separate beds for the thought of what others might think. This is unfortunate because if your partner needs a good nights rest and you toss and turn, snore, etc etc then just sleep separately.This isn't 1950 ... life is a bit more eclectic these days with some folks having 2 even 3 jobs to get by. They need their sleep!
I would be concerned. He likes cuddles so it would be strange ☹️♥️😭
Honestly, I would feel lonely. Silly as it sounds, when I wake up and I feel her next to me, I feel safe and warm and in love. Heck, when she is traveling on business and I wake up and in that split second before I am fully aware but I realize that she is not there I get scared. I need her - and the three little gifts she gave me - in my life.We have a wonderful, beautiful relationship and if she asked to be in a separate bed maybe so that she could sleep more soundly I would be understanding. Still, I sleep in the nude and she wears pajamas. When I wake up and feel that combination of warm soft skin and cloth against my naked body - as weird as it may seem - it is just one of those things that mean something to me.Yup, it's dumb - and my feelings are less important to me than my gfd's needs. (In that, there are few things as miserable as a lousy night's sleep - especially if it got to the point where it keeps happening over and over.) So, I would make the adjustment. Of course, if it was because we were getting emotionally separated we would have to deal with that. However, we love each other and I cannot imagine things getting to that point. Even now, when we have an argument, we will crawl into bed. She will read and I will lay there. If she feels bad, she will just stop reading, kiss me on the top of my head and tell me she is sorry and she loves me. If I get to feeling bad first, I will roll over on my side, look up at her and say in a sing-songy voice, "Ho-ney, I wuv vou!!" She then rolls her eyes - which she has to do a lot with me - and will smile and kiss me. That's it. Fight's over. We just have an inflexible rule about never going to sleep mad at one another. So it just boils down to who apologizes first.Bottom line, I would do what my girlfriend needs to be comfortable. However, I won't lie. In a way that is hard to describe and may even seen faintly absurd and disproportionate, I would feel lonely.
Though getting divorced after 18 together 15 married, we have barely slept in the same bed together. I prefer a couch to mattress anyway. She worked til 3am for 7-8years. I sleep less than 4 hours a night, traveled for my job for 10 years extensively, I drink so I'm not disturbing sober monster after the bar or club cause no shit going down, wrapped early for Christmas 5 months into the relationship.. lol2 daughters and it was "easier" to let them have the mattress with mom and gave me a good excuse to stay up late watching "tv on the internet"Porn for the dumbasses and too young to know it was once only 1 picture every 3 minutes.When we do share a bed, I fucking hate someone else's head in the same general area as mine, makes me wanna head but to get shit poppin cause everyone else is a bunch of bitches talking and smacking their own chests while using the new slang that more queer than last months (no offense 🙄) but queer seems to identity more on the happy not happy sad but not emo side... so anyway fuck that I'm not head butting her, 🙄🤔🤭, so we sleep like Charlie's grandparents. And her feet are petite and cute and never smell and I played hockey, for fucking money, and skated barefoot since age 10... So fuck her checkmate!!!🤟😂😂😂😂
Actually, there are many couples who do that or even go further and have separate bedrooms.cupofjo.com/.../"A 2015 National Sleep Foundation survey found that 10 percent of couples reported sleeping in different rooms — and as many as 25 percent said they slept in separate beds."These 13 Happy Couples Sleep In Separate Beds. Here’s Whywww.huffpost.com/.../sleeping-apart-relationships_n_583358a1e4b030997bc0c643=========When you get older, you recognize how critical sleep to your physical and mental health. Cuddling and fucking can happen in the same bed and even then falling asleep, but, often, sleeping in your own separate bed (and usually in a separate bedroom) helps getting better sleep.
It would feel weird, to be honest.Some people don't like to share, be close to someone while they sleep. Sleep is important, much more important for well-being than curbing need to not be weird.If you feel weird, propose this: your partner can cuddle and talk with you on your bed and then move to theirs when they feel like. It's fair and I don't think they will like idea of chance of you dozing off. They can always doze off and move to their bed anytime because you don't have problem, they do.You don't remain conscious in your sleep so I don't have a reason to ask them to be conscious and ruin their sleep. We can always have better time when we are conscious.
I'm actually okay with it since my work schedule is unorthodox working remotely from home (very often I sleep at around 4AM, on average), but with mostly clients from US. It means sometimes I stay up all night, and every now and then I don't. That's an awkward schedule to keep with an SO of mine without bothering her sleep every now and then. So i'm okay with separate beds.I have a separate one in my home with my wife and a king-sized bed in our bedroom. I'd say about half the time, we sleep together in the big bed, but other times I work at a weird schedule and sleep in my own bed to avoid disturbing her sleep.
It doesn't hinder our sex life too much if people are wondering about that! On the contrary, I sometimes think it enhances it since we can be all refreshed after we wake up during the times we don't sleep anywhere close to the same time (which is probably half the time).
Before I got a home together, we lived together in my single-bedroom apartment in Tokyo and it was always tricky not to disturb each other's sleep. It's like I'd be going to bed at 3 AM in the morning and she'd wake up at 7 AM and we'd just be disturbing each other's sleep left and right.
Happened to my ex and I , she wanted separate beds and I was totally against it, 1 of the reasons i knew my relationship was going out the door. It's a selfish act no matter what their excuse is. If you can't sleep in bed with your partner then their is no reason to be with that person , you should both want to be by each other , your bedroom is you and your partners together time away from the world , if you dont want me by you at night then you dont want me at all is the way i look at it , not saying you always have to sleep by me every night but if you make it. clear that you want separate beds then that just says you want separate lives also. That's the way i look at it
I suppose it would depend on what kind of relationship we were going through, if she was violent (night terrors or whatever), my job, where we lived, etc. Right now, as a single guy who has never been married, I would probably hate it. But if she was always kicking me, punching me, stealing the covers, etc, then I’d probably be ok with it or I might suggest it.
I don't think I'd mind. Though it'd be great to be physically close when it either of us are going through hell, I don't mind sleeping on separate beds. Personally, for me, that just shows that we're okay even if we aren't stuck in the waist. Sleeping together occassionally would be nice though. Like, once in a while. I think I would ask for that.
As for the "red flags" thing that keeps coming up, I wouldn't be in a relationship where I didn't know for sure that there exists love, respect and trust between us. If we haven't reached that stage yet, we wouldn't be living together. It's possible this is all a glitzy, unrealistic world but even those can be strived for
That's a deal breaker for me. Falling asleep in each other's arms is one of the things I look forward to most in a relationship. If she was an active sleeper, and she only suggested it for my sake, then I'd tell her that I'd still wanna sleep in the same bed. I wouldn't mind accidentally being punched and elbowed here and there. It's no reason to get separate beds.
What you mean you don’t like when I roll around while sleeping? Well I don’t like your icicle hands or feet either… Those inane questions in the middle of the night don’t help and when you stare at me creepily like that while my eyes are closed I always wonder if you’re plotting to poison me… But I deal with it for you.
Me and other half do have so. e issues sleeping. We hvave to have a king size bed or we really interupt each other. On rare occasions we stay at my flat we sleep seperately (i only have diuvle bed which isn't large enough, especially with her being pregnant). I hate it. I'd always want to be in same bed, even if super large and we each have our bit
In my case it wouldn't be an issue until I got married. But I probably would not like it. I want to fall asleep and wake up with her in my arms. If she did move a lot, I would be okay if she got up sometimes and slept somewhere else. People have different circumstances, and you have to work with those things. Sometimes however, I really active sleeper is a sign of a hormonal imbalance. And I think that would be good to rectify that as opposed to getting different beds
Id feel pretty weird about it and expect her to get over it over time, more time the more "serious" the reason allthough i can't really think of a goof one. Or me to get used to it if its something like active sleeping like you proposed. I mean if you have a SO then not having the comfort and familiarity of them at night because they are sleeping in a different bed is something that would really weird me out and i couldnt stand it for long.
I say " how bout separate houses". "Tell ya what you take the bed I'll go sleep on the couch". There's no reason to have 2 beds and i can sleep literally anywhere.
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Sydney that's what i'm using as the basis for my answer. My parents were happily married for 40 years. And the seldom slept in the same bed. My dad was a light sleeper and my mom was night owl that would toss and turn and kept him awake. Plus i think she enjoyed her time alone after we'd all went to sleep to get away from us. Lol
Ah, I see. I think I misunderstood your initial answer. I'm an active sleeper so I'd be worried about keeping someone awake!
I wouldn't care. We don't have to sleep together every night. But I'm saying this as a single guy who's never been in a relationship before. So it may be that after the first time I sleep with her (literal definition of sleep, not the euphemism for sex) that I'll just really enjoy snuggling with her and holding her in my arms, so I might get attached to the idea.
My partner and I spoke about this the other day actually. We like to share a bed, you can reach over and know they’re still there. Besides who doesn’t like a midnight snuggle in the winter? Maybe when you’re old like 80 it’s more sensible to be separate for health reasons like getting into and out of bed but nah I like to share.
"What if your partner was an active sleeper (moves a lot, active dreams)?" ******** Get a King or California King bed !!! When that day comes, I find another SO
California king... yessss
It depends on their reason, even though I've never had a partner, lol.If they move around a lot of something, then fine, I'd probably prefer to sleep alone myself anyway.
Nah, I need my man beside me and have lots of cuddle 🤗
I would probably get sad about it, because I normally have to sleep cuddling something (RIP my pillow😂). I have slept in the same bed as someone and he WAS an active sleeper. He elbowed me in the ribs pretty hard😂.
Yes please! Because i'd suggest this myself. Not just separate beds but prefferably separate rooms. I know its not romantic but i am very sensetive to sound so she will keep me awake all night if we slept closely together.
I wouldn't mind starting off in the same bed / room though until she is asleep and then being able to leave to a separate room if she is keeping me awake.
She had restless leg syndrome and I got kicked a lot. And she had neuropathy causing he feet to sometimes feel “electric shocks”. But we kept on sleeping in the same bed.
* her feet
I am confused about why anyone would not want to sleep to their most important person that they will be with for the rest of their life, that is a bit silly unless you have some sort of contact disease
I get too hot in bed just with my dog, I think I would get it even though my penis would be upset. Also, is that a scene from It Happened One Night?
I would think what the f is wrong with him. Then I would force him to get into my bed or he can sleep on the floor 4ever.
"How would you feel if your SO wanted to sleep in separate beds?"Horny and ready to go out and find a good ho.
I'd say well either you think I'm going with other men or you want to
I really wouldn’t care as long as they had a good reason. Maybe a bad experience, they are super fidgety, they have vivid nightmares and it wakes them up in the middle of the night, as long as they had a good reason I would respect it.
Really upset. Even if he moved a lot, I wouldn’t care, there’s no reason for him to get up and sleep somewhere else.
I think it all depends on the stage of a relationship but if my boyfriend didn't wanna share a bed with me right away id completely respect him but everyone has a different pace and comfort zone but personally once we are at the intimate stage i wouldn't want us to be in separate beds after cause um id feel awkward lol.
I’d understand completely in the case of an active sleeper. I used to do crazy things in my sleep. As of late I’m told I don’t. Otherwise I don’t think I’d be ok with it.
I mean I'd be a little upset... But if they constantly shifted about or had dreams they acted out (or sleepwalked), then I'd like separate beds. ... But I'd still wanna cuddle every so often.
Funny cause I’m pretty sure if we ever move in together I wo t be able to sleep with another person I’m uncomfortable all the time when I’m the only one
I would understand completely. It gets easily very hot and you start to sweat when you sleep with someone. There is always a fight for the blanket. Some people snore very loudly.
I guess sometimes is ok would prefer toBe in the same room at least.
Fuck yea dude more room for me. We have a caliking but my youngest daughter takes up so much god damn room...
I would like sleep in separate bedrooms and only visit sometimes, for action or moment of closeness. Only people started sleeping in same bed so save money, so they would not need to buy 2 beds...
My wife and I used to do this for a period of time during our marriage, and it worked out just fine. We'd still get together occasionally for sex, then go back to our separate bedrooms.
I would ask him why. I love to cuddle, don't deny me my cuddles for the night
I would be sad that I can't cuddle but I would respect her choice. Besides, that would mean no blanket issues too. I tend to move or take a bit of room when I sleep too so that's okay.
I'd feel alone. Sleeping next to the one u love is a great moment in life. Being able to cuddle nd share affection is big in a relationship. Well I think so
It would kind of make me sad I could not nestle in her arms, but if that is what she wanted...
We have two kinds next to one another. I like it. Kinda lonely but it's alright. Sometimes ill find him on my side.
My parents sleep in different beds. They’ve done that for years so it seems normal to me. I guess I wouldn’t mind it.
@bklynbadboy1 they’ve been together for 31 years.
Wow that's some relationship goals frfr
I wouldn't be a fan of it. I love sleeping together.
Really nothing i can do but it would make me wonder why she's acting the way she is and want sleep in separate beds.
As it has been in the past. I would like that, probably the one preferring it and separate rooms if it gets the same way with a new.
My grandparents slept together then after they got older, they slept separately because my grandfather had back pains and couldn’t get proper sleep while sleeping beside someone.
I would respect their choice because no one is perfect
I'd be fine with it. I am a super light sleeper. My dad used to joke that I would wake up if a flea farted across the street.
I would feel hurt, and I'd wonder about theit reason for doing so. Also, sleeping in each other's arms feels good.
Like I am about to place an "ex" in front of "girlfriend".
I wouldn't like that. He must have pretty solid reasons for me to let him sleep separately.
If we've been intimate, I'd expect that we would be able to sleep in the same bed. If not, i wouldn't blame her for not wanting to share a bed.
I'm not gonna lie - sometimes that could be really nice.
A little hurt but we sleep at diff hours and I SNORE so i get it
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