I appreciate long answers like yours when they are so well thought and in depth!
Haha, thanksI am working on being more concise and articulate. I often feel verbose.
That didn't work fir me. And she even knew how much I loved her.
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TLDR; Talk to them
Mostly agree. Better to say, get therapy or I’m out. Or just bail
Yeah, people with these issues need years of therapy and it only happens after they actually agree that they have a big problem. The more you baby them the more they act like it’s your job to prop them up and it’s “normal”.
@hahahmm: Quite true, and I wish I had known that, but I had never had an insecure girlfriend before.
You friend Avicenna is a prime example of a narcissist that intentionally seeks relationships with women with lower self esteem. He does this so that at he can tell other women that he'd like to fuck them and also keep lists of women that he'd like to fuck and then blame it on his girlfriend's "false perception". Ironically, my self esteem is infinitely better now that he's not in my life.
@Avicenna @SydneySentinel please don't take your problems or fights on my questions or I'll have to take measures with both.I hope you both understand, I'm getting a bit sick of getting involved in businesses that don't concern me.Feel free to block me if this is rude to any or both of you - I just warn that's what I'll be doing next time this conversation pops up. I'm not siding with anyone and I'll block both if I have to.Thank you for understanding, I'm sorry it has come to this.
Also because I do respect and admire both of you, but it's really painful to see this spectacle, so I'd rather do without.
Jean-Marie, you're the second person that says you respect me but that doesn't say a word to Avicenna until I respond back. You can have him. I'm won't respond on your questions anymore. Take care.
@SydneySentinel I didn't say a thing to neither of you until now, and because you pointed that out. Let me be a little blunt - I don't care. I don't care and not take sides in whatever happened between you two, because I have more important things to think about. I'm getting sick - SICK - of having you two costantly throw fits or drifts at each other. I ignore you both equally when you do this, and in the same way I'm going to block you both by midnight or so. I already did a clean up of problematic people a month or so, and sadly I find myself having to do it again. Because it's evident that the only thing you two agree on is making a smear fest on my posts and myself. So I'll act as such.I'm giving five hours before I'll block you both. If any of you wishes to quicken it, just write so. Thank you for everything, and goodbye.
Because it pains me, but I'm recognizing you both are no different than that clown of @Kakella or the other troll and smear pest @bloodys. All bent on taking their troubles on my front door and make me pass off as the villain, when I don't even care. You all helped me in certain situations and I recognize that, but it's no excuse for such behavior.
And I think I'm a good and patient person, but it's people like those two (fortunately it seems they disappeared, good riddance) or the way you two are behaving now that make me be act and look bad. Really, you can argue and hate on each other all you want, but in the end you share that you want to make me pass off as the bad one.Back when I had showed this site to my girlfried, she had advised me to put you two on the block list alongside all the so-called "friends" I got rid of, because in reality they were toxic people. I've been stupid in not listening to her. I don't even know why bother staying on this site, it's either all toxic people and fair weather friends or maniacs and the like.
@Jean-Marie_Celine I don't know what you're referring to about attempting to make a smear fest on you. That was not my intent. I'm frustrated by the amount of people that seem to expect me to take the moral high ground yet never say anything to him about his behavior. And every time I come to answer a question of yours, there is his attempt to start war. And I've ignored it this long. I'm not sure who those other people are that you tagged. You don't have to justify yourself and you don't need to anyone. If you feel that way, so be it. Take care.
@SydneySentinel I feel that way, and I'm completely justified in doing so as let's be frank, the real victim in the middle of this situation is me. I don't expect neither you or him to have the higher moral ground as many people pointed out to me, it'd be still me. I brought up this situation to my girlfriend and she said I'm the one who's right while you are the little people who are bringing me down - not sure about the reason, but if she sees it as an outsider, there must be a good one. Naturally, she also brought up the possibility for me to delete this app, and I'm getting even more convinced she's right. Few people are actually positive here, and they are fair weather friends for the most part.I'm sure you know that bloodys as she did intervene in a discussion once, I should have reported her enough for harassing and got her banned, or she deleted.Anyhow, I'll see whenever to block (more likely) or don't block but delete problematic opinions at my discretion. The fault you would be right in rimprovering me is not deleting infiammatory opinions when I should have, and I apologize for that.But as of now, I learned that no good deed goes unpunished - I have been too good and lenient and not took any side, and punctually got punished for it. You and him got your friends involved in this and maybe it irked that I didn't care enough and wanted to keep out of it. This stops now.Since the music is not changing and he doesn't bother replying, I'll proceed and block both within the hour. I'll also block other problematic people.
TL, dr - my girlfriend agrees I'm right and that I got dragged in toxicity by toxic people. I'll probably get off G@G soon as most people are like that and offer worthless insights, and my own is wasted.I thank you both for the help you gave me in certain situations, and wish you all the best. But the situation has become intolerable, and not for my fault.
I still dont know what you're talking about with that person harassing you. I'm sorry that happened. No one should be harassed. You have to do what's best for you. Best of luck to you and your lady.
I wish I had known that. In retrospect, I was laughably naive about this.
Msny of us want to fix others. I spent a lifetime believing I ciuld Fix tge Wirld while telling Clients they can't Fix anyone. It took me a long time for Myself to Actually Hear and Believe tjose Words!!!
I will never do it again. They act like it’s your job/responsibility to fix things.
Exactly, not my responsibility.
Abusive childhood makes more stubborn insecure but hella strong ! Im tell you ! Its either destroyed you or made u stronger no in between
As a child I vowed that I never become like my parents, and I've remained true to myself, through that childhood vow
Im sorry for whatever u been through.. * hug*
Thank you nana_90, bad things of the past only remind me do good for the future
Reassure, not pressure
Oh ok. Lol patience is needed here. Always back her up and show her your intentions in your actions.