It's not everyone that doesn't put in work.. Most of the ones who got heart broken were the ones putting in all the work and effort.
@5points2gspot Bingo! And after being hurt so much, most of us really don't see the point in trying anymore because we're sick of being hurt and disappointed
Not true.. To each their own. I see it as a lesson of life. We all have this gut feeling that if something is working out it gives us choices. If we continue to stay then it's the hope n faith we're holding onto hoping this person opens their eyes. But we also forget we can't make anyone open their eyes either. U can bring a horse to the water but can't make them drink.. So from a person experience even tho my heart was ripped from my chest & set on fire. I will grow from that experience and now I know what I don't want on a relationship... But I still want love.
@5points2gspot I admire your steadfast determination to find love; that is an admirable trait ma'am. I wish I still felt that way but after being rejected, friendzoned, sisterzoned, lied to, and cheated on repetitively? I'm done... for now at least. If someone comes along, I will not be opposed to love, but it's something I'm no longer actively seeking. Yes, heartbreak does prove lessons and experience. For me, my lesson is I need to stop trying so hard to find someone that wants me and love and focus on MYSELF first!
You're right. Some times when weve become so broke n have lost ourselves, while trying to help another we tend to find ourselves back on square one. Just take the Vacation that you need. Or a get a way from reality to a temptation island that's going to help you find you're way back to your light again.. Or talk with light like minded people.. So yes I can understand what you're saying. Just give yourself time to heal.
Life without GOD is what you described.
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What are you talking about man?
Read it again, slowly, woman
** Limiting physical intimacy (just save it for special one only)
It's more about being disgusted with the casualness of sex. A large mass of singles uses sex to fill a void or just for entertainment. You read me wrong on most parts. I've never used sex for entertainment-- except with a partner that I'm committed to. My parents had a great love, only separated by death. This isn't my outlook-- just something I saw that left me wondering if people really want love anymore. I'd like to have a forever love... he and I can have as much sex for "entertainment" and connection as we'd like.
Baby, look deep into your heart. If you can see your lover looking back at you then you must find him. That is the only quest worthy of your soul. Don't sell out. Hold his feet to the fire. If he bolts, he's not for you. If he stays, turn up the heat till you both melt into one another. That is love.
" You reach a place of just rather wanting to keep the bullshit out of your life. " Exactly my own view too.
I like this analysis, though I haven't decided if I agree or not. For me, I'm not dating. So I guess my parameters are selfishly satisfying to myself?
That's normal. The human condition is selfish at it's core. But when you find someone who takes joy in giving to you then it's heaven on earth. You come first, no one else. When you are satisfied, it might happen that you will naturally want to satisfy others. We see this everywhere. People own pets, embrace those kittens. But what do those kittens give back? They don't pay the bills, they just leach off us, but it makes us feel good to take care of them. It's the natural balance of the universe. The give and take perimeters, of which dances within our feelings and sense of logic.
Aren't love and intimacy the same thing?
To me, Love is emotional, intimacy is physical
Intimacy is physical? 🤔. ... Wait- are you talking about sex?
@Jamie05rhs intimacy is not inherently physical.
@SirRexington Tell that to @Jjpayne.
@Jamie05rhs i was trying to. I just responded and it chose the last person who commented
I wasn't looking before. Maybe that's why I chose to believe it was a good kind of love.
Well, I guess it's not 100% full proof. However, in my experience when I stopped searching, it found me. A few times. So patterns are what means everything to me when it comes to relationships
Different between love and one night stands.
U in Pocatello Idaho
It's true. But at least we aren't as evil as Donald Trump. :)
Don't lose hope. You will be able to find another girl that you'll spend your life with and have a family with her.
Thanks a bunch!
No problem at all
Is love a game? I don't want play.
Yes Love is a game..Relationship is the match duration and getting to grow old Together looking into each other's eyes every other day. Is the priceless reward..Love is a Game.. Lose the game.. And Win a partner for yourself, To grow old Together with..
What does "love" even mean anymore when monkeys use it after knowing someone for 2 weeks, desperately trying force away their loneliness (after convincing themselves they are) by forcing themselves to believe it is so and refusing to find the right word (s). Then holding the other person hostage until they say it back, lest they cannot possibly be the right person for them. Then cry their ass off 8-12 weeks later when it doesn't work out, still insisting it was love they experienced, or concluding that it doesn't exist. doesn't help that media in general, long before social media existed, use it to cash in on young ppls emotions, indirectly teaching them wrongly what/how it is. I asked if anyone had thoughts on (new) word (s) for it a while ago, and the conclusion, based on little to no answers, was that they couldnt care less... Meanwhile they continue to project their insecurity and loneliness on everyone establishing retarded societal beliefs that its wrong to even as much as find someone else hot while being in a relationship. people who actually know love, less than 1% in my opinion, know that its something that takes long to achieve, and easily af sees beyond if one of the two parts should find someone else hot; lust, flirting and even infatuation with someone else. We know very well that its something that can't possibly be ruined by biological drifts, because love is something on a whole nother level way above those drifts, anchored in maturity and loyalty even when one part screws up. To give an easy example of how immature the monkeys are just think about the expression "if you truly love something set it free, and if it comes back to you its true love". All of the monkeys have heard about this, yet most are controlling and jealous af because of their immaturity and insecurity, not "practicing" the expression at all even though everyone of them would say they agree... Talk abouy double standards/immature.
I by the way dont see the image so i dont know what it says. I just know its there based on others' answers.
Lol I knew you'd also want to post on this topic 😂
@TheDawnOfTime love is vital. For real.
I wish you all bedt to find a guy.
Are you open to your prince being an elderly man, twice your age? Single gentlemen in your age bracket tend to seek out teens for sugarbaby relationships. :)
It really depends on the person.
In 42. I'd like to experience love, but if I have to actively seek it in today's world, I'd be better off laying aside money to book my casket and burial space in the ground.
True, with me women are picky as hell, not saying guys aren't as well. But that's why I'm single, women want to change me to benefit them, I don't try to change them, so no
Yeah... trying to change people never ever works. When I was younger, I tried to do that and learned but guys have also tried to change me