How do I get my wife to understand we can't wait 5 more years to try to have kids?

I'm 38, my wife is 34, we met 8 years ago and got married 5 years ago. Both of us want kids, at least she says so. I wanted to start trying right after we got married but she always had excuses and wanted to focus on her career first and enjoy it being only the two of us for a bit longer. This has been frustrating for me but I've respected her wishes of course. Now though I felt I don't want to wait much longer and brought up the topic again and she told me she wants to wait another 5 years! She wants those extra years to continue focusing on her career. But really, is this reasonable? I don't think so. We're 38 and 34, in 5 years we'll be 43 & 39 and it may be too late to have kids! We want at least 2 or 3 children and if we wait any longer there is a real posibility it's going to be too late as fertility drops with age. I told her all this and she just got upset, accusing me of being overly pessimistic and pressuring her to give up her career, which is absolutely not the case. I'm just being realistic and I don't expect her to give up her career at all, but we do need to get moving trying because the clock is ticking and time is running out. I feel stressed over this. She refuses to change her mind or listen to anything I tell her. Any advice of how I can get her to understand?
How do I get my wife to understand we can't wait 5 more years to try to have kids?
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