That is true. So with porn, you are basically saying that the thoughts you have while watching porn is already an act of cheating? But, people can watch porn and still imagine doing such with their partner. Also, isn't the definition of cheating subjective to the couple? People's definition of cheating varies. So, if their partner doesn't consider their actions cheating on them, then they are not cheating.Let's admit that there are people like you who thinks watching porn is cheating, then whoever your partner is must be considered cheating on you whenever watching porn. However, for people who doesn't consider watching porn as cheating, then their partners watching porn aren't cheating on them. Get it?
I cannot fully agree with your last paragraph.Assuming that both partners accept the fact that watching perverted movies is not considered cheating, then how would you react in following situation.Mr. And Mrs. X are married since 20 years and both have a history of watching lewd movies. Mrs. X asks her husband to come to bed and share some intimacy. Mr. X says "hold on honey, let me just watch an X-rated movie so I can get in the mood for what is awaiting me".How would you, as Mrs. X feel is your husband tells you between the lines that you are not enticing enough and that he needs a little "push" to get him in the mood?Would you feel hurt? Would your self-esteem be raised? Would you think that his comment has done something to boost your values as a spouse? Would you perceive it perhaps as a humiliation or rather the opposite?Even if both of you agree to watching porn, the fact that he needs it to be intimate with you is sufficient enough to be emotionally cheating.
I don't understand your point. Hurting someone doesn't automatically means cheating on them.
OK, thanks for the chat
sueshe thinks being in the same room as the opposite sex is cheating.
@ChefPapiChulo Chef, your permanent picking goes on my nerves. I shall block you from now on. I already advised you in your previous identity that you are trolling the community. I see that you have not changed and are still the old Chef.Bye.
I can't fully agree, however I can understand where you're coming from... Just remember people have no control over what enters their heads, only whether they entertain the idea or act upon it
Well then you are gonna have to accept that your boyfriend is gonna cheat on you or are you gonna make some lewd videos of yourself for him?
And besides just by walking the stree if they see a pretty girl they might have a thought dirty thought weather it be subconscious or conscious
You said it yourself that the two of you changed. If either of you lied about something about yourselves, then I guess, that's indeed cheating. However, if you just changed overtime and your likes and dislikes changed along with it, then I don't think either of you lied to each other and cheated on that sense.
There's an expression: "Men marry hoping that their wives don't change. Women marry men hoping their husbands will."Some things are just a natural progression and that's normal a d part of life. Some are specific deceptions to achieve a goal. What about a spouse who spends money above their budget without discussing it with their spouse? What about a desire to have/not have children and not sharing that with the partner?Infidelity is just one deception in a marriage.
I guess that's cheating your spouse if you use your family money without the other's knowledge. Not sharing is different from telling a lie. If one would say they want a child and the other would say they want the same despite actually not wanting any, then that would be lying. However, if no one among the couple even talked about having or not having children, then neither of them lied to each other.
People make fun of premarital counseling because it seems old fashioned. In many ways I wish I had done it with my bride.The truth is that it's a great idea because it forces you to recognize, address, and confront these types of questions before the honeymoon.
This is the first time I heard of that. I think that would be nice if couples to be wed actually attend such counseling.
Some churches require it. Most recommend it. At least pastors over the age of 40 do.Marriage is more than just screwing and playing house.
I agree with that last statement.
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If they don't love their partner then why do they never their first partner and cry and beg like baby for them not to leave them? It's confusing
Crying and and begging for them not to leave does equate love. There could be many reasons for this. 1. Maybe the person truly is sorry for hurting the other person (doubt it) and does care for the other person (though not loves completely). 2. It could be a total ego thing where the cheater just wants to keep the other person around just to receive attention from the other person.3. It could be an insecurity/controlling issue where the cheater views the other person as their possession and therefore something that is theirs to keep and do whatever they want with.
Personally I think they truly love the person but they're egoistic and selfish and do all the things they want without thinking of caring if they hurt the other person but they still cherish the person.Love is a complicated things and in general I do not agree with people definition on it. there's tons of type of love depending on the person personality a person who's naturally selfish can love but it wouldn't be the same kind of love as a selfless person.
Then, the statement in question is false in your opinion, right? Coz it's not true. Not everyone cheats. The capability to do something doesn't imply that the person would choose to do it.
Yeah... that's what I said
Just making sure.
Still, what's your answer? I'm aware nothing is perfect but that doesn't mean that everyone cheats.
@sdtabot no but everyone is falsely accused
Okay. Not that anyone asked, but I got annoyed over someone claiming everyone cheats that's why I made this question. Anyways, thanks for sharing your opinion.
It's beneath me.
Why is it beneath you and what is wrong with answering polls?
It's beneath me to even respond to that.
That is a shockingly high number
@QooLipBite I don't think so I always imagined it to be higher like 70 or 80 % personally. In my country more than 60 % cheat and around 30 % of women cheat. In America it's 50 % for both.In Thai (and If I'm not mistaken in Denmark) more than 60 % of women cheat.For making it simple in general you have one chance on two to get cheated on. It's a risk to keep in mind.Things I don't understand is why so many people are crazy uptight about the monogamous stuff in relationship if half the population cheat. I don't understand. (I don't see the point of cheating either though).