Would you pursue a relationship with someone who has been in an on-and-off relationship for years with their ex but claims that this break is final?

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Also they are still friends with the ex as they have mutual group of friends and are in the same political party. So according to them it is difficult to completely cut the ex off and you have to just trust them.

Would you pursue a relationship with someone who has been in an on-and-off relationship for years with their ex but claims that this break is final?

Yes, it is unfair to otherwise ask them to leave their party or all of their friends

Yes, I am not insecure and I don't get jealous

No, On and off relationships are a tendency to fall on what is familiar. It is a behavior for those who can't really leave

No, men and women can never be really friends and especially with their ex. This is BS

No, too much headache. See my comments below

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Answer 1

CakesNCream

Xper 4

No, and it's not because I'm jealous or insecure. I just don't want to end up in a possible love triangle, or having anyone else being jealous of our relationship, expecially an on and off ex. I imagine this person getting something out of it whenever they hear of any disagreements between us.

Relationships are complicated enough without all that.

Answer 2

Brainsbeforebeauty | 334 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Yeah, I'm not really sure about that.. It's not the still being friends with the ex as much as the being friends with an ex that was on and off for years part. It would make me wonder if I'm just a fill-in for the off part till they back on again... To which:

mindNsoul

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yeah that was my thinking
Brainsbeforebeauty

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Always go with your gut feeling..
mindNsoul

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Thank you 🌹❤️
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Brainsbeforebeauty

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💜🤗
Brainsbeforebeauty

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Thanks for mh 🙂
mindNsoul

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you're most welcome 🌹☺️

Answer 3

mindNsoul

yeah that was my thinking

Answer 4

Brainsbeforebeauty

Always go with your gut feeling..

Answer 5

mindNsoul

Thank you 🌹❤️

Answer 6

Brainsbeforebeauty

💜🤗

Answer 7

Brainsbeforebeauty

Thanks for mh 🙂

Answer 8

mindNsoul

you're most welcome 🌹☺️

Answer 9

simonqq | 123 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

Well it seems risky when they have been going on and off for a long time. I'm not sure I would want to be part of that personally. I would take things very slow and see but it will be harder to trust that I will say. When there is a pattern it's hard to break that so with that in mind it would be difficult to find trust which is crucial for a relationship. I think if it has gone considerable amount of time since they were last together then it would feel better.

mindNsoul

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That's sensible. How are you by the way?

Answer 10

mindNsoul

That's sensible. How are you by the way?

Answer 11

Hazelstar99 | 65 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 5

On and off relationship is just like having your hopes up and down with a relationship. I don't want to be friends with my ex. I value my friends. Friendship is neutrality. Do I feel neutral about my ex? NO. My friendship is not a consolation prize for breaking my heart. I want to move and I wouldn't be able to do so if they are there.

Answer 12

Jamie05rhs | 885 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

If they're involved in politics together, then they kind of have to still be friends. But you can get involved as well if you want and become part of the group. He shouldn't have any problems with that if he doesn't have anything to hide.

Answer 13

Jjpayne | 1.8K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

I'd try out the relationship then wait to see the ex's reappearance. Once he/she steps back in. I'm gonna bounce 😎

mindNsoul

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they're friends and work together so the ex is pretty much there
Jjpayne

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That's a non starter then. Way too arkward and too much temptation that could happen...

Answer 14

mindNsoul

they're friends and work together so the ex is pretty much there

Answer 15

Jjpayne

That's a non starter then. Way too arkward and too much temptation that could happen...

Answer 16

Enochian

Xper 7

I won't. People on and off have a tendency to make most of their relationships like that. It they still haven't cut off their ex doesn't that still mean they "on and off"

mindNsoul

12 d
He says this one is final and he moved out of the city to be away from her. But they still friends and attend political meetings together. Merely platonic.
mindNsoul

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I'm not buying it though but I just wanted to hear what other people had to say 🤷‍♀️
Enochian

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Well that's okay I suppose. But from my perspective, most people wouldn't want to date someone who is still in contact with their ex.
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mindNsoul

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I hear you 👍

Answer 17

mindNsoul

He says this one is final and he moved out of the city to be away from her. But they still friends and attend political meetings together. Merely platonic.

Answer 18

mindNsoul

I'm not buying it though but I just wanted to hear what other people had to say 🤷‍♀️

Answer 19

Enochian

Well that's okay I suppose. But from my perspective, most people wouldn't want to date someone who is still in contact with their ex.

Answer 20

mindNsoul

I hear you 👍

Answer 21

Gedaria | 1.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

When you take the characters in friends it's a good example. Ross at times wanted a good slap. But he came across as really loving Rachel. It's that , that really counts...

Answer 22

DavidFox

Xper 5

They would need to cut off their ex if we got
Serious

Answer 23

msc545 | 442 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

No - I don't need anyone who is this ambivalent in my life. She has too much unfinished business and I don't need to be involved in that business.

Answer 24

Marilynjuana | 312 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

Absolutely not. People like that have more baggage than the JFK airport.

mindNsoul

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lol girl that was so funny 😂
Aakash_Hangargi

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I always read your name as Marijuana lol😅
Marilynjuana

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@Aakash_Hangargi Excellent >:3
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Aakash_Hangargi

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Is that on purpose you made your name sound like that?

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mindNsoul

lol girl that was so funny 😂

Answer 26

Aakash_Hangargi

I always read your name as Marijuana lol😅

Answer 27

Marilynjuana

@Aakash_Hangargi Excellent >:3

Answer 28

Aakash_Hangargi

Is that on purpose you made your name sound like that?

Answer 29

Anonymous

doing that shit right now at the moment with the psycho I love and when I say psycho yes I mean psycho she's been acting like one a lot lately

mindNsoul

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haha you are so loving

Tell her it bothers you. Maybe she loves you more than her ex.
Opinion Owner

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ahhh here's the thing she's been in a relationship with me for 3 years and is with some dipshit loser of a guy for 6 months now. I proposed this past valentines and the loser bum she's with now proposed 4 months into it. she didn't say a damn word to me if she would or wouldn't but accepted his proposal. but here's the kicker the deadbeat loser was to cheap to buy her a ring she had to buy one for herself. she sold her old home and used part of that money to buy herself a ring because the deadbeat wouldn't buy her one. even though I bought her one that costed thousands. granted not as expensive as the one she bought herself but still it was something she didn't have to buy herself the one I was going to give her.
mindNsoul

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So why are you with her now if she's is engaged and sleeping with someone else?

in your original comment you said you're doing this right now with the phsyco you love. Does this sound normal or okay to you! I'm just saying.
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Opinion Owner

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after being with her for 3 years I don't know what normal is anymore

Answer 30

mindNsoul

haha you are so loving

Tell her it bothers you. Maybe she loves you more than her ex.

Answer 31

Opinion Owner

ahhh here's the thing she's been in a relationship with me for 3 years and is with some dipshit loser of a guy for 6 months now. I proposed this past valentines and the loser bum she's with now proposed 4 months into it. she didn't say a damn word to me if she would or wouldn't but accepted his proposal. but here's the kicker the deadbeat loser was to cheap to buy her a ring she had to buy one for herself. she sold her old home and used part of that money to buy herself a ring because the deadbeat wouldn't buy her one. even though I bought her one that costed thousands. granted not as expensive as the one she bought herself but still it was something she didn't have to buy herself the one I was going to give her.

Answer 32

mindNsoul

So why are you with her now if she's is engaged and sleeping with someone else?

in your original comment you said you're doing this right now with the phsyco you love. Does this sound normal or okay to you! I'm just saying.

Answer 33

Opinion Owner

after being with her for 3 years I don't know what normal is anymore

Answer 34

DizzyDesii | 1.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Prob not. He prob backwashes

Answer 35

mrgspoter | 367 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

Nope

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