I'm guessing he lied about his age because I look very young and he thought he wouldn't have a chance with me if I knew his age. I look a lot younger than I actually am.
I see. 9-10 years difference is too much for me, too. Did he confess on his own or you found it?
It slipped out. He didn't confess. When he was talking to me on the phone, he said something like "In my 43 years, blah blah blah..."I caught that and said "Wait, you're 43? You told me you were 40."Then he lied AGAIN and said he never told me that.
Oh. That's a hugh sign. He tried to cover his trail. Scary. Please beware.
I will, thanks.
I agree with el_Te_de_la_Rosa. If they refuse to admit that they lied, even when caught red-handed, that's just an even bigger red flag than the previous one!
@Jamie05rhs You're right that not being able to admit to a lie is a really big problem in itself!
@Jamie05rhs Thank you.@Flower7 Thank you for the MHO.
@el_Te_de_la_Rosa You're welcome. The only reason I didn't like your comment is because I think that women lying about their age is just as bad.
@Jamie05rhs Okay. I disagree with lying about age if my message was not clear. I never lie about my age. Personally, I would like people to know how old I am. I prefer being respected rather than just looking young.
True, this will definitely add doubt about everything he says from now on.
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That's a very good point that if it wasn't an important thing to lie about, then that means there would be no reason to lie about it.
Yuck. That's WAY too much of an age difference!
You're right that I wouldn't have cared otherwise. It wasn't his age itself that bothers me, it's the fact that he lied about it. If he had told me his true age from the start, it wouldn't have been a problem. And yes, information should be told on purpose, not on accident.
Strangely enough, that exact same story has happened to me before. When I was 17 and a senior in high school, I was dating a 14-year-old freshman who had lied to me and told me he was also a senior and that he was the same age as me. I found out when one of his friends told me his real age.
That sort of thing is really serious at that age. Much different than a 43 year old claiming to be 40.
In my case, she didn't go to the same school, so I had no way of knowing what grade she was in. I ended up dating her friend, who was the same age as me...
You're right that it's a very serious lie in high school. Especially because as seniors, most students turn 18 during the school year. That leads to them possibly being sexually involved with a child when they are able to be charged as an adult.
True. Trust is a VERY important part of relationships!
Yes mam, indeed it is.
Well when we were talking the 1st time, I specifically asked him "How old are you?" He said 40. When talking on the phone later, he didn't intentionally tell me he was 43. It slipped out during conversation. He said something like "After being alive for 43 years... blah blah blah." And then I said "Wait, you're 43? You told me you were 40." Then he said that he doesn't remember ever telling me that he was 40. He said I must be mistaken.
Okay, that sounds like plain lying. I was wrong then
Now I think it is a red flag
Lol that's a definite possibility. There's a very good chance that's what happened. Time travel is such a common things these days.
You're right. This would definitely have an impact on the amount of trust I'd have in the future.
That's very true.
Right. I'll definitely be on alert.
But I am OK with that!! If she thinks she is 29, and wants to see what I can offer, then I am HAPPY to see her as 39 as I couldn't care less, about age!
I asked him about it and he lied once again. He says he never told me that he was 40.
Most likely because I look very young, younger than my real age. I'm guessing he thought he wouldn't have had a chance with me if he'd told me how old he was.
Sorry. I meant yes. Go have fun.