It's very true that someone who feels a lot of guilt about lying in general would also feel very guilty about the idea of cheating.The substance abuse connection is interesting. I hadn't thought of that, but it seems true because the guy who cheated on me was addicted to multiple illegal drugs, along with alcohol.
I'm not only basing it on my experience (she abused substances), but also people I knew who cheated, and the fact that a drug addict already gave in to pleasure before, so it makes sense that they would give in to it again and in other areas too
That does make sense! And I've seen that drug users tend to have lower morals in general than people who don't do drugs. That could be a part of it too.
Thank you very much for MHO! :)
Those are good things to look for. I hadn't thought about "serial dater" being one of the signs. But that makes sense because to find new people so quickly, they must be doing a bit of overlapping while still in a relationship with the previous person. I'm already not a fan of opposite sex friends, though I know I'm in the minority on that. Most people feel very strongly that people in a relationship should be trusted to have opposite sex friends, but I've never believed that. And yes, past cheating is a huge one also!
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I've been cheated on before in a relationship where he never even expressed to me that anything was wrong. I also wasn't turning him down.
which is why talking about things is a 2 way street. in order to help fix things for the better or to call it off.
Yes, my very first indication that anything was wrong between us was when I found out about all the other women. I'd had no idea that we even had any problems.
sounds like a total jerk if he was sleep around behind your back with multiple others.
He definitely was! I just wish I'd at least been given the chance to try and fix whatever caused him to do it.
Talking about other people who are the opposite sex is definitely a bad sign!
There's some very good tips in the other answers to this question. These comments have been very helpful!
The problem i see is many people do not have honor in themselves. I have faced many temptations and opportunities where now i wonder what i shouldn't have bothered because those exes of mine did not deserve my loyalty or my respect. But the one thing i do value is respecting myself. What kind of person i want to be and i am not going to do something that will jeopardize who i am as a person.
That's a really good way to look at it! It's true that cheating reflects badly in the person who'd going it and adds something negative to them.
Yes, unfortunately I've found that out the hard way!
You're right that friends are a good way to tell. A person who hangs out with cheaters is most likely a cheater also!
Naah... not always.. but yes!!He might be in wrong friends but he can be true tho...Just spend some time with him as a friend and take his opinion..You can't figure out if he is cheating or not before getting into relationship...If you are right and honest there is no reason to cheat..Just ignore small things.. be kind and calm..You can judge him by his parenting..
That's a good tip, thanks.
The comments here have some good info!
That makes sense. That would show that he or she is a dishonest person in general, which can carry over to all areas of their life.
To be cheating and lying are the same thing.
You're right about that!
I think this is the safest assumption, to be fair