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You sound like you are a loner, and I mean that in a good way.
I have stayed friends with all of my exes for at least a while (often a year or two, but in one case more than 10 years) and am connected with two of them on social media even decades after we broke up. My girlfriend is connected on social media with several exes also and we've had dinner with a couple of them.In my case, I stay friends with them because I date women that I like as people, not just for romance or sex. So even if the romance doesn't work out, I still like them as people. A romantic relationship is different than a friendship. Sometimes people make good friends, but not good romantic partners. My best friend for a few years was a woman that I really liked as a friend, but it was obvious (to both of us I think) that we would not be good romantic partners so we never went there.So I think exes can still be friends and not have it be toxic.
@CallMeDave it's rare because majority of breakups are messy and complicated.
I know of ugly messy breakups, but that hasn't been my experience. I wouldn't call any of mine ugly and messy. And from what I've heard from my girlfriend, I don't think any of hers really were either. Certainly we were upset with our exes at the time of the breakups, but once that emotion subsided, we were still able to be friendly toward them even though we have no desire to date them again. Even though the romances didn't work, there are still things we like about those people.
@CallMeDave yes in your situation and according to your intentions it's totally fair. But by messy breakup I mean that the one who cheated and also got caught or their secrets got revealed. Violent breakup is very different from a messy one.
I didn't read Dave's long paragraphs, but anyone wanting to remain friends with an ex isn't to be trusted. The fact that I don't want someone like that doesn't mean I wouldn't trust my girlfriend because of the temptation or insecurities: It means I think there is not a single good excuse for keeping an ex close, and I already heard plenty of arguments in favor of it from my cheating ex, so yeah, in the future, I will either be alone or with someone who respects me enough not to want to remain friends with their exes.
@RemoErdosain true Af
Did your girlfriend tried to come back to you?