If your man cheats, does it make a difference to you whether his affair was sexual or romantic? Would you be more forgiving in one of the two cases?

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If your man cheats, does it make a difference to you whether his affair was sexual or romantic? Would you be more forgiving in one of the two cases?

Yes, I'd be more forgiving of a sexual affair

Yes, I'd be more forgiving of a romantic affair

I'd be forgiving in both cases

No, I'm not going to think about our relationship anymore. It is done.

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Answer 1

Brainsbeforebeauty | 536 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

I wouldn't forgive either.
Either one shows he either felt he wasn't getting the physical he needed from me
Or the emotional, romantic from me
And instead of coming to me and seeing if we could work through those issues, he chose to be with someone else and get that from them.
So then he could KEEP getting it from them, because those actions would show her only thought about himself and his feelings not mine.
Noone I would want to stay in a relationship with...

Answer 2

HollyK21 | 427 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Both hit just as hard emotionally, because both circumstances could make the woman blame herself. Both routes could also make a woman wonder what she’s lacking and the mistress is making up for. So basically, there is no difference.

Mia-Wallace

7 d
Aha. Well, what if there is a woman who knows where she's lacking and accepts it? It's a hypothetical situation of course, but do you think that can make her more forgiving?
HollyK21

7 d
Like she’s ok with him cheating? I think that would be different, because the couple are probably accepting of an open type of relationship. In which case, she’d of course be more accepting of his “roaming eye” so to speak lol
Mia-Wallace

7 d
Yeah I guess. Though I was rather thinking about a committed relationship where the man has a sexual affair and the woman, knowing, for example, that she has let's say the X or Y condition and sometimes can't have sex, feels more forgiving about the situation.

Though as I'm imagining the situation, I can't help but think the chance that she will still be deeply hurt would not be low.

Answer 3

Mia-Wallace

Aha. Well, what if there is a woman who knows where she's lacking and accepts it? It's a hypothetical situation of course, but do you think that can make her more forgiving?

Answer 4

HollyK21

Like she’s ok with him cheating? I think that would be different, because the couple are probably accepting of an open type of relationship. In which case, she’d of course be more accepting of his “roaming eye” so to speak lol

Answer 5

Mia-Wallace

Yeah I guess. Though I was rather thinking about a committed relationship where the man has a sexual affair and the woman, knowing, for example, that she has let's say the X or Y condition and sometimes can't have sex, feels more forgiving about the situation.

Though as I'm imagining the situation, I can't help but think the chance that she will still be deeply hurt would not be low.

Answer 6

ChrisMaster69 | 59 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

A hard one but I would be more likely to forgive a romantic one.

the sexual one is a complete breakdown of trust, as funnily enough, you cannot accidentally have sex..

whereas our brains will totally fuck us over every chance they get, we are emotional creatures and are to some level (more in some than others) ruled by emotions.

it really depends on the nature of the romance.

I admit I would be tempted to double tap the other party.

Answer 7

Finchie40 | 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

If your man cheats on you then you shouldn’t even still be with him , by you taking him back is just wasted time , he already proved he doesn’t love and value you and he will more than likely cheat on you again because you are pretty much saying it’s ok that you cheated on me , value your self worth and can his ass

Finchie40

4 d
Thanks for MHO, hope you canned his ass
Mia-Wallace

4 d
Welcome. The question was hypothetical, my husband is quite loyal, so am I.
Finchie40

4 d
Then you should have nothing to worry about , until your gut instinct tells you something is off , usually trust your gut , I trusted my ex wife and stayed loyal to her until my gut sensed something was off and sadly I was right and busted her having an affair with a co worker , I canned her ass
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Mia-Wallace

4 d
Sorry to hear that. Hope you coped with it well. I will certainly consider your advice.
Finchie40

4 d
It’s something I don’t wish upon on anyone , but it was definitely something that sticks in you for the rest of your life , My outlook on relationships these days is completely different then my outlook back then , people can change for the better or for the worse , you never really know
Mia-Wallace

4 d
I understand. My hope is to keep everything more stable and make it through life with one partner as my grandparents, and I back my wish by thinking and planning ahead.

I hope you're happy however different your outlook has become.

Answer 8

Finchie40

Thanks for MHO, hope you canned his ass

Answer 9

Mia-Wallace

Welcome. The question was hypothetical, my husband is quite loyal, so am I.

Answer 10

Finchie40

Then you should have nothing to worry about , until your gut instinct tells you something is off , usually trust your gut , I trusted my ex wife and stayed loyal to her until my gut sensed something was off and sadly I was right and busted her having an affair with a co worker , I canned her ass

Answer 11

Mia-Wallace

Sorry to hear that. Hope you coped with it well. I will certainly consider your advice.

Answer 12

Finchie40

It’s something I don’t wish upon on anyone , but it was definitely something that sticks in you for the rest of your life , My outlook on relationships these days is completely different then my outlook back then , people can change for the better or for the worse , you never really know

Answer 13

Mia-Wallace

I understand. My hope is to keep everything more stable and make it through life with one partner as my grandparents, and I back my wish by thinking and planning ahead.

I hope you're happy however different your outlook has become.

Answer 14

weasley8 | 170 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

I’d be more forgiving it was romantic. Feelings can just happen sometimes and no one decides to have them. It’s not necessarily intentional. However, we are in control of our own actions. A sexual affair is a choice someone makes.

Answer 15

EmmaMary | 984 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Quite simply it would be me telling him where the door is... Goodbye.

Answer 16

Browneye57 | 3.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Fucking someone is different than talking to them, no? I mean, come on.

Thedivinechic

6 d
Where I think its valid is when you are loyal, and you find out the person you were always loyal to, kept going on dates, always on dating sites, breaking up, and just taking a advantage because they knew you were so in love that... you would always come back. But then that person wakes tf up and realizes you were a pawn a toy a game... I think texting someone else is justifiable. Does the punishment fit the crime? That's an understatement for emotional abuse. No ONE deserves emotional and mental abuse. I'm a tarot reader so I have dealt with really shitty cases. 🥺
Browneye57

6 d
@Thedivinechic - why do you speak in third-person terms? WTF does this even mean?
And what's with the 'deserves' thing? None of this even makes any sense.
Do you have a personal story? Or is this just all made-up bullshit.

Answer 17

Thedivinechic

Where I think its valid is when you are loyal, and you find out the person you were always loyal to, kept going on dates, always on dating sites, breaking up, and just taking a advantage because they knew you were so in love that... you would always come back. But then that person wakes tf up and realizes you were a pawn a toy a game... I think texting someone else is justifiable. Does the punishment fit the crime? That's an understatement for emotional abuse. No ONE deserves emotional and mental abuse. I'm a tarot reader so I have dealt with really shitty cases. 🥺

Answer 18

Browneye57

@Thedivinechic - why do you speak in third-person terms? WTF does this even mean?
And what's with the 'deserves' thing? None of this even makes any sense.
Do you have a personal story? Or is this just all made-up bullshit.

Answer 19

Thedivinechic

Xper 4

Let people do what they want. Karma will ALWAYS catch them.

Answer 20

collie22 | 77 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 6

forgive, then move on and don't look back life's to short

Answer 21

Anonymous

forgive not forget and keep emotionally distant from the person

Answer 22

Hanoi_Jane00

Xper 4

No. Cheaters always cheat.

Answer 23

Jamie05rhs | 1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

There is absolutely zero excuse for either one.

Answer 24

Kelly6 | 680 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Forgive

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