What are you fucking saying
Everything you hate hearing which is the truth. If you don't want to get married, that's your choice. But you have no right to screw up and hinder somebody else's life. Either you want a family or you don't. Children don't deserve to be in a place of uncertainty and neither does the potential mother.
Many people are like me
And that's why many people are miserable, unhappy, have so many Partners, many problems, and then you bring children into the world, and then you create the same cycle. You people must like generational curses.
Remember everything you do now affects your entire Offspring and your bloodline. You better seriously think about that before God forbid you wipe your bloodline out.
If you want to screw yourself up that's fine. But I don't think it's fair to be screwing up your children. Otherwise do bring them into this world that way when they God forbid end up with the same problem they have you to blame. They can't blame God.
What you doing is that a cowardness and fear. You ain't doing this for The Logical, rational, honourable, and more reasons. What you talk about is a psychological problem. Not a logical one. Because I promise you this has nothing to do with children and I bet you you definitely do not want children. Because if that was really the case you would want to get married. You would already had a baby by now. And it's not because you ain't financially stable yet. You got to have the right mindset to have children and have a family. Anybody could be a biological parent but not everybody is a mother or father. Just admit that you just don't want any legal responsibility for anything so that way it's up to screws up you can easily run out. Rather hear that you're a coward than to make out like your family man.
Many people that I know of around me. And that includes my friends and families that had children out of wedlock, living in single-parent homes, grew up in single-parent homes have a lot of things in common. It's more difficult than if you were married. Many have trauma. And then adapted the same trauma as their own parents, and then they create the same trauma for their own children. Many people who have children outside of marriage never play that they have children outside of marriage. That I've avoided the kids, or they kept them because they felt it was the right thing to do. Very few people ever deliberately decide to have children out of wedlock. You don't think man. And I don't think you care to think. All your cares about yourself. You do not love your girlfriend and you better stop telling her and everybody else that lie. I never heard of a loving man speaking that way. You just want control and as long as it's with you you feel secure. If you walked away then you feel like the whole world's against you. This is a mental problem. And now you trying to convince everybody to believe your BS. Keep living in a fantasy buddy. Sooner or later she's going to want to walk. This is controlling and is abusive.
Either they aborted the kids or they kept them*Never planned to have*Let your girlfriend get pregnant with a father who's ignorant, I would not be shocked you would not know what to do, I would not be shocked you're going to regret it, and I won't be shocked she's going to regret it. Not having a child. But having a child with someone like you who she will not be able to depend on. Because what I'm saying from what I'm hearing and from what I'm gathering, either you're not going to be able to tolerate it and run, God forbid have her get an abortion if she doesn't already do it herself, you're either going to be forced to take care of he or she, or you going to have no choice but to put he or she up for adoption. Marriage provide stability. The so-called civil union with no government acknowledgement let alone God having acknowledgement leads to uncertainty and much stress.
My suggestion for you is that you take that up with the professional serapis, psychiatrist, whoever that can deal with your trauma because I can hear and see this is all due to past trauma more likely from divorce of your own parents. Let me make this clear to you. you are free to live your life however way you wish. But remember. When you request a partner, when you request have a family, when you request to have children, it's no longer about you. It's about the welfare of the people you request to be in your life. Children never asked to be born and they never asked to be born in predicaments situations and circumstances and not the environment and family they are born into! And you have nerve to talk that nonsense how you don't need marriage! Good! Because if you don't need it understand who does. You're girlfriend. Her children if they're ever going to come from your seed (sperm). If you're not going to be mad for yourself all the more reason why you need to give marriage to those who does need it since you said you loved so much. Love is a sacrifice. And you are unwilling to sacrifice therefore you don't love.
I don't need marriage Understand what I said
As I said as a 23 yr old yes u do not. When u are older u may or will. So read what I said especially the last sentence before your reject what I say
I dont need marriage
I never said u do. But if u are not willing to listen than don't ask a 43 yr old for opinion
You dont listen to me
I am reading but u are not i said stay single until u are ready and older because as of this moment u have are immature boy not a man ready to marry
Im immatureI have a girlfriend and i have said this to her and she understands meI love her for realIm with her for 9 years
U are 23 u will change ur mind like I change my socks. Do not marry dont have kids till u ready
I dont need marriageI can create a family without marriage Do you ubderstand?Open your mind and understand
You are closed minded
You are like a sheep
I don't see how I'm close minded when I completely considered your points (which are very few already) and made my own points, questions, and arugmentsYet all you could come up with as a response is a typical "u a sheep lol"Come back when you learn how to discuss things like an adult
I know how to discuss And I'm discussing right now And yes You are sheep
You are just dumb
"u r dumb lol"That doesn't sound like intelligent discussion if I'm being honest
Is that your entire response?
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Your right. If you think about it, it’s really a religious thing. And all those atheist, guess what? surprise lol you believe in God.
@R3DthatDude Yes, I think it's mostly a religious thing, some people might get a tax write off (but I don't think it's enough to write home about if I'm not wrong, just based off of what I've heard), and I think the rest is just cultural or they really want to throw a party, lol.
I just dont need marriage Just dont need itNot againts itJust dont need it
WTF are you talking about
Exactly what i just said. Just being family isn't enough for me. I prefer marriage before we create a “family”
My parents have been committed to each other for 40+ years and have been unmarried due to political disagreements with the role of marriage in society and the patriarchal norms surrounding it. It's a bit odd to accuse others of lacking trust when apparently a person needs to commit to marriage before they can be trusted to remain faithful.
@Derekk im speaking for myself. Good for your parents but i wouldn't want kids with a guy outside of marriage first. Otherwise, i’d be a single parent and do invitro or adoption
This is stupidA family is 2 adults and children
No it's not always... So a married couple that is married for 40 years is not a family if they don't have kids? That is stupid!Single people who don't have kids don't have family 🤔 They still have "family" just don't have kids... Kids are only one part of a family unit... You don't have children right? So that means you have no family? 🤔
LmaoThis was great answer
@pigoat 🙂 thanks! Hope you have kids cuz otherwise you don't have a family 🙄🤣
If you dont have childrenYou dont have anything
No if you don't have LIFE you don't have anything...
The meaning of a family are children
def: The family is the foundational institution of society ordained by God. It is constituted by marriage and is composed of persons related to one another by marriage, blood or adoption. The family is a fundamental institution of human society. Genesis 2:20-25, 4:1. Exodus 20:5-6, Joshua 7:10,15,24-25, 2 Kings 13:23.
Notice how MARRIAGE listed first 🤔
But you never answered, you have no kids, so you have NO FAMILY right? Sounds stupid, don't it 🤷🏼♀️
Why you need family without kids?You can't have new people without kidsYour country needs new people
I'm sorry but you don't make much sense.. So a man and woman say they were married 49 years but we're unable to have children, means they weren't a family 🤔 I'm not saying families shouldn't have children duh hits your definition of family that's wrong
Really Your country will not survive without children
Not every person has to have children... Not every person in the past had children yet here we still are... But aren't you getting sidetracked, wasn't this whole post about you not wanting marriage, yet you expect a woman to have your children 🤔
Many people have children and are not married
@pigoat right 🤷🏼♀️😂😂
Marriage is marriagedoesn't mean family
i know that but i bet if you worded your declaration differently you would have got a different responce. thats all im pointing out.
Anybody who wants a family without marriage
Why is odd
I know many people like this
To some not all wanf nartiage