it sounds like she leads with the love and you respond in kind. so there is conflict then, but you work on the communication and understanding. I wonder if her expression of love is really her wanting that from you... first. being nosey... girls are indirect often and we project what we want... sometimes. But maybe it is her doing what is natural for her and reciprocating is satisfying and the chemistry works.
Nothing she does is manipulative. And she doesn't pry into my business at all. My thing is, I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. But I never had any intention of settling down, getting married or having kids. I was interested in having adventures and exploring life. So, after the infatuation phase of several months or a year, I eventually moved on, even though the girls were good people and pretty. I liked them a lot, hanging out, talking, doing things together and sex. I just felt that I needed more experience.By my mid-30s, I started thinking that I should find a life partner and settle down. I moved into a house with one woman who turned out to certifiably nuts. That didn't end well. After that, I met another woman who was my physical ideal. We virtually lived together for over a year. I loved her with my entire heart and soul. I never loved anyone so deeply. But we wound up breaking up for reasons that are complicated and she later moved out of state. We later reconnected on Facebook and talked on the phone a few times, and remained good friends. She was an amazing person and I will always be grateful for having known her. She passed away a couple years ago from a sudden medical problem. It left a hole in my heart that will never heal.
After that breakup, I met my future wife. She was different. We hit if off immediately on a new level. I could tell, very early on, that she was completely trustworthy. We had similar ethics and values even though we were quite different in many ways. Over time, I came to grips with deep seeded trust issues from childhood and also from the two previous relationships. I also learned how to communicate better and to seek win/win compromises when we did have disagreements. She respect my knowledge and I respect her intelligence, insightfulness and intuition. She's wise and completely genuine. So it's not that I gave anything up. I gained more maturity and gained more insight because of her. By my mid-30s, I began seeking true love, even though I didn't know what that was. With my wife, I finally learned the true meaning.
yes if can trust other person completely and work together, love and respect, that really works. I always read your writing and look to learn from your experiences. Intuitives are special and very powerful. special gifts in that.I'm reading about childhood trauma now.
Childhood trauma. Interesting subject. I haven't studied it. Aside from major trauma like physical, emotional or sexual abuse, everyone suffers trauma growing up, right? It happens from schools, our peers, authorities. Our parents mind fuck it without intending to. I was actually very fortunate growing up. But I notice that when I recall and talk about certain events, I get pretty worked up. It's interesting how some things bury themselves in our psyches and influence our personalities.It's all part of the human experience. Our job is to learn.
Exactly right. And one persons trauma is anothers excitement... all how it is perceived and processed, repetition, etc.. Once I started to understand sub conscious mind and some basics... humanity makes sense. Bible makes more sense, opened up understanding. I have better understanding of liberal thinking, etc.. Relationships often expose the childhood wounds we have to grow out of. In short... the wounds... are in control. It's emotional programming. Think of all the rock songs we repeat... conditioning someone elses problems. Rap songs... the worst... no wonder so many get stuck in their culture... it's repeated and reinforced.
Interesting point about music. So many songs are about trauma, aren't them. Mostly, but not all, about the trauma of loss or loneliness. Obviously, many people relate to those messages.
yes, I can relate to it being a fallen world... emotionally and we have to climb out of that to find the love which is what we are drawn to. or at least most of us. people pass on their pain. Of notable for me:The Rasberries (Eric Carmen): "please go all the way" - really gotta have the girlEric Carmen: "Never gonna fall in love again" - ooooohhh... that one hurt!! :)good stuff...
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