So I was wondering? Is it emotionally cheating?

[Anonymous]

I'm experiencing this. It didn't start out with the intent things would evolve into an "affair". The other woman is a long time friend. My wife was always involved and knew everything because I talked with her about it.

That being said, the point at which things crossed the line wasn't obvious, either. Because of this, I believe a "friendship" between a man and woman isn't truly possible. The friendship reciprocates actions which continue to compound on each other until ultimately it must consummate or end. As time went on, I began thinking of the other woman a lot. And not necessarily in sexual ways. I worried about her when she was sick. Genuinely cared about what was important to her. I defended her interests and knew what made her happy. I dismissed these actions as just being a good friend.

She'd find excuses to see me. Call me for help. Find ways to talk with me. She'd look for things lacking in my life and act in ways to show me she was observant and caring. I don't feel that she wanted me to leave my family for her. She only wanted to feel loved.

The emotional foundation became so strong that when it stopped, it hurt. It was only then I realized I had fallen in love with my own friend.

[meeso13]

When your girlfriend starts talking with someone and confiding with a co-worker of the opposite sex feelings could develope, and when you're with her she's thinking about someone else. Those feelings don't go away overnight. If your girlfriend needs. An outside source to talk about her problems too you're doing something wrong. Your not there for her and you should change that quickly

[Jennyblonde]

Emotionally cheating is when you are in a relationship and you are over sharing your personal life with someone who is not your partner... this develops into feeling they know you so well and only they can understand you, you become dependant on their support, even telling them news before sharing with your partner and complaining about your relationship to them. Its not always sexual but can develop into more due to feeling so close to them. Its cheating because you should be doing these things with your partner but your doing it behind their back. Dressing a certain way and looking your best when you are meeting them comes when the flirtation stage starts and its gone beyond just someone to talk to.

[SueShe]

Simply talking with someone of the opposite gender does not make anyone an emotional cheater.

As the terms says, there needs to be emotion, but not the kind of emotion that you have if you are exchanging views of a non sexual topic.

I consider emotional cheating any activity that involves the sexual/erotic thought of someone else while being in a relation. Also, the fact to watch pornographic content while in a relation without the knowledge, consent/approval of the partner. Both conditions must be met in order no to be considered emotional cheating.

Everyone is master of their thoughts and having lewd thoughts about someone else is the very first step towards actual physical cheating.

[Ash525]

No emotionally cheating is catching feelings wirh someone else while you're already inna relarionship.
I usuallt see this happening if a girl is having issues with her SO and then maybe goes to talk about her relationship issues with one of her guy friends and then ends uo developing romantic feelings for him and them BOOM an entanglement...

[cjgsu]

Itz simple. Everything I do with a male friend i am willing 2 do in front of my man cuz I got nothing 2 hide.

If ya ain't able or willing 2 let them know than yo ass shouldn't be doin it.

[Secret6620]

Jenny blonde said it BEST! Her post is excellent and I agree with her 1000%.

[Angieeebabieee]

Are you cool with he doing what you are doing? if so, then no. If not then yeah it's cheating.

[Wise4myage]

Its emotional cheating if sexting and exchanging nude pics are involved. Or If it leads into it.

[Dave31989]

If you have to ask if it's cheating, it likely is

just the thought of it, is, too

[Avicenna]

It is emotional cheating