He’s... tracking me?

[Ozanne]

Take the tracking device out of your purse and stick it in a drawer in your bedroom -- someplace he can't find it and leave it there. Don't accuse him of anything. Watch his behaviour. See if he asks you things like: "Were you home all night?" You can say something like, "No I went to the mall for a while." -- see how he reacts. If you get some indication that he's asking strange things pertaining to your whereabouts, then you can go from there. If you confront him, he'll deny it. So get your ducks in a row first so you have some backup on how you know it was him for sure.

[GingerGuy]

People love to jump right to the negative lol. Well first, being that I don't know him AT ALL or what he's like (you would have a better idea of that of course), I can't say. But, generally speaking (again without knowing his behavior or your relationship), I wouldn't jump to conclusions. I'd simply go to him with the device in your hand and say, "I found this in my purse today, did you put it there?" Get his side of the story first before jumping to any conclusions or making any decisions on the future of your relationship.

But, if your relationship is crap already before this (kind of sounds like it lol), then?

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I would say let the games begin & most of all as of the moment don’t tell your boyfriend anything & send him on a little goose chase. For starters you can do a few things. As for the first adventure you can put the tracking device in a box & ship it across your country to some random business & inside leave a note to please ship it back this is a test. On the other hand you can always glue or tape it to the bottom of his car & let him track himself & if he figures it out say tag you’re it.

[SueShe]

I would turn the joke around and tell him the following

"I came across a tracking device hidden in my purse and I thought I was stalked. So I brought it to the police station, pressed charge against unknown. The police said that they will be able to track the owner of the device because of finger prints and the serial number of the device. They asked me to submit samples of my finger prints for reference".

See how he reacts to that statement. If he starts panicking or behaving oddly, then your suspicions can be confirmed.

[Desconhecida]

I think you should confront him about this
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[Bee-Hatch]

Well firstly it's interesting the number of men answering along the lines of if you've nothing to hide, why would you worry. Guys you should feel shame that you think it's ok to infringe someone's basic rights like that.


Next up. Huge red flag there. Assuming it's your boyfriend. I'd be wary.


But what would I do? Buy a roll of the strongest tape I could find. Get on a quiet bus and tape it under one of the seats. Get off at the next stop. Let him go chasing busses all day trying to figure it out. Then check regularly for tracking devices. Also look into anything installed on your phone you don't know of. It's possible to track you via a phone these days.

[Elsa143]

Yes you should leave him.
Because guys who themselves are cheaters, worry about that whether their girlfriend is faithful or not.
If he was that honest and loyal, he should also have let himself be tracked by you. But he's only tracking you behind your back and he himself is free to go anywhere (that means he can cheat).
It's controlling, disrespectful, selfish and FISHY.
DUMP HIM FOREVER THEN GHOST HIM.

[iseekpinetrees]

Thats definitely a red flag for me. Its up to you if you want to confront him or not. Personally I'd bury it on the side of the house. And see how he acts first. Then in a month or so ask him about this device in your purse. And see if he unburied it. Or dick with him n shove it in different places for a week.

[chriscdi]

the intentions aren't always bad so try talking to him about it, my ex had some bad experiences lets just say and i gotta admit something like this crossed my mind at times, of course with her knowing but point is you won't know the reason unless you talk to the person about it

[Anonymous]

It depends on how he treats you the rest of the time. Please do yourself a favor and read Josette Sona's free ebook "Woman to Women". It gives a good list of warning signs to look out for in significant others. If your boyfriend fits the descriptions in the book, you might want to break up with him - for your mental health and safety. Good luck, hon.

[Dre_808]

Wow, that's pretty extreme. I think you should definitely confront him and ask him why he did it. He obviously has some trust issues, and if the trust issues are that bad it may be time to find someone else. If someone is willing to go that far, that a huge red flag.

[Koalamate]

This is a red flag.
Obviously he doesn't trust you.

I would calmly take out the tracker and act like you don't know what it is and allow him to explain he's tracking you and why.
Listen to his maybe insane response and explain that it's a boundry crossed and a huge red flag.

Maybe think about why he did it you may have been acting like your have been cheating in him.

Good luck.

[bowenw]

He's probably a control freak that doesn't trust you. If a guy goes to this extreme you probably don't want anything to do with him. I agree with others that said you should put it on or in something to get even with him. Maybe hide it under the seat next time you're in an Uber, or mail it to someone far away.

[Molly37]

Take it seriously. My ex husband did that while we were married at first I laughed about it. It will only get worse. I believe if he doing that he probably has some sort of person disorder

[Levin]

The fact that you even need to stop and think about whether you need to leave him explains why women stay with so many hopeless and abusive men for so long.

[kmala]

HahaHa lol he is funny but he loves you very much he would be checking on yoyr daily routine where you go and maybe he would take you back to the streets or places where you love to go or maybe he is checking you are not attracted to someone else andmaking love which in another word given by stupid world is cheating but its a funny act , i think its his first relationship

[NamerOfStars]

That's pretty scary. Are you certain that that's what the device is, and/or that no one else could have slipped it in your purse?

[candycandy02]

Maybe he has trust issues, or maybe he just got out of a mental hospital or maybe he is a weirdo/a killer.

Anyway it is a super red flag, run while you can.

[thrombis]

Are you certain it 2as him and not an actual stalker? It wouldn't be too hard to stick one in there. Also might have put it in there like guys do for keys so it wouldn't get lost. Also are you always looking for your purse? He might think he is being helpful and not a dick. Do q little thing called communication first and see what really is happening here. If he didn't do it then you should contact the police for sure. Also get a taser of pepper spray.

[Ackpain]

I would say leave him, he clearly doesn't trust you if he feels the need to track you

[TheReturnOfTheGrump]

I don't know they shouldn't be doing that tho without telling you.

[Schnyder21]

Definitely confront him. Not sure how he was expecting you not to find it?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Any man who puts a tracking device in your purse is possessive of you
yes it is red flags he is trying to find out where you are going and this is serious
yes he is a control freak and once they do this other things happen

[ik9999]

Have the "talk".
Aren't you curious why he did it? Evaluate his answer and take a decision.

[Unit1]

Bad news!
I suggest you bring it to the cops and press charges against the perpetrator (and preferably if you are as sure as you say you are it was him, then not tell him).

[NoblesseObligeKK]

Thats a pretty big red flag, you guys talk about boundaries yet or just leaving it up to assumptions?

[TallAnon]

Go to the police with it before telling anyone. That is highly illegal and he could get violent when pressured.

[Anonymous]

You're talking about leaving him before you even know if he's done anything?
I'd hope you'd show a little trust and talk to the boy.
If he later does appear to have some worrying habits then definitely leave him and cut off all contact.

[Sarah44444]

Well for starters you should ask him why he's doing it but it also goes to show he has trust issues. And with no trust there no stable relationship

[chHaynes]

You would have to confront him and then leave them cuz it just means he has issues

[Anonymous]

Dunno if it is okay to see only the negative part? What if someone kidnaps you or you get in trouble? that tracking device could be usefull too. Unless if he seems psycho I don't think you have something to worry about?

[andreasderjuengere]

Drop the thing in a long range train and have fun seeing what happens.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Ohh.. that obsessive little bastard. Be prepared. Focus, fight, win. Honor is in the challenge.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Leave him

[Agem123]

That's a big red flag.

If I were you I'd break up with him.

[Missycloak]

Wow I can't believe that no one posted this:

1. First u have to know that the tracker is his.
2. Then you have to find out whether he put it there intentionally or dropped it by accident.

[Anonymous]

I also keep a device in my girlfriends purse but it is meant for her protection because she is my life

[iFarted]

Don't assume, go ask him in a calm civil manner about it. If it is indeed him that put it in your purse to track you then it's time to move on.

[Anonymous]

That's controlling behavior and you need to talk to him about it and be as mad as you want to be.

[Anonymous]

What type of idiot puts a Tracking Device in their Girlfriends Purse? I wonder if he actually did that because that's really dumb.

[Anonymous]

You need to stop being immature and let him track you. Do you have something to hide?

[Anonymous]

You are his girlfriend. He has a right to know what you do and where you go. If you have nothing to hide, what's actually the problem?

[Solstice777]

Yea this didn't really happen.

[Inquisitive3]

That is creepy af. Get away from him.

[Equi2ube]

Hide it in his best friends car.

[Guffrus]

Stick it to his car.

[Jmmmfi4]

This is fucking nuts

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him about it

[michael1469]

Put it in his car...