Man I agree 100% to this. Honestly there are some women out there who wouldn’t care about the reproduction stuff and dried up pussies. Sometimes I have the problem with my boyfriend because there’s clearly something wrong and when I ask him if he wants to talk about it he says he doesn’t like opening up because it’s weird or whatever. I know that they have to deal with the “be a man” shit but all I ever want to do is help him feel better and I always wish that when he wants to cry he’ll cry and if it’s in front of me I’d hold him and wipe his tears away and assure him that I’ll be with him no matter what. I don’t know what men go through but I do know that it’s a harsh society and I feel truly sorry for what they have to go through. Do you have any advice on how to get him to open up though? I know there are plenty of other comments but you seem like a more wiser person.
@piglet94 I honestly don't know. Personally I'm a pretty open person. Like, I don't give a fuck lol. I feel like to some degree a man has more power to get another man to open up than a woman does. Because as I said, it's all about reproductive success, so opening up to a woman is the last thing a guy wants to do. He doesn't want to cuck himself into inceldom. Or at least that's what we believe is the result.I've had dudes open up to me. But only because I'm open myself, because I don't give a damn. For example, I might say to a guy "well I don't know, don't ask me about women, I'm no player fucking hoes left and right." Like no man wants to admit that within him is a lacking ability to secure a date/sex/love with a woman. Most of the time, guys put on an act as if they could get a girl when in reality their dating success is garbage compared to where they wish it really was. And the majority of men are not pimp playas bagging girls left and right.And when I say something like that, some guys will agree with me and they open up as well. Some guys who are better with girls than I am will actually open up themselves as well, and they'll offer me advice on how to get girls.I was talking with a guy recently about family. We both have family troubles. And I don't mind sharing that my family sucks lol. And then he started opening up too and we had some genuine conversations about the troubles and trials of family issues. Being close to our mothers or whatever.
But I'm pretty blunt about it. I don't start tearing up about my relationship with my mom or anything. I remember I told the guy, I love my mom for sure. But there's just an issue there where she's crazy and she can't understand my own problems. And the other dude is like yea man. Me too dude.I remember I told the guy I had dreams about deploying. I was in the military so I have dreams whre I deploy to the middle east. And the guy told me he has dreams where his mother is screaming at him. And because we both had talked about our lives growing up a bit, that was something you usually wouldn't share with a guy. And I told him I have those dreams too where I'll literally wake up with my heart pounding because i'm dreaming about my mom being a psychopath when i was growing up.So that was nice. And I often get other dudes to open up to me just because of how honest I am about myself. But I'm never moaning and complaining and crying about shit though. I'm not using it as this emotionally charged thing where I "let off steam." it's more of like, a logical thing. I'm just talking about things that may bother me emotionally to some degree, but I'm not telling the guy with fuckin tears in my eyes about it. It's almost more like a clinical thing lol. I tell a guy my problem and he analyzes the problem and helps to offer me a solution. And vice versa.
I don't know what you as a woman can do. All I can say is if you address emotions while being emotional I think that's not going to work. You could try what I do, say something about yourself and be honest, but don't expect anything from him as a result. Just say it because you felt like sharing it. Maybe you feel your situation relates to his situation or something, and you're offering your own experience and how you handled it as a sort of tool for him to use on his own problems.I guess? I mean I don't know lol. It's harder because you're someone he loves and he doesn't want to lose you because he's afraid he's gonna dry up your pussy lol.
But anyways, i usually tend to avoid being too open with guys. Because then they will latch onto me and annoy me lol. I like to be alone, I'm anti social. If I'm too open, dudes will like, fall in love with me or something. Not literally in love but you know, like they want to be my friend and talk to me and shit, when in reality I don't want any friends and I don't want to be bothered. It's a powerful thing to be open like that. Especially when being open is seen as weakness. But I am not weak. I am strong, I can say whatever I want and nobody can hurt me lol. The main reason I don't tell people about myself is because I don't want them to get attached to me lol.
Lol you must not be on here often. There à Lots of creepy questions from women
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That reminds me.. one time I found out that my girlfriend was telling almost every deep personal thing I told her to my mom. Stuff that I didn't even feel safe to say to my girlfriend till we had been together for many years. Talking to women is like talking to the CIA/FBI/911. You never know.
@hahahmm Yes! Women say they want to hear a man's thought and fears... until he tells her his thoughts and fears, than she is disgusted with him.There is no future in telling a woman your worries, she will end up hating you for it.
@KrakenAttackin @hahahmm You both NAILED IT perfectly!
Exactly. Amazing how many guys don't get it. For example when my dad died, I had to be strong for my mom & sister, not blubbering out of control like them. That also allowed me to make some decisions or help them make decisions that needed a clear head. It's just how it is.
@Drakkith Surveys say that all hetero women prefer traditional "sexist" men, regardless of what they say to suckers or spout in the media. They laugh at the feminist males and other guys who sit around kissing their butts all the time.
@hahahmm If you think that women prefer men who never ever open up to them, then you are seriously mistaken. You can be a 'traditional' man and still open up to your woman when appropriate without her thinking you're 'unfit to mate with her'.
@Drakkith If you think women are honest or even know what they want half of the time they're talking you're mistaken. They are in touch with their emotions tho but emotions come and go. You can either do everything they want and become a subservient "woman" (a make who acts just like a woman) or you can say, "nah. We don't have to be the same. Deal with it."
@hahahmm I don't know why this is such an "all-or-nothing" thing. You can show some godamn emotions every once in a while without being a pussy. Fucking grow up and learn to think for yourself instead of listening to all this bullshit on the internet.
@cth96190 @hahahmm Very well said! Too many men have fallen into this trap. Yet again, I don't see why I should be vulnerable if I've been lead to believe all my life I shouldn't. I've embraced the burden of performance which includes not becoming an emotional little bitch.
9 months so far.
He might need more time than that. Some men are too used to close themselves up.
Men and their harboring of feelings. Not only do they make it hard on themselves but us too.
you should be asking*