What’s my moms problem seriously?

Question

My mom lately keeps questioning me all the time - where I go, whom I really see, etc... has even gone as far as threatening me to kick me out of the house and to “stay wherever it is that I stay “ when I’m not home...

she passionatley hates my ex boyfriend for no good reason... she thinks the guy abused me which isn’t true just because this other girl messaged her saying bad stuff about the guy which were not true at all... she also went as far as prohibiting me from leaving the house for 2 while months cuz she didn’t want me going to see him

so due to all this I’ve been seeing him in secret and have had no choice but to tell her that I have been seeing an old friend of mine whom she knows from years ago - but I’m really seeing my ex because me and him still love each other...

my mom was the cause of us breaking up - she was saying bad stuff to him that I’m slow and can’t take care of myself and that I can’t handle finances, etc... she was saying things to get him to change mind about me and she caused us to fight and break up at one point...

so what’s my moms problem and why should I do?

Wants to control me and run my life

Is jealous of my relationship (s)

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Updates:

23 d

She was even messaging and talking to that girl that bad mouthed my ex and told her lies... I had asked her not to get involved but she went ahead anyways...😢

23 d

My ex did nothing but help me out - helped me lose weight, cane to doctors appointment with me, etc... yet my mom hates him😢

Answer 1

Shiver | 195 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

If you're really 30-35 just go live with him honestly. At that age living with your parents isn't a good look anyway. It'll do you good, not having such a control freak around you all the time. Chances are that your relationship with her will even improve.

Screenwriter

19 d
This always happens. It's hard for a parent to let go and be objective when you're right under her nose. My son just officially moved out but still lives in the same town. I see changes in him that are so positive and I know he FEELS those changes.
He could've stayed home with his dad and saved money, but I think he knew he had to go and he wants the total privacy.
Now he can choose to tell us what he wants us to know. We can comment if we like, but it's his choice. He's in a nice place with decent roommates and he's learning what the real costs of being an adult are.
There are pros... the freedom... and the cons... the financial costs... But who would have it any other way once you've had it!
Shiver

19 d
Yeah, exactly. There will be growth on both sides. The financial sacrifice is well worth it in my eyes.

Answer 2

Screenwriter

This always happens. It's hard for a parent to let go and be objective when you're right under her nose. My son just officially moved out but still lives in the same town. I see changes in him that are so positive and I know he FEELS those changes.
He could've stayed home with his dad and saved money, but I think he knew he had to go and he wants the total privacy.
Now he can choose to tell us what he wants us to know. We can comment if we like, but it's his choice. He's in a nice place with decent roommates and he's learning what the real costs of being an adult are.
There are pros... the freedom... and the cons... the financial costs... But who would have it any other way once you've had it!

Answer 3

Shiver

Yeah, exactly. There will be growth on both sides. The financial sacrifice is well worth it in my eyes.

Answer 4

20yearsolder | 245 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

If you're 30 to 35 years old why are you still living in your parents' home. Get out, support yourself and do whatever you want. See who you want to see

Answer 5

Screenwriter | 255 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

At your age, why are you living at home? This is cause of your issues with your mom.
She can't be all in your business if you have your own place.

Answer 6

Anonymous

Move out of your mom's house! seriously...

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