What do I do if I really like someone, but I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend?

Question

I really like a boy in my class, but if I ever have a boyfriend my parents would kick me out of the house.

Secretly date him

Have a crying session

Just be close friends with him

Secretly date him, but don't go beyond kissing

I don't know, this question is too hard

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Answer 1

caring__1 | 267 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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First off, define what a boyfriend means to you. Are you in a rush to advance beyond your years, or could it be that your definition is similar to what others would define as a friendship? What would you do with a boyfriend that you wouldn't do with a friend who happens to be a boy? What do you believe you'd get from a boyfriend that you wouldn't get from a friend?

We all go through different developmental stages. We can experience the same behaviors at different stages, though how it impacts us and what its meaning is differs from stage to stage. Sometimes people experience things before they are ready to experience it. By the time they are ready to gain full value from the experience, they may have already become numb to whatever it was. Before we're ready, we may experience it as "Is that all there is?" confusion and letdown. Take time to gradually learn about social interaction, so you can learn more about yourself, what you value in potential partners (and what you'd prefer not experiencing), along with what relationships are truly all about (not just the fantasy and rush). Yes, a 5-year-old can play dress-up, wearing high heels and a fancy gown, but will that give her an understanding of what that experience will be like when she's ready for it? You may be very mature for your age, but learn to savor the journey and not rush to any end-goal. When you get around to making love, enjoy the process rather than just focus on the end, and it will be a much more positive experience.

Answer 2

ThisIsMyOpinion | 355 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

They will not kick you out of the house for having a boyfriend.

SparklyRoses

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How do you know that?
ThisIsMyOpinion

16 d
That is not normal. Did they told you they would do that?
SparklyRoses

16 d
yes, my mom did
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ThisIsMyOpinion

16 d
Wasn't she just trying to scare you?
SparklyRoses

16 d
I don't know, she sounded really serious
SparklyRoses

16 d
I'm pretty sure she would
ThisIsMyOpinion

16 d
Why don't you talk to them about it first? Tell them you have a crush on a boy and see how they react.
ThisIsMyOpinion

16 d
It's not normal to kick a child your age out of the house for having a boyfriend.
SparklyRoses

16 d
I so scared about telling them I have a crush, all of the women in my family have never even had feelings about a boy that's was never their husband
ThisIsMyOpinion

16 d
I don't believe that. Everyone has crushes over their lives.
SparklyRoses

16 d
You really think so, my mom has never had a boyfriend or had feelings for someone other than my dad
ThisIsMyOpinion

16 d
Trust me that is not what happens to most people.
I don't know what your mother is so afraid of. I mean is not like you want to have sex with your crush
SparklyRoses

16 d
It's against my religion to have a boyfriend
ThisIsMyOpinion

16 d
Change religion then.
SparklyRoses

16 d
I'm not sure if I'm willing to do that
ThisIsMyOpinion

16 d
When you are older think about it.
SparklyRoses

15 d
If I change my religion, I'll have no family
ThisIsMyOpinion

15 d
You are still too young. Just grow up first, then make that decision.
SparklyRoses

15 d
The girls in my class usually get into relationships, but they don't go beyond hugging and holding hands
ThisIsMyOpinion

15 d
Tell your parents that's all you want to do. Talk with them.
If they really reject it then just wait until you are older.
SparklyRoses

14 d
I guess I can try

Answer 3

SparklyRoses

How do you know that?

Answer 4

ThisIsMyOpinion

That is not normal. Did they told you they would do that?

Answer 5

SparklyRoses

yes, my mom did

Answer 6

ThisIsMyOpinion

Wasn't she just trying to scare you?

Answer 7

SparklyRoses

I don't know, she sounded really serious

Answer 8

SparklyRoses

I'm pretty sure she would

Answer 9

ThisIsMyOpinion

Why don't you talk to them about it first? Tell them you have a crush on a boy and see how they react.

Answer 10

ThisIsMyOpinion

It's not normal to kick a child your age out of the house for having a boyfriend.

Answer 11

SparklyRoses

I so scared about telling them I have a crush, all of the women in my family have never even had feelings about a boy that's was never their husband

Answer 12

ThisIsMyOpinion

I don't believe that. Everyone has crushes over their lives.

Answer 13

SparklyRoses

You really think so, my mom has never had a boyfriend or had feelings for someone other than my dad

Answer 14

ThisIsMyOpinion

Trust me that is not what happens to most people.
I don't know what your mother is so afraid of. I mean is not like you want to have sex with your crush

Answer 15

SparklyRoses

It's against my religion to have a boyfriend

Answer 16

ThisIsMyOpinion

Change religion then.

Answer 17

SparklyRoses

I'm not sure if I'm willing to do that

Answer 18

ThisIsMyOpinion

When you are older think about it.

Answer 19

SparklyRoses

If I change my religion, I'll have no family

Answer 20

ThisIsMyOpinion

You are still too young. Just grow up first, then make that decision.

Answer 21

SparklyRoses

The girls in my class usually get into relationships, but they don't go beyond hugging and holding hands

Answer 22

ThisIsMyOpinion

Tell your parents that's all you want to do. Talk with them.
If they really reject it then just wait until you are older.

Answer 23

SparklyRoses

I guess I can try

Answer 24

Aiko_E_Lara | 693 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Just do it secretly for an experience if that what really makes you happy. That's not really hurting anyone. Your parents is just being judgmental about that but just keep your sexual activities in control. You don't want to get accidentally pregnant early.

Aiko_E_Lara

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Also if your parents really dare to kick you out in the house, you have a right and that is a crime to kick you out of your house.

Answer 25

Aiko_E_Lara

Also if your parents really dare to kick you out in the house, you have a right and that is a crime to kick you out of your house.

Answer 26

Dchrls78104 | 1.8K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Consider your parents' concerns, listen to them, and wait until you are older ( at least 18) and more ready, to start dating.

Answer 27

pizzalovershouse | 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Be friends an learn if there worth standung by to be a boy friend

Answer 28

Unit1 | 4.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

You get into adulthood, get a job, get paid and then move out and live alone. No tyrants dictating your life.

Answer 29

GAGSucksBalls1 | 52 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 5

They just want to make sure that you graduate and all that, that's why they're so strict. They also don't want pregnant teenagers. Boys are dumb, remember that

Answer 30

Dinosaursandanime65 | 337 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

Maybe be friends for now then do it later?

SparklyRoses

16 d
That's kind of what I was thinking

Answer 31

SparklyRoses

That's kind of what I was thinking

Answer 32

Anonymous

You are too young to have boyfriend

Answer 33

ansera

Xper 1

𝙷𝚒 𝚐𝚒𝚛𝚕

Answer 34

Jmmmfi4 | 464 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

You're way to young

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