If you had to choose would you rather have a partner that you are intellectually compatible with or emotionally compatible with? Tell me why too?

Question

Intellectual Compatibility: Emotions are overrated.

Emtional Compatibility: Emotinal Intimimacy is the glue of a relationship.

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GirlGuy

Answer 1

DrunkAss

Xper 6

I tend to find whatever semblance of romance and affection leaning towards the emotional connection, and so I favored that in women I wanted to date. If talking about algorithms and data structures was my idea of connecting with a human being, I'd probably be gay since it's rare to find girls who are interested in that. But I'm not really interested in that for building connections with people. It's work. It's about building up my own skills and knowledge. I didn't wanna marry Data or Spock from Star Trek. If I could meet those in person, I'd wanna learn so much from them. But I don't wanna marry them, even if they resembled hot girls. I wanted someone who was spirited with a sense of passion and adventure and warmth of a kind I typically don't find in colleagues.

Coulis

13 d
Ih wow great answer! I totally get where you are coming from.
DrunkAss

13 d
I'm a bit of an extremist though. I work in a research-heavy field and surrounded by certain types of PhD types. For some reason, I can keep up, just in those one very specialized field, even though I feel wired like a dumb person and a misfit. But for the people I worked with in my area, including women, they all seemed so dry and "cold"... if they had a sense of humor it tended to be poker-faced and sarcastic. There's nothing "warm" about it. And while brilliant, that type of person is working towards the absolute bottom choice for me if I wanted someone with whom I can laugh and joke over dinner, or cuddle in the bedroom, or go on adventures with when we travel to various parts of the world.

Answer 2

Coulis

Ih wow great answer! I totally get where you are coming from.

Answer 3

DrunkAss

I'm a bit of an extremist though. I work in a research-heavy field and surrounded by certain types of PhD types. For some reason, I can keep up, just in those one very specialized field, even though I feel wired like a dumb person and a misfit. But for the people I worked with in my area, including women, they all seemed so dry and "cold"... if they had a sense of humor it tended to be poker-faced and sarcastic. There's nothing "warm" about it. And while brilliant, that type of person is working towards the absolute bottom choice for me if I wanted someone with whom I can laugh and joke over dinner, or cuddle in the bedroom, or go on adventures with when we travel to various parts of the world.

Answer 4

Avicenna | 4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

This is a very good question. If you aren't intellectually compatible, you may also have communication problems of a different sort. I'll opt for that as more important, but both are.

Coulis

13 d
Thanks! Yes, I agree to an extent. I think the type of intellectual mismatch plays a role.
Avicenna

10 d
Thanks for the mho

Answer 5

Coulis

Thanks! Yes, I agree to an extent. I think the type of intellectual mismatch plays a role.

Answer 6

Avicenna

Thanks for the mho

Answer 7

CurlyGirl42 | 52 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 6

Emotional compatibility for sure... I would just have to keep my intellectual relations elsewhere..
most of my family and some are my friends have a way different intelligence (other types of intelligence) than me, and I still connect with them in other ways, emotionally, with humour, common interests and so on..
For any close relation I would say emotional compatibility is more important.

Coulis

13 d
Hmmm.. intellectual elsewhere, eh? Intellectual stumulation can lead to a lot.
CurlyGirl42

13 d
yes, it can lead to great discussions and ideas about the world.. not sex or romance for me at least xD
ArrowheadSW

11 d
@CurlyGirl42 How is their intelligence different than yours? Just curious to see what your perspective is on this.
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CurlyGirl42

9 d
@ArrowheadSW well I am very logical and analytical in my thinking, and my main knowledge is in natural sciences.. some know more about emotional states and human behaviour, business minded, society minded, know about nature (plants and weather), handywork (can fix and even build an entire house).. requires different kind of minds or at least to spend a lot of time and effort getting so much knowledge on any of these fields
ArrowheadSW

9 d
Same here... Logical and analytical thinking. Science oriented.

Answer 8

Coulis

Hmmm.. intellectual elsewhere, eh? Intellectual stumulation can lead to a lot.

Answer 9

CurlyGirl42

yes, it can lead to great discussions and ideas about the world.. not sex or romance for me at least xD

Answer 10

ArrowheadSW

@CurlyGirl42 How is their intelligence different than yours? Just curious to see what your perspective is on this.

Answer 11

CurlyGirl42

@ArrowheadSW well I am very logical and analytical in my thinking, and my main knowledge is in natural sciences.. some know more about emotional states and human behaviour, business minded, society minded, know about nature (plants and weather), handywork (can fix and even build an entire house).. requires different kind of minds or at least to spend a lot of time and effort getting so much knowledge on any of these fields

Answer 12

ArrowheadSW

Same here... Logical and analytical thinking. Science oriented.

Answer 13

Hangry22 | 627 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Emotional compatibility. I am all about the emotions than about books that i stuff my mind up with everyday. Not something i wanna discuss

Coulis

12 d
So emotional compatibility is a release?
Hangry22

12 d
Kinda. I don't think i can be all lovey dovey over science

Answer 14

Coulis

So emotional compatibility is a release?

Answer 15

Hangry22

Kinda. I don't think i can be all lovey dovey over science

Answer 16

genericname85 | 3.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

i don't think it's very likely that one of those is very compatible and the other not at all.

Coulis

13 d
Sorry, I didn't quite catch what you mean.
genericname85

13 d
i mean i can't imagine that you're emotionally incompatible with someone, if you're very intellectually compatible.
Coulis

13 d
Actually living this right now... Very possible. I put a higher value in intellectual compatibility but am starting to think that maybe emotinal is what really helps with the tough times.
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genericname85

13 d
i think neither is possible either way. cause if they're not intellectually compatible, you will never be able to relate. i think it's quite similar in effect.

Answer 17

Coulis

Sorry, I didn't quite catch what you mean.

Answer 18

genericname85

i mean i can't imagine that you're emotionally incompatible with someone, if you're very intellectually compatible.

Answer 19

Coulis

Actually living this right now... Very possible. I put a higher value in intellectual compatibility but am starting to think that maybe emotinal is what really helps with the tough times.

Answer 20

genericname85

i think neither is possible either way. cause if they're not intellectually compatible, you will never be able to relate. i think it's quite similar in effect.

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