Does this make sense to anyone?

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So I was watching a movie with my SO and we were laughing and having fun... and then there was a part of the movie where the character had bad voices in his head telling him all these negative things (we were watching Soul on disney+).. I said damn that's like depression! My boyfriend starts yelling about how she should be depressed not me. How he is actual problems and I don't. Totally out of left field! And he keeps saying smart ass remarks about how I'm upset!
We just celebrated new years and had a fun vacation less than 3 days ago but I guess I'm sad? Where is this coming from!

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14 d

I guess the issue is that he thinks I'm sad all the time and always look at the negative.

Answer 1

Cherokeehp | 819 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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Well first, I also watched soul and I thought it was a fantastic movie. I admittedly did tear up a bit when 22 became a lost soul. I can relate to characters like that and I can relate to you.

My boyfriend gets upset because I’m depressed all the time. Sometimes he’s just frustrated that I can’t pull myself together, and sometimes he’s just upset that he doesn’t have the skills to help me. But it honestly just sounds like your SO was just being an asshole. Depression and pain aren’t a competition. The fact that he wants to compare your problems just to prove that he should be the one that’s depressed is weird. There are tons of factors at play that can cause some people to develop depression and others to not even when facing the same problems. Sometimes your body simply has problems formulating happy chemicals in your brain. Sometimes depression just happens, but the fact that he decided to hold that against you, especially at a time where you were doing well and enjoying yourself and just watching a movie is concerning. I don’t know you, or him, or your relationship but I suggest you take a moment to analyze your relationship. Does he always treat you like this when you mention depression or your feelings? Is he just lashing out because he is depressed himself? Just take a moment to analyze if this relationship is healthy and good for you both.

BlkR0ses669

13 d
Thanks. He is the king of projecting feelings. I never heard of this crap until I dated him. It's time to leave lol. I'm not a psychologist so I don't have the time of day to deal with this.
Cherokeehp

13 d
I’m glad you’re doing whats best for you.

Answer 2

BlkR0ses669

Thanks. He is the king of projecting feelings. I never heard of this crap until I dated him. It's time to leave lol. I'm not a psychologist so I don't have the time of day to deal with this.

Answer 3

Cherokeehp

I’m glad you’re doing whats best for you.

Answer 4

iseekpinetrees | 243 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

It sounds like you two need to sit down and talk more. Sounds like he's balling up some emotions if he's busting them out of no where.

BlkR0ses669

13 d
Yes he projects his feelings on to me. He will say I'm sad 2 minutes after I'm laughing. Or he will say I'm thinking of the worst side of life meanwhile I'm playing games and having fun with friends. You can't fight psychological projecting. I've tried. Nothing works except leaving that person.

Answer 5

BlkR0ses669

Yes he projects his feelings on to me. He will say I'm sad 2 minutes after I'm laughing. Or he will say I'm thinking of the worst side of life meanwhile I'm playing games and having fun with friends. You can't fight psychological projecting. I've tried. Nothing works except leaving that person.

Answer 6

bowenw

Explorer

It sounds like you hit a nerve with him. When he calms down try to ask him in a non-threatening way to explain what he was feeling and that you didn't mean to make him feel that way.

BlkR0ses669

14 d
I don't know sounds like I should just leave
bowenw

14 d
If he's not willing to explain himself and not treat you respectfully, you may have to leave.

Answer 7

BlkR0ses669

I don't know sounds like I should just leave

Answer 8

bowenw

If he's not willing to explain himself and not treat you respectfully, you may have to leave.

Answer 9

JKingOff | 210 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

Sounds like your significant other might suffer from mild schizophrenia and got a little offended when you compared the characters thoughts to depression.

BlkR0ses669

14 d
Well he shouldn't. I have depression. But when I talk to him about it. I highly fought he has it, if he does he's very hostile about it and I never seen ANYONE deal with depression the way he does. and I've been dealing with depression for 16 years and have many friends with it too. But he keeps accusing me. of being sad all the time. I'm the most smiley sweet person you could ever meet. When I'm laughing or happy it pisses him off even more it seems
JKingOff

14 d
I didn't say depression. I said schizophrenia.
BlkR0ses669

13 d
That makes way more sense!

Answer 10

BlkR0ses669

Well he shouldn't. I have depression. But when I talk to him about it. I highly fought he has it, if he does he's very hostile about it and I never seen ANYONE deal with depression the way he does. and I've been dealing with depression for 16 years and have many friends with it too. But he keeps accusing me. of being sad all the time. I'm the most smiley sweet person you could ever meet. When I'm laughing or happy it pisses him off even more it seems

Answer 11

JKingOff

I didn't say depression. I said schizophrenia.

Answer 12

BlkR0ses669

That makes way more sense!

Answer 13

alicat2358

Xper 5

That's weird. To me, it sounds like he thinks you're faking your depression for attention

BlkR0ses669

13 d
But the weird thing is that I literally haven't been depressed in like 6 weeks.. we just got back from vacation. And then had a kick ass new years. I've been the light of the party as usual. So I don't know what in the actual firing hell he's talking about hahaha

Answer 14

BlkR0ses669

But the weird thing is that I literally haven't been depressed in like 6 weeks.. we just got back from vacation. And then had a kick ass new years. I've been the light of the party as usual. So I don't know what in the actual firing hell he's talking about hahaha

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GAGSucksBalls1 | 52 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 5

Anything bad happen to you recently?

BlkR0ses669

14 d
No just got back from vacay... had an amazing trip, had a crazy fun new years. He keeps complaining about his divorce and about how I'm constantly looking at the bad side of life. I don't know where in the past 2 weeks he got that idea. he's a very unhappy person. And it's a huge turn off and he's always angry then projects his feelings on to other people. he almost ruined the trip because he made his brother really pissed by going off on one of his screaming tangents! Like yesterday when we were watching the movie
BlkR0ses669

14 d
And on the trip I was having a blast. Besides the fact he was on his phone the whole trip. Everyone got mad at him for it.
GAGSucksBalls1

14 d
Then don't you think you're overreacting

Answer 16

BlkR0ses669

No just got back from vacay... had an amazing trip, had a crazy fun new years. He keeps complaining about his divorce and about how I'm constantly looking at the bad side of life. I don't know where in the past 2 weeks he got that idea. he's a very unhappy person. And it's a huge turn off and he's always angry then projects his feelings on to other people. he almost ruined the trip because he made his brother really pissed by going off on one of his screaming tangents! Like yesterday when we were watching the movie

Answer 17

BlkR0ses669

And on the trip I was having a blast. Besides the fact he was on his phone the whole trip. Everyone got mad at him for it.

Answer 18

GAGSucksBalls1

Then don't you think you're overreacting

Answer 19

JoshMacDonald

Xper 4

Ummmmm I think he has a problem.

Answer 20

bklynbadboy1 | 1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Wow thats crazy

bklynbadboy1

14 d
He's obviously got some issues with you

Answer 21

bklynbadboy1

He's obviously got some issues with you

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