When you actually matter to a person, they’ll make time for you. How true is this?

[rjroy3]

True, but the caveat is that it may or may not be to the extent that you want, on your time table, or in the way you want necessarily. Their life and schedule effects things.

There has been girls i cared for where I went out of my way to set aside time to talk on the phone and connect because that's all I could set aside at that time in my life and that was me making time for them.

Some girls would say if I REALLY cared I'd have failed classes, failed to complete my degree, so I could see a girl in person on a specific day she had in mind rather than simply rescheduling for another time.

You have to know what time they really have and what making time looks like. Now the average person bullshits around so much (like I'm free to do these days : ) ) that making time isn't an issue.

But some people legitimately have busy lives and no matter what they choose they are sacrificing something. It'd like should someone have to get 5 hours of sleep when they have a 36 hour day the next couple days?

If they choose sleep over seeing you is that not caring? Or is that not wanting to suffer for a week, getting behind the ball in everything, or sacrificing your future?

[pixiedust79]

When I was younger, I was the type of person who made excuses for people’s bad manners/habits because I always see the good in everyone. I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings by telling them it wasn’t acceptable to treat me that way. Instead, I would justify their behavior by telling myself they were just busy. As I’ve gotten older I have realized how many free passes I’ve given out and while I was protecting their feelings, I was allowing mine to be hurt! Everyone is busy! I bet you’re probably busy too! If they care they will make time or let you know they’re thinking of you and will make time as soon as they possibly can! For example, I had just started seeing this guy who happened to be six years younger than me. I’m 41, he was 35. So I kind of expected some bullshit out of him anyway and wasn’t gonna take it too seriously or let my guard down. He really surprised me when on Day 3 or 4 of talking, throughout the days, I got this message from him:


Good morning Beautiful! I hope you slept well. I just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking about you. It’s probably going to be busy at work today so I just wanted to tell you that in case I don’t have time to message you. I didn’t want you thinking anything or getting in your head about it. I’ll for sure text or call u after work tho! I can’t wait till I can see u again!


Needless to say I was pleasantly surprised and so impressed with his thoughtfulness! Now later down the line, I messed up and got too in my feelings and started allowing bad behavior. I let him get away with it, so he would do it. He didn’t care as much cause he already had me, so he didn’t send those thoughtful messages or think of my feelings like in the beginning. At the start he was trying to get me, so HE MADE TIME or let me know if he was gonna be busy. I was something that he wanted so he found the time and even when he didn’t have the time he still made time to at least let me know he was thinking of me.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Very true!!!

No matter how busy someone is, if they really care about you, they will make time for you. If nothing else, they will send you a message or call you to let you know they're busy or unavailable, but will talk to you when they can.
That's respectful, classy, and shows they really care about me and are putting the effort in.

Most of us have school, work, and other obligations. And I'll be the first to admit there are days I'm too tired to want to talk to anyone, even my best friends! But I will at least shoot them a quick text saying I'm busy or tied up and will catch them later.

That takes less than ONE minute. If I can do it, anyone can do it. So anyone that says they're "too busy" is just too busy for you. There's a difference-

[Anon621]

I believe this is true. I also believe that people who are truly interested in you will make time for you or will go out of their way to speak with you kinda like a best friend would. I feel like the more someone makes excuses or says they are busy then they either aren't interested in you or maybe they are not interested in dating in general. I remember one day I was with my ex and then while we were together my ex said to me "I dont want you to be lonely you can come with me to my job" since she had to work that day as a lifeguard. And so I just listened to some music and watched her practice lifeguard routines and it was pretty interesting to see some of the training the lifeguards do. It is possible someone else would have told me something along the lines of "oh I'm sorry I can't spend time today I have to work" which is understandable as you get older but my ex and I were both young at the time.

[Biancatsumi1991]

People should always make time for someone who matters to them. Some of you might say you're too busy with work and you have a life too, but come to think of it, our life is too short and we don't exactly know when our time's up. So spend more time with people you love. Make time for them. A simple text message or a call would lighten someone's day at work. Dates on weekends is nice too. Spending time doesn't have to be fancy, it could be just watching tv Or movie together, eating pizza together or playing games together.

[jshm2]

It's the same for work or any other type of relationship. If you matter to them, or if they matter to you, then you'll make time and effort for them.

You notice how some employees get a lot more hours, roles and breaks? That's because we, as employers, value them.

[Newhead]

True, but people think too deeply into this when someone who actually likes them has no time for them. Maybe if they were top priority like a spouse, child, pet or someone you have to have in your life then yes you'd get their attention. But, it is possible to mean something to somebody and still not get their attention due to be lost in the midst of their craziness.

[yofuknutz]

You damn right they do they find out what you're doing for the day and then they go out of their way to meet up with you the problem is if communication is lacking they can come off at stalking or way too needy and clingy but yeah they move mountains to get over your mole hill

[JesterRose]

It depends on the nature of the two in the relationship. My wife and i are both very indipendant people. Of cours i will make time for her if she asks, but otherwise we tend to function on our own as different people as we have very different hobbies.

And that works very well for both of us.

[sweetvirgocreature]

That is completely true. If you actually matter to a person, they will make time for you. There may be days where they can't be there for you because they maybe wrapped up in their own person life, but when they are free they will get back to you instead of ignoring you. Making time for you can mean anything, it can be just sending you a simple text message asking you how was your day, it can be making a quick phone call to talk about whatever, sharing things with you, and many more.

[btbc92]

It's mostly true. Unless circumstances prevent that. They at least make an effort. Anybody can be by your side. But it's about the intent. If you are intending on something serious, and want mutual desires, be with people who already do that.

[CaptainOverthink]

It depends on how realistic the cravings and expectations are. People in relationships can't expect to get every bit of spare time from their partners. Because everyone needs to be able to have friends and some private time. Balance is the best. Get some hobbies and learn to trust.

But generally it's true about most things that if it's important enough you'll make time for that thing or person. Time and effort is a good to measure how much something matters.

[AdithyaR]

Well it's almost always true but sometimes people really are that busy.
For example I've got nearly 7 hours of online classes a day and then associated assignment work, so by the end of the day I'm most of the time too exhausted to look at a screen to talk to my friends.

[Anonymous]

probably true. read this post somewhere that even though her husband is busy at work all day, he still calls a few times just for 2 minutes just to check if she's okay. so yeah, many more other examples.

[Bella_Iris]

This is very true. You just have to find the right people. I believe the saying "Treat others the way you want to be treated" is very important and relevant when having people make time for them. :)

[pleasestopthis]

Yes, but the time they can spare you may not be the way you want it to be. It can be way shorter than you'd like. I've seen some people with unrealistic expectations about this.

[EaterPeter]

May be in the beginning of the relationship. In my opinion it depends on how relationship ages. Whether they grow closer or far from each other. Each life event and day to day interactions defines above.

[snowboarder720]

Very true. If they value you, they’ll make a convenient time for you.

[slatyb]

For certain they will make you a priority, and spend some of their free time with you.

[Olivier-628]

True. However they might just have a difficult schedule.

[iFarted]

I agree, no matter how busy my life gets I'll always have time for those I truly care about. I never understood the people in relationships who make absolutely no effort to contact their SO and use the excuse that "sorry, I was just so tired from (whatever)".

[jasco]

Facts sometimes. I do care for all of my friends but i just don't like talking to people honestly, if they need me for anything i will always try to text back as soon as possible

[karangill]

Job matters a lot. People still hate going to it and most of time, they're late. Husband and wife don't realize how important they are to each other until someone die or leave.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

If they have the time lol, some people are just lazy or bad at time management.

[Suzzz334]

When some really likes some, they want to be around that person. It no longer becomes a burden but rather a want of both parties.

[HOAAH]

That is totally true. My family matters to me so I try to visit them once a year.

[Alyssa11]

We're all busy for the people we don't want to make time for.

[KingdomForAKiss]

People express love in different ways. Yes, I absolutely agree but quality time is really important to me. Some weigh other aspects more heavily.

[cloud9vortex1234]

Yes, that's true, however, things do come up, so just because they're not around at the moment doesn't mean its true.

[thrombis]

True within reason. I have had ladies get pissed I. Wouldn't text with them at 1 in the morning when I get up at 530 and was sleeping. They used this line in me. We gotta work and such too so don't be too needy. Life happens ya know.

[RingOfFire]

100%

I put my career before her and lost the love of my life.

[AmeerX]

I think it is true. The greatest thing a person can give you is his or her time

[utterlyconfused11]

its true to an extent, but you shouldn't expect that they put their lives on hold

[SARAH22222]

Yes, totally true
They would make time for you even when they're at the bottom of their work and occupations.

[Janessa2021]

100% if they want u there, no matter what they're doing THEY WILL MAKE TIME ! I had to learn that to cut temporaries off

[jl25sc]

Not always, we all can be busy at times and when I am finally done with the important task, I will reply ASAP. Neglect is a whole other thing where by you're free and you knowingly ghost the other person.

[Slim57]

Very true, but, everyone needs time away from each other sometimes in a relationship

[Clyde_123]

Very true. If you are really important to them they will make time for you.

[Twenty2]

Absolutely. If I really wanted someone in my life, I would create time for her even if I was super busy. I might not succeed everytime but I'd give my best.

[chriscdi]

thats pretty true and then when the relationship ends, you regret all that time you made for her lol

[doctord00m]

Don't expect your boyfriend or girlfriend to skip work or school for you, and you'll be fine. Also, don't call me at work.

[lilyanony1]

Yes they will but they will have balance

[killerboots]

This is very true in all aspects of life

[alldayfyb]

You’ll know when u get out on the back burner

[anewme]

No fucking clue lol jk

[Agem123]

So true.

People make time when they want to

[sensible27]

Maybe.

[Angelo75]

It is true

[sheikalana]

Very true.

[wittymilf]

Very true

[anja3]

True a lot!

[SunnyCaliGirl]

It’s very true

[JKingOff]

Very.

[Iron_Man]

Very true

[OceanMelon]

True sometimes

[Dnice1]

Of course they will 😊

[dudeinohio]

I'd say very true.

[blondfrog]

16 trillion %

[madisonk]

100% true.

[Juxtapose]

100% true.

[Lunatic1]

That is very true.

[krin_m]

Of course!

[_Just_A_girl_]

99%.

[smilinjackal]

Not very true. It is only likely.