I think I might be becoming a sociopath?

Question

And by that I mean, I think I'll never be in a relationship. Been kicked around a lot, and I've kinda of lost hope of being able to relate to a woman. Like, I can't imagine having a girlfriend and caring about anything she thinks, says or feels, because in my mind, other people are just sort of automatons that don't really have anything to do with me.

I can imagine myself having a nice job and attracting greed women, and having lot's of sex, but I can't imagine those conversations about "things that matter" like on those TV shows.

Does anyone understand what I'm saying?

Answer 1

btbc92 | 3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

If you already think like that then you're definitely not a sociopath. A sociopath doesn't have empathy or care for anybody. And they don't want to. That's a sociopath. You care enough to think that you are, and you care enough to talk about your hurt. A sociopath doesn't really care about that. What you're experiencing and dealt with is trauma, and because you're afraid of experiencing that trauma you feel like you would rather be like a sociopath instead of facing your trauma head-on and learning to be free from it. I understand what you're talkin about especially to send about being hurt by the opposite sex. But at the same time, you have to want to seek healing and not try to put anything on yourself that's going to be damaging to you.

I would highly suggest that you don't claim anything you don't want. Because I'm trying to learn that for myself and it's not easy, I know. Because you just trying to be honest. But at the same time as much as you may know yourself, you don't always know yourself either. But you're definitely not what you think you're becoming because you're not becoming that and you're not that. You need to overrule get healing, and you need to figure out what kind of relationship do you want with people. And these days and times it's just not easy because people are just crazy. And if you think you're not feeling mentally straight. Just understand that the people that you think are straight and not straightening heads either. A lot of people are not mentally and psychologically there. If you do your research from decades ago, you will realize this is something that's technically new. It just progressed a lot worse that could have been avoided years ago and sadly nothing was done. This is why overall we have millions of people stick with something, with teens, children, and young adult experiencing depression especially at an all-time high.

btbc92

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So think about that for a moment. What you're experiencing is a trend. It does not have to Define your life. But you don't want anything to do with that by becoming a statistic either. Most people at the end of the day are victims of something but not everybody has been victimized by the same thing. So The False Consensus bias tend to arise when either you or them may assume you're more healthier than the other and in truth you're technically not. You just handle it weigh differently than others. All of them more vulnerable, some are not phased by it.
doctord00m

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Yeah I thought of that, that sociopaths don't care that they're sociopaths.

So I'm not like, literally "worried" about being a sociopath.

But like I said, I don't exactly see myself having empathy for people. Like I can't imagine myself feeling and behaving like what I imagine a "relationship" is supposed to function.

Also it's like, I can imagine feeling emotional pain in the future. I've felt it in the past, but like I don't exactly see myself caring about the sort of things that used to bother me.

I recently reached out to my cousin, who I stopped talking to for years, because I figured he'd be good to have around in case the pandemic resulted in complete collapse of civilization.

He used to pick on me, so I kinda didn't want to engage with him anymore, so I avoided him. But now if he starts to bug me I can just hang up the phone. If we're defending against zombies together and he says something abusive to me, I can imagine myself just staring at him silently, and thinking about a way to extricate myself, instead of caring about the content of his "abuse".

And it kinda doesn't even matter if people disparage me in public anyway, since I rarely interact with the same people more than once...
btbc92

8 d
What you're talking about have nothing to do with sociopathy. What it basically says is that you're numb to the pain because all you experienced was pain. That kind of stuff can make a lot of changes in your brain. But it is possible to heal your brain. There is nothing incurable in this life especially with God.
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doctord00m

8 d
I suppose I *might* be different in the future. But maybe it's more and more like this.

See, my life until now, I've sort of bought into the typical Hollywood narrative of what life is supposed to look like, and now I feel I have some clarity of how life actually functions. Things don't feel confusing anymore. And I feel I can predict exactly what's gonna happen. It's like I see the universe as a completely deterministic system now.

I don't see any surprises in my future now...
btbc92

8 d
to be honest life is in a sense it's what you choose to make of it. And while God does have a purpose for our lives, he's not going to force you to do things you don't want to do. The thing is is that what you said was the key here is that you basically bought into the typical Hollywood Narrative of what life supposed to look like. That's Hollywood. Do you see people really happy with that life? No they're not. While you overall want to be realistic about things, and you don't want unrealistic expectations. If you desire to have something good in your life does nothing wrong with Desiring it. You just got to do it that way and trust that God knows how to direct your path. Because I will tell you my personal experience. When you try to do everything your way is not going to work out the way you always wanted. Until you not only understand yourself, your purpose in life, it's going to be hard for you to find a partner. That's overall just the basics. But as I said before nothing know what you're saying tells me that you are sociopaths. The only way you can really understand any possibility is unless you have an MRI done that looks at the different changes in your brain. They can tell based on certain chemical reactions if something is wrong or not. But even if they say something you don't claim it. You don't claim anything that you don't want as I told you before. Just because I dealt with asthma before that doesn't mean I have to claim it over my life. And now I don't use an inhaler. And I never had an inhaler since 2015.

Answer 2

btbc92

So think about that for a moment. What you're experiencing is a trend. It does not have to Define your life. But you don't want anything to do with that by becoming a statistic either. Most people at the end of the day are victims of something but not everybody has been victimized by the same thing. So The False Consensus bias tend to arise when either you or them may assume you're more healthier than the other and in truth you're technically not. You just handle it weigh differently than others. All of them more vulnerable, some are not phased by it.

Answer 3

doctord00m

Yeah I thought of that, that sociopaths don't care that they're sociopaths.

So I'm not like, literally "worried" about being a sociopath.

But like I said, I don't exactly see myself having empathy for people. Like I can't imagine myself feeling and behaving like what I imagine a "relationship" is supposed to function.

Also it's like, I can imagine feeling emotional pain in the future. I've felt it in the past, but like I don't exactly see myself caring about the sort of things that used to bother me.

I recently reached out to my cousin, who I stopped talking to for years, because I figured he'd be good to have around in case the pandemic resulted in complete collapse of civilization.

He used to pick on me, so I kinda didn't want to engage with him anymore, so I avoided him. But now if he starts to bug me I can just hang up the phone. If we're defending against zombies together and he says something abusive to me, I can imagine myself just staring at him silently, and thinking about a way to extricate myself, instead of caring about the content of his "abuse".

And it kinda doesn't even matter if people disparage me in public anyway, since I rarely interact with the same people more than once...

Answer 4

btbc92

What you're talking about have nothing to do with sociopathy. What it basically says is that you're numb to the pain because all you experienced was pain. That kind of stuff can make a lot of changes in your brain. But it is possible to heal your brain. There is nothing incurable in this life especially with God.

Answer 5

doctord00m

I suppose I *might* be different in the future. But maybe it's more and more like this.

See, my life until now, I've sort of bought into the typical Hollywood narrative of what life is supposed to look like, and now I feel I have some clarity of how life actually functions. Things don't feel confusing anymore. And I feel I can predict exactly what's gonna happen. It's like I see the universe as a completely deterministic system now.

I don't see any surprises in my future now...

Answer 6

btbc92

to be honest life is in a sense it's what you choose to make of it. And while God does have a purpose for our lives, he's not going to force you to do things you don't want to do. The thing is is that what you said was the key here is that you basically bought into the typical Hollywood Narrative of what life supposed to look like. That's Hollywood. Do you see people really happy with that life? No they're not. While you overall want to be realistic about things, and you don't want unrealistic expectations. If you desire to have something good in your life does nothing wrong with Desiring it. You just got to do it that way and trust that God knows how to direct your path. Because I will tell you my personal experience. When you try to do everything your way is not going to work out the way you always wanted. Until you not only understand yourself, your purpose in life, it's going to be hard for you to find a partner. That's overall just the basics. But as I said before nothing know what you're saying tells me that you are sociopaths. The only way you can really understand any possibility is unless you have an MRI done that looks at the different changes in your brain. They can tell based on certain chemical reactions if something is wrong or not. But even if they say something you don't claim it. You don't claim anything that you don't want as I told you before. Just because I dealt with asthma before that doesn't mean I have to claim it over my life. And now I don't use an inhaler. And I never had an inhaler since 2015.

Answer 7

Anonymous

I think therapy would be the best investment for your future happiness. It also helps to train yourself to think of other people are individuals rather than big faceless groups like thinking "All women are like this." and "all women say this and do that."

Answer 8

lightbulb27 | 1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

yes somewhat, parts of it.

I was terrible with girls, had no confidence and didn't touch one til 24 +. You are dealing with wounds in life that messed with your self worth, esteem and confidence. "been kickd around a lot"... that will cause people to not be comfortable with intimacy

at the same time... you got hormones running which push you towards females, no way around that.

You need to work on yourself, love yourself, write, meditate (to heal your mind), find a good loving God like Jesus... it's a release valve. Learn to see people and yourself differently like the Bible conveys in New testament and it really helped me. if doesn't work for you, lookup buddah or something.

Patterns develop, you don't want those patterns.

You might see a Dr. to evaluate if something physical going on and or therapist, but that's $. Turn off the damn TV and video games now. Read books, learn to talk to people and relate. Find things you love or care about and do that, maybe walking dogs or helping homeless. Learn to relate to humans.

Our society is garbage because of all the lack of social stuff. this may be hard for you because people your age are in mating season and you are delayed. go according to your pace. Don't go too fast, because this stuff hurts 10x more than you are aware.

You want to build yourself into a confident man that can care for a woman and as well select a good quality one.

I've had my share of experience to draw from.

Answer 9

razelove | 212 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

Yeah, actually I do. The other people being automatons part. You kick them around, they yell, they bleed, but it just doesn't really matter much. Now, I had a large advantage over you, my doctor helped me to fake it so I could make a better impression on people I do actually care about.

People that can be annoying because they can take your freedoms away, help you with getting a job you want, and no one talks like on tv shows anyway, so don't worry about missing out on that experience unless you wanted to be on TV.

You're still young so you can learn, and just say you were in a car wreck or something. I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume you care about animals still. If you never had one as a pet, get one, next get a friend or acquantaince and try to treat them as well as you would your dog, the goal is the same. You treat them well and they reward you with loyalty and camoflague. You can also punish them for disloyalty or breaking your cover as you see fit.

You won't have the nice job without the skills, and you won't have a market for your skills if you can't sell them to anyone. You lose nothing by giving it a shot. Some of the feelings you might want to experience become real after long enough. Though that is difficult to deal with. Good luck to you.

Answer 10

Aakash_Hangargi | 396 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

You create what you imagine so imagine something nice that how you supposed to be ignore everything else just think of that then you will understand.

Also make friendship with a possibly good girl or women who speaks a lot and hearty who is full of life your views will change its just matter of perspective

Answer 11

Guffrus | 409 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Well your focus determines your reality, if you keep telling yourself things like that then it will become true but this just sounds like regular self destructive bullshit to me.

Answer 12

WesBrewer | 308 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

I think I get you, just don't date then, if it doesn't matter to you why do it?

doctord00m

6 d
Isn't dating the way to get women to have sex with you?
doctord00m

6 d
That is to say, I'm not going to abstain from sex just because I might be "harmful" to women, potentially, in the long run. Isn't it the woman's responsibility to choose the level of engagement of relationships? Am I understanding your comment correctly?
WesBrewer

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I am saying instead of dating get an friends with benefits or just stick with whores or something along those lines.

Answer 13

doctord00m

Isn't dating the way to get women to have sex with you?

Answer 14

doctord00m

That is to say, I'm not going to abstain from sex just because I might be "harmful" to women, potentially, in the long run. Isn't it the woman's responsibility to choose the level of engagement of relationships? Am I understanding your comment correctly?

Answer 15

WesBrewer

I am saying instead of dating get an friends with benefits or just stick with whores or something along those lines.

Answer 16

sp33d | 1.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Lack of direction/ambition/sense of self or something like that. You don't fit the bill to be a sociopath (for now, at least).

Answer 17

Unit1 | 4.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Oh well, the inevitable. Nothing out of the ordinary.
We will all die eventually.

Answer 18

Iron_Man | 6.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Go get yourself checked out by a professional shrink

doctord00m

8 d
What for? Sociopathy is untreatable.
Iron_Man

8 d
They can put you on medication to help you
doctord00m

8 d
Pretty sure if compassion pills were a thing, it'd be in our water supply.

Answer 19

doctord00m

What for? Sociopathy is untreatable.

Answer 20

Iron_Man

They can put you on medication to help you

Answer 21

doctord00m

Pretty sure if compassion pills were a thing, it'd be in our water supply.

Answer 22

jshm2 | 188 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

You're just lonely, kiddo.

Answer 23

disgustingweebtrash | 1.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Sounds more like a schizoid.

Answer 24

Jakeofalltrades93 | 78 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

that's called being lonely not a sociopath

doctord00m

8 d
So I suppose I would say then that extremely isolated people are sociopathic.

Answer 25

doctord00m

So I suppose I would say then that extremely isolated people are sociopathic.

Answer 26

Hangry22 | 631 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Alexithymia perhaps?

I think I might be becoming a sociopath?

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