Why are the social workers involved? Because it turned out that last year on top of cheating on me she was abusing our kid, she did it in front of me last year during Christmas holidays when I explained that I'd help with the child but wouldn't go back to her because she cheated on me. He threw her phone across the room because youtube stopped working (she has a habit of giving her phone as a pacifier despite at least 6 phones, 3 tablets, a laptop getting broke) so she charged across the room and hit him twice so hard she knocked him to the ground and then started kicking him, I had to drag him off her and while comforting our child she was still trying to hit him. I settled both of them down and took our son away because it was the Weekend. Tried all weekend to get her to see a doctor, I left our son back on Sunday and Couldn't sleep. I asked if she was going to see the doctor and she said no so I called social services and they landed at her house and like a deer in the headlights and the house a dirty mess she admitted everything. She had to have supervised contact with our son for a year with her parents and sister. She moved into her own home and social services are about to walk away. She's continued seeing that sleazy guy and after a year of gaslighting about him finally admitted through her solicitor that she is in a relationship with him but doesn't consider him her partner.
She was still promising me and social services that she'd keep him away from our sonAt the last social service meeting I threw up a pile of evidence against this guy and that she had this guy around our son in her knew hous and the kid has been sleeping in the same bed as both of them (my son told me) they were disgusted. They admitted I had every reason to be concerned but his police check was clear and she's cooperated with everything so far so all they could do is recommend that she keep him away from our son and never to leave him alone with our son.We are going to court at the end of January.
Wow, that''s quite a story, I'm sorry man. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing your fear
Thank you for sharing your fear.
We all feel the same way we just don't like to talk about it
Lol same I am quite silent and boring. I talk very less I have not much friends.I like to be silent and not constantly bombarded, I don't even understand myself so I can't expect others to understand me. I argue a lot for no reason, perhaps just a habit and it does not have any meaning 😅 I do it to tease or for fun.I behave very differently with different people.I also think that the other person will eventually get bored. I feel like I am chewing gum great taste and feeling at first, but once you stretched me out you will feel plain and would want to spit out 😕 and I would be left alone so better be single till I can afford to be!!!
@Aakash_Hangargi Oh gosh, me too! When I'm by myself I'm so quiet and don't talk much- which I'm fine with, but most people would assume I'm boring. But I just like my silence and me time. The problem is, a potential partner might see that as "Oh, they're boring or not interested in me..." and move to someone else they deem as not boring. But if it's someone of interest or you discuss something I'm passionate about, I won't shut up! LOL. LOL, that chewing gum reference: that's me! I'm tasty and fun at first, but the longer you talk to me, I lose my "flavor" and it's time to find a new piece of gum.
I havex been categorised into two categories because of my deathly silence1. A guy with attitude, but in reality I just cannot force myself even to say a simple Hi unless I am spoken to first I just try to scoot with out bothering people 😅2. Very Intellectual, which I am not in two days they will see that I am not intellectual at all I am smart but average.I just have some savage and smart moments and I almost win all arguments 😂😂😎.I can confuse people easily.But only if I had the confidence to handle any situations I would be sonething else, I would be someone else 😂😂😂.
@Cynicaldreamer I have a similar problem. She comes to me then soon after she runs off finds someone else whos more attractive then settles down with them.
@Cynicaldreamer last night I was talking to someone we had very good common grounds. Things we're going fine until she ghost me 😐
It's like the assholes and the players always wins 🙄
@scott04sa22 Ouch. Dang it Scott, you have bad luck with dating too, don't you? Did she seem like she was enjoying herself when you were out with her?But you're right- it seems like certain people have it easier in terms of dating than others
@scott04sa22 yeah. We met over on Facebook dating. The conversation was fine then out of nowhere she just ghosted me. Yeah that's what it looks like easy for others but hard on us. Ugh...
Thank you for sharing guys and girls.
I am quiet and shy so it's hard to talk to someone who I don't really know or think of things to talk about. Like keeping a conversation going on for more than a few minutes or seconds.
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Thank you for sharing your fear.
Thank you for sharing
Thanks for sharing this story.
Thank you for sharing your story.
That sucks man. Thank you for sharing
That really sucks, I know how you feel. Thank you for sharing
Than k you for the opportunity to share. I was going to write something superficial and funny, and all of a sudden all of that came pouring out.
I know that as a woman, I have the same fears that you have. (Men and women really aren’t that different, we just communicate differently at times). I think almost everyone wants to feel a sense of security and loyalty, to love, and feel that love returned. It’s human nature.
@Poppykate Thanks, I agree. Being traumatized regarding these issues sadly has lasting effects.
@Opinion owner I hope you are able to recover, and find peace.
@Poppykate Thank you.
Thanks for sharing.
Your welcome, what’s yours?
My fears are being cheated on, afraid she will leave me, afraid she never loved me.
Sadly it’s common most of us fear the same thing :(
That wouldn't be nice being used. Thank you for sharing
Don't be so hard on yourself. You have valuable things to offer even if you think you have nothing to offer, I know you have something valueable to offer. Everybody has something to offer. The right man will value what you have to offer. Thnak you for sharing your fear. I hope you won't be so hard on yourself anymore. Good luck
@Skankhunt is spot on.
If you don't think you have enough to offer, are you improving yourself to get the point of offering more? Men seem to value things like loyalty, cooking skills, femininity, physical fitness, etc. all of which someone can work on.
@comrade1027 I'm a strong believer in loyalty, I love to cook, I'm pretty healthy too, but that's not enough to keep a man. They'll leave as soon as someone else comes along.
@Purple_Rose If you're loyal, love to cook, and give regular sex.. it's most likely you're just not getting with the right guys.
@Purple_Rose You said you are a strong believer in loyalty, you love to cook, you pretty healthy too, those are valueable qualities. Also, men care about women who are caring, empathetic, supportive, listening skills, communicative, kind hearted, intimacy (emotionally, sexually etc), trustworthy, honest, open minded, non judgemntal. It's doesn't matter how much qualities you have, it's about if you are willing to develop these qualities and work on it and become the best version of yourself.
@VickyBeLike :) :)
You're welcome. Thank you for asking this question.
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That's smart of you. Thank you for sharing
It happened to me before.It is her loss. I will dedicate my affections to a lady worthy of love.
Yes, that's the spirit. It's her loss, not yours.
Thank your for sharing.
You are enough, I know it. Thank you for sharing your fear.
"In blackest day, in brightest night,Beware your fears made into light.Let those who try to stop what's rightBurn like my power Sinestro's might!"