Do you support the idea of egalitarian relationships?

[Minxxie]

Relationships work best with harmony rather than a power struggle. I have been with my first boyfriend for 6 years now and we are very equal, I think that's why it's always worked out. We divide responsibilities based on individual skill, likes/dislikes, and preferences rather than gender and it makes more logical sense in my opinion.

Like I suck at baking and he sucks at making a roast we don't eat hard cookies and chewy roast just because cooking red meat is more manly™ That's just stupid!

Plus everything is more efficient when you work as a team. When we do chores they get done twice as fast and then we have more time to spend together. Plus, even mundane things like cooking are more fun together. I suggest he should stir the sauce then grab his bum, it's a great time!

[Angie221994]

You both have the same things. You both have bills, dirty laundry, dirty dishes, etc, etc.


I work 60-80 hours a week. He works 40. I also make more. So in return, he cooks. But I’m also in charge of the laundry. We divide cleaning duties.
So I voted yes. We both make the same mess, so it should be equal.

[lucas262]

For me. There is a difference between simping and being a gentleman. Maybe its because I'm from the south and we tend to have a bit of respect for women off hand,

Simping is when you display she is worth more to you than yourself. As in your self respect. Your pride or dignity.

Chivalry is when you display her worth to you, its not that she's on a pedestal its me showing her just how much respect I do have for her in this service I give open a door, pull a chair etc.

Between your better than me. Vs

Your irreplaceable to me. Lot of people wouldn't agree with this I just know that is how id be with a lady.

Or as my late father told me. Treat every woman like a lady till she proves she ain't 1.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have been a very traditional man all of my adult life, but if tradition leads to something in a relationship that is less than equal, then I break with tradition. I want a partner who does not walk behind me, or in front of me; I want a partner who walks beside me!

[MrOracle]

I support it if both people want it and are okay with it - but many don't, which is also okay. Whatever arrangement you can agree with your partner is fine with me.

The only thing I object to is when someone wants it both ways: they want all of the benefits of two opposing views, and none of the responsibilities. That doesn't fly with me.

Egalitarian means you have equal power, but also equal responsibility. You can't have one without the other. Many women are perfectly happy with that UNTIL "man's work" comes along: the "Check Engine" light comes on in the car, or the hot water heater leaks, or the retaining wall collapses, or whatever, and then they say "well, *I* can't do it, so you need to." Egalitarian means you are equally responsible, so if you can't do your half, than you need to hire someone who can. Of course, the reverse is also true: men need to scrub the toilet, mop the floor, cook and do dishes, laundry, etc. No one rides for free.

In my own relationships over the years, I've negotiated divisions of responsibility and authority across the spectrum: from very "traditional/1950s" style, to very egalitarian, with most being somewhere in the middle, and I've been fine with any of those - but I also insist that her level of responsibility matches her level of authority, just as mine does. She doesn't get one without the other - which a few women refused to accept, and we went our separate ways as a result.

[bamesjond0069]

No they are dumb for someone like me. I can do some things way better than any girl is going to do. But some things I suck at. So I really need someone to complement me. If she does the same stuff as me its kinda useless because I will be way better and we really only need one person to do it.

Plus women in general suck at being disciplined. They are more concerned with being rewarded now than delayed gratification. I just assume I will need to lead a girl through these sorts of goals, I've yet to meet one who was that great at it.

[Pyrofox]

If my girlfriend wants to split the bill 50/50 sure I'm down for it. I'm not about to stop her from being a independent woman. It leaves me the man in the relationship to offer then to just pay for it rather than assume. Its my job to pick up each and every tab.

[electromagnetic]

I support them but sometimes they don’t end up being the case. I think a huge thing to point out is also cultural aspects of it. There are cultures where men are more dominant, must provide, and secure the well-being on their spouse.

[Barbaric]

No. Egalitarian relationships don't really work, and most aren't really egalitarian anyway even if the people in them are convinced that they are. One person is always slightly more dominant/assertive than the other.

[iseekpinetrees]

For the people who don't know it means sharing everything equally.

And no I don't. I prefer someone be dominant in the household and I'm old school prefer my man be that. The head of the household. But in the house is my domain and I clean etc how I want. Dont want his help.

[Jjpayne]

Yes, I think both should share equally in every relationship.

Share the burdens and responsibilities but also of course share in the good and fun stuff too. :)

[CriticalDiscourse]

I don't see why anyone would have an issue with it, or what even technically constitutes an "egalitarian" relationship.

[COMMODOREII]

Yes i do.
Egalitarianism is a trend of thought in political philosophy. An egalitarian favors equality of some sort: People should get the same, or be treated the same, or be treated as equals, in some respect.

[Bat-Perv]

I believe both parties should pull their weight in relationships

[Anonymous]

No. I am a dominant kind of guy and I've found my partners prefer a man to take charge. There is a kind of security for a woman in having her man make the decisions.

[Agape93]

So an equal partnership? Yeah that’s how it should be.

[Gedaria]

I would be great if this was taken seriously.
Unfortunately people these days are too, selfish , ...

[loveslongnails]

I think each person should contribute the things they do best, as long as means certain tasks are shared equally as a matter of course.

[Adam1978]

If you find a partner that share your view of relationship whatever they are, I am fine with it. Personally I would have to look it up because that word isn't in my vocabulary.

[WesBrewer]

Why wouldn't you want to be treated equally by your girlfriend but a perfect egalitarian relationship will never exist.

[PrinceNeo]

As long as whatever they're doing is making them both happy I find no fault with the idea.

[KirstyW]

I think it's up to the couple in the relationship, but way too many people get hung up on stuff like this

[pigoat]

A guy in my psychologist group said he doesn't want things to be equal because the way he grew up watching his dad and his mom

The man the provider the woman stay at home

[Anonymous]

Depends on what you mean by that. So what do you mean by that?