How do you know when your boyfriend has good intentions to be with you in a early relationship?

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Answer 1

CriticalDiscourse | 59 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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I mean, if you have doubts that your new boyfriend has good intentions, I would ask what you were doing early in your relationship.

Don't get me wrong, not everyone wears everything on their sleeve, but I wouldn't personally commit to someone who I felt had unambiguous intentions towards me or who didn't give me at least a "pretty confident" impression.

Unless the conversation is actually: "How do I know if my new boyfriend wants to be long-term."

And, if that's the case, all I can say is time will tell. That's something that comes with the development of the relationship.

Answer 2

SirJeffers

Xper 4

What do you mean exactly?

Asker

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How do I know he legit likes me and isn't with me to use me
SirJeffers

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How long have you known him or been dating? And have you noticed any red flags or things that you're unsure about or question?
Asker

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I met him 3 weeks ago and we we been together 2 weeks now. What bothers me he hasn't called me for 1 week already only text me if I text him. I noticed he doesn't really talk to me as much like the beginning is that normal?
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SirJeffers

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Are you able to hang out at all? He may not be much of a talker. If it's bothering you, bring it up but don't make it sound like he's doing something wrong, otherwise he'll get defensive. Healthy communication is a must and establishing it early in a relationship is important
Asker

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When I first met him he would say send selfies and last night I asked him if I should gain more weight or stay as I am and he said he likes my body the way it is and he asked for me to send him pics with clothes then he said to take pics of my boobs. I did 🤦‍♀️ send it and told him to send me pics of him so he did but today he hasn't really spoke to me like ugh. I kind of regret sending him that photo
SirJeffers

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Don't over think it too much. You'll drive yourself crazy. Lol. Just be yourself and if you're uncomfortable doing something like sending lewd pics, then don't do it.
Asker

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Oh ok lol yeah I think way too much especially because im just at home it can drive me crazy. Should I text him or just wait on him? I feel like he's used to me texting him or I feel I bug him lol
SirJeffers

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Unless you're texting him every 5 or 10 minutes, I wouldn't worry about bugging him. He's your boyfriend after all. The only thing stopping you is yourself from the sound of it.
Asker

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Yes thats true its me. I text him about every other 2 or 3 hours.
SirJeffers

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Just be yourself and try not to do much second guessing. He's already yours, you just gotta work on getting to know each other and build the relationship. The more you question yourself, the harder that will be. Don't ignore any obvious res flags, but have faith and keep looking forward.
Asker

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Ok I will. Thanks! :)
SirJeffers

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It's no trouble at all! Good luck!
Asker

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Dude like right now he says he's crying again but I can't
SirJeffers

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Crying? Why?
Asker

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Sorry I meant I was crying last night I got drunk and I started blowing up his phone like a dummy. He was gonna send me a pic and when I asked where his picture he said he wasn't feeling good and I just cried and kept sending him texts saying he made me sad. I woke up this morning telling him im sorry but I haven't heard from him :( do you think he will reply back?
SirJeffers

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Give home a little space and see how the day goes before you try to text him again. He'll run quick if he feels that you're smothering him or being to clingy so fast.
Asker

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Ugh yeah I only texted him sorry this morning I will give him space. I'm so mad at myself for doing that
Asker

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He replied 2 hours ago saying "hi sorry its ok" I feel I should give him space today
SirJeffers

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Things going okay tonight?
Asker

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Yes he has been texting me a little but I feel he is taking longer to reply but im just thinking in my head at least he responded. I think he did get annoyed last night honestly
SirJeffers

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Maybe. Just take things easy if you really want it to work with him. And try to find a way to open some form of communication between you and him. One that goes both ways.
Asker

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Thats the thing I dont know what else to talk to him about as in topics
SirJeffers

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Well, you can look up some "get to know each other" questions. I've done that before. It can help break the ice and get the conversation started. Then it's up to you and him to keep it going. Do you know about hobbies or interests he has?
Asker

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He is really into classic cars and he fixes them up. He has mostly everything in common we love oldies music. Same sports teams

Answer 3

Asker

How do I know he legit likes me and isn't with me to use me

Answer 4

SirJeffers

How long have you known him or been dating? And have you noticed any red flags or things that you're unsure about or question?

Answer 5

Asker

I met him 3 weeks ago and we we been together 2 weeks now. What bothers me he hasn't called me for 1 week already only text me if I text him. I noticed he doesn't really talk to me as much like the beginning is that normal?

Answer 6

SirJeffers

Are you able to hang out at all? He may not be much of a talker. If it's bothering you, bring it up but don't make it sound like he's doing something wrong, otherwise he'll get defensive. Healthy communication is a must and establishing it early in a relationship is important

Answer 7

Asker

When I first met him he would say send selfies and last night I asked him if I should gain more weight or stay as I am and he said he likes my body the way it is and he asked for me to send him pics with clothes then he said to take pics of my boobs. I did 🤦‍♀️ send it and told him to send me pics of him so he did but today he hasn't really spoke to me like ugh. I kind of regret sending him that photo

Answer 8

SirJeffers

Don't over think it too much. You'll drive yourself crazy. Lol. Just be yourself and if you're uncomfortable doing something like sending lewd pics, then don't do it.

Answer 9

Asker

Oh ok lol yeah I think way too much especially because im just at home it can drive me crazy. Should I text him or just wait on him? I feel like he's used to me texting him or I feel I bug him lol

Answer 10

SirJeffers

Unless you're texting him every 5 or 10 minutes, I wouldn't worry about bugging him. He's your boyfriend after all. The only thing stopping you is yourself from the sound of it.

Answer 11

Asker

Yes thats true its me. I text him about every other 2 or 3 hours.

Answer 12

SirJeffers

Just be yourself and try not to do much second guessing. He's already yours, you just gotta work on getting to know each other and build the relationship. The more you question yourself, the harder that will be. Don't ignore any obvious res flags, but have faith and keep looking forward.

Answer 13

Asker

Ok I will. Thanks! :)

Answer 14

SirJeffers

It's no trouble at all! Good luck!

Answer 15

Asker

Dude like right now he says he's crying again but I can't

Answer 16

SirJeffers

Crying? Why?

Answer 17

Asker

Sorry I meant I was crying last night I got drunk and I started blowing up his phone like a dummy. He was gonna send me a pic and when I asked where his picture he said he wasn't feeling good and I just cried and kept sending him texts saying he made me sad. I woke up this morning telling him im sorry but I haven't heard from him :( do you think he will reply back?

Answer 18

SirJeffers

Give home a little space and see how the day goes before you try to text him again. He'll run quick if he feels that you're smothering him or being to clingy so fast.

Answer 19

Asker

Ugh yeah I only texted him sorry this morning I will give him space. I'm so mad at myself for doing that

Answer 20

Asker

He replied 2 hours ago saying "hi sorry its ok" I feel I should give him space today

Answer 21

SirJeffers

Things going okay tonight?

Answer 22

Asker

Yes he has been texting me a little but I feel he is taking longer to reply but im just thinking in my head at least he responded. I think he did get annoyed last night honestly

Answer 23

SirJeffers

Maybe. Just take things easy if you really want it to work with him. And try to find a way to open some form of communication between you and him. One that goes both ways.

Answer 24

Asker

Thats the thing I dont know what else to talk to him about as in topics

Answer 25

SirJeffers

Well, you can look up some "get to know each other" questions. I've done that before. It can help break the ice and get the conversation started. Then it's up to you and him to keep it going. Do you know about hobbies or interests he has?

Answer 26

Asker

He is really into classic cars and he fixes them up. He has mostly everything in common we love oldies music. Same sports teams

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