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Trending & News I noticed more couples while I am single and make me very upset and I don't know why I have isuse but when in a relationship I don't care about couple. Does happen to other people. How to deal with and try not get upset while single.
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Why do I always find it very difficult with seeing couples while I am single but don't care when I in a relationship?
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- I don't think it's jealousy; it's probably more that you miss being in a nice relationship that you can share nice experiences with someone and enjoy it as it develops. It happens to most of us at a few points in our lives, but you will know when the right person comes along to share those experiences with.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
- I think we all struggle with it. Seeing people so happy and in love sometimes can make single people bitter and feel like they got left out. I think all you can do is distraction Sometimes unfortunately..0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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215- dear Katie, I went over many of your answers to learn more about your issue, since English is not my primary language I was unclear with the meaning of your question. Years ago I was very lonely, I had trust issues (not sure if you have them). And I experience the same 'envy' when I saw a couple. I don't know if is that what you feel, but let me tell you something about envy before I continue... Envy is a compass... Show us what we really want deep in our hearts (yep that compass of jack sparrow works on envy...). So I can imagine you don't want to be alone any longer. And I fully understand the feeling, I have felt it so many times to count them. also read in your answers you went towards very bad relationships, and that you often point you may have a learning disability, but you also went through college which not everyone actually can. You know?, to attract the shinny people we need to learn to shine, which is difficult if you have suffer a lot and focus in the difficult parts of your own. I believe your self esteem may have being damage with low quality relationships. I wish for you to focus in the things that makes you shine, instead of the shadow parts. And be patience, I know it's difficult more now than ever, when we many suffer right now cause we can not even longer socialize as we were used to. But the corona times will be over soon. Learn to be soft to yourself, I got the feeling that you are just to harsh with yourself. Be soft... it's important. Look.. for the way you have talk about some of your friends, you may need to refresh that circle, look for another one. I know it's difficult, but to make it easy, find a hobby and join a club that make that, it's perfect to know new people. I can 'guess' you are with some self esteem issues (I may be wrong), don't worry much about it, I still don't know a person who doesn't have them. but as long as you don't learn to love yourself, and accept yourself as you are... the most difficult it will be to find that person that will complement your self. I hope I was of some help, and wish you the best.0|00|0
all my learning disabilities clubs are closed thanks to COVID-19 . been getting into VR since we can't do what we want.
Katie... Just wondering... does your belonging to those learning disabilities club really help you?, cause I see you very focussed on that. To be honest I am unclear of the extend of what you say when you refer to learning disability, but feel comfortable knowing that I am not pretending to inquire in to that. For sure you don't want to give details. Just focus in the positive about you.
that been the hard part for me. I tried being positive and always single time I do.. always seem to end or end with break up. i smarter than other women with a learning disables and must have them all cause drama what I dislike. My learning disability is 18-p and one rarest learning disabilities. I am petite in my clothes , shoes are kids' size. hands are small , my breast are also small. these trends. all the women that I tried to be friends with were all faking to get closer to my ex-boyfriend to when I did have in a relationship in college. women been always issue with me
- That's your biology giving you signs. You can take the rational route and choose not to be in a relationship, but you will never run away from your biology. We are social animals and are at age where we seek partners to reproduce with. Even just being with a partner and feeling that companionship is what we yearn for. That is why you can't help but feel the way you do even though you made the decision to remain single. Your brain made that choice, but your body doesn't agree.0|00|0
first off this ISN't true and second i have been in and out relationship then turn out be another stupid toxic. I already tried and tried and tried and tried but all I get was cheater or mental heath issue men.
It seems you're missing my point. We are biologically driven to find mates. That's beyond our control. This is in our DNA. That was my answer to your question. Whether you choose to act on it is up to you. I wasn't giving you a lecture on that.
- Well it's pretty common, if you're single and feeling lonely you're more likely to notice couples and miss the feeling. Once you're in a relationship, your need for companionship is being fulfilled so you don't look at others.0|00|0
- Sounds like jealousy to me. Seeing happy couples when you're single and looking for a partner can be difficult.0|00|0
Is jelous the only issue. I never been a good relationship at all. I all seem to get us bad , cheater, asshole and did have. As well one toxic one.
You've had some bad luck obviously, so you're jealous of other couples who are luckier. It's perfectly normal to feel that way. If you want to turn it into something constructive, try to engage with these couples and learn from them - maybe it'll help you find a better partner next time.
- I'm guessing you're not happy when you're single, so if you work on that, then you won't care so much.0|00|0
I already tried this and doesn't work and yep I also tried therapy and also didn't fucking work.
Something I hear a lot of women have trouble with is realizing they don't need a man to be happy or survive on their own. I don't know if that's your case, but I'm guessing maybe so? Maybe shift your focus? On career or something else to fill your life?
I hate one of my job. That won't help since I hate do much to and it learning disabilities. Only thing that I like is VR. by the way I only had one good relationship but he just wanted to be friends while I was in college and other past relationships they were Cheater, toxic. I also have a learning disabilities but I think some do with DNA. I
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Yes all that factors in. I myself sometimes have feelings seeing other couples. I've never had much luck with relationships, so sometimes I'll see them and think "why is it so hard for me to find someone?". But give it time, I'm sure you'll find someone and someone that will actually make you happy.
The isuse is that I have a learning disabilities so even more harder to find a good person.
- You want what you don't have and seeing them makes you feel the emptiness more acutely.0|00|0
yet every single time when I get in relationship go from good to bad or did been cheated on more than once ,
I'm sorry you're having bad luck.
Maybe your expectations are a little high and you might be going too deep too soon.
Honestly, my (current, 3rd) wife is the reason I'm still married. My first two wives were evil. By ur age I was already divorced once. I went too deep too soon and was taken advantage of horribly.
I wanted love so badly I was willing to listen to anyone who said the right thing... fucking lies.
Guard your heart, be patient.
- I feel the same way... hell i can't even be with my younger sister because is never single... it annoys me.0|00|0
- You probably miss being in a relationship and maybe you feel jealous?0|00|0
- I think we just have to ignore them.
But if it's any reassurance, the silver lining is that most of those couples will be broken up within a year. Their relationships aren't really as great as they look.1|00|0 - I don't know. I feel unloved because my mom and sisters started poking fun of me about never having a girlfriend. I feel as if they don't truly accept me.0|00|0
- Thats natural to feel. You are not alone.0|00|0
- We are social animals. We long for companionship.0|00|0
I also being trying VR to force more things like. I never seem to get a good one or get lucky yet. Not even with friends.
There are 7.8 billion people in the world. Statistically you will find sombody just have to keep looking
Yep that been issuse since I have a learning disabilities and already tried online dating and hasn't yet work and all seem to get is creapy ass men. That I don't want. I just want a good men but no fake ass nice guys. Go fuck away or you go straight to hell.
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Online is not where you find a relationship. Thats where you find hook ups. If you want a relationship look at your hobbies. Try to find local groups of people that also enjoy your hobbies. Then go from there
Find new friends. Go on fb and search for local groups for your hobbies. I'm sure you will find somthing
I from the stupid UK nothing is open but part from supermarket and fast food and only take outs. all cafés are closed ,
You could go online and find friends with common interests to keep you busy till the lockdowns are over
that what I have been trying to do but still getting lots of creapy old guys. I want guys near my age. not 30+
- I think we all feel like that, Katie.1|10|0
yet I have a learning disabitites and never can yet found the one. always seem too good to bad. no matter how many relationships that I have already been in.
- You miss the companionship0|10|0
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