What would you do if you were engaged but someone better came along?

Question

End of the engagement

Still get married

Cheat

Nothing

Regret the engagement

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GirlGuy

Answer 1

lumos | 1.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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Realistically, how would I even know that this other person is actually better? I wouldn't get engaged on a whim, which means that I've likely been with my partner for at least a couple of years. I would be deeply in love with him. I'd be looking forward to getting married with him. I'd likely be busy planning the wedding. If someone else came along and I happened to get a crush on him, I'd leave it at that. It's just a crush. I don't know this person or how he'd behave in a relationship, I don't know whether he's actually "better" than my partner, because any judgment I make is based on the rose colored glasses that I'm wearing. I would not throw away the man I'm with for a crush. I don't actually know if this other person is better for me. And I don't want to waste my time finding out that he might actually not be better.

If someone is willing to throw away and engagement because some stranger suddenly waltzes into your life, then that relationship was actually never real.

lumos

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an* engagement
lumos

12 d
Ended up reading the comments.
The reason why he's talking to you is because he's a shithead who gets off on cheating on his fiancée. If it wasn't you, it would be some other random girl. Block him and forget about him, he's just looking for attention.
guesswhoseback

12 d
What she is considering is one the major reasons are terrified to propose. Yes this other guy is a shithead but she is ENGAGING with him. Entertaining the idea. That in itself is extremely disrespectful to her fiancé.
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lumos

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@guesswhoseback if I understood correctly, asker is the one who's single and the guy is the one who's engaged. So technically he's the one being stupid since asker is single and can do whatever she wants (technically).
guesswhoseback

11 d
He is being stupid but she also had a direct role in this. Like why is she in his presence? If he will cheat on his fiancé what does that say about him?

I’ve never trusted girls who were willing to cheat on their bfs or husbands with me. I never knowingly accepted that (happened once but she didn’t tell me she had a boyfriend). No integrity.

Answer 2

lumos

an* engagement

Answer 3

lumos

Ended up reading the comments.
The reason why he's talking to you is because he's a shithead who gets off on cheating on his fiancée. If it wasn't you, it would be some other random girl. Block him and forget about him, he's just looking for attention.

Answer 4

guesswhoseback

What she is considering is one the major reasons are terrified to propose. Yes this other guy is a shithead but she is ENGAGING with him. Entertaining the idea. That in itself is extremely disrespectful to her fiancé.

Answer 5

lumos

@guesswhoseback if I understood correctly, asker is the one who's single and the guy is the one who's engaged. So technically he's the one being stupid since asker is single and can do whatever she wants (technically).

Answer 6

guesswhoseback

He is being stupid but she also had a direct role in this. Like why is she in his presence? If he will cheat on his fiancé what does that say about him?

I’ve never trusted girls who were willing to cheat on their bfs or husbands with me. I never knowingly accepted that (happened once but she didn’t tell me she had a boyfriend). No integrity.

Answer 7

TheLittleBuggy | 59 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

I picked End the engagement simply because if you could even imagine someone "better" than they perhaps aren't who you really want to be with. And I don't mean fantasies about some television character, but if some dude comes along and you're even considering of you'd be better off with him, then you shouldn't be getting married. Otherwise later down the road you'd probably think about if it might have been better with the other person and end up doing more harm than good.

If it's simply for things like money or looks though? Well then shame on you and your fiance probably deserves better than you anyway.
Keep in mind though, a rich man will remember when you were nothing and he was something and might believe you owe him something or feel free to "wander" because what else are you going to do without him?

The poor man will remember when you stayed with him even though he had nothing.

Answer 8

NarutoUzumaki007 | 108 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

Look
If I chose a person as marriage worthy , that means we have been together through a lot and I judged her as marriage material

I am not saying that the person I chose for marriage is "the best candidate out there" but for me I don't care. I don't want the best person , I am happy with even an average person who understands me and has been by my side and loved me with all her heart

It's true that I may find someone with better "potential". But that is just potential at the end of the day.

How can I say with certainty that I can reach the same point with "better" person" as I did with my current partner. It's just speculation. The "better person" may say no to marriage later down the road or she may has flaws I didn't notice initially.

Why would I take such a risk based on just speculation? No person in this world is perfect. I will be just happy with what I have with me instead of losing it and aiming for more

NarutoUzumaki007

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I wrote so much. You better give me that MHO

Answer 9

NarutoUzumaki007

I wrote so much. You better give me that MHO

Answer 10

SoulSkyFlare

Xper 1

If you're having a better time with someone else other than your loved one, and the both of you happen to be romantically interested in each other, it's time to call it quits on the current engagement.
The very fact that you perceive someone else as "better" is a red flag your current loved one is not "the one". Else, you run the risk of spending most (if not all) of your live married to someone you don't really love that much after all and/or living in regret thinking about "the better one" and wondering "what if?"

Been in that situation already, did what I had to do. Honesty over all.

Answer 11

Phoenix98 | 3.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

There wouldn't be someone better because the best person in my eyes would be the woman I'm engaged to.

Answer 12

karupin

Xper 3

Then why get engaged in the first place? You have commitment problems

Answer 13

Anonymous

Sorry but I want the best partner available. If that means kicking a beta male or someone with low social status then oh well.

Vetis

13 d
Don't be sorry for how you must be.
Vetis

13 d
*I said the same thing about a husband who was cheating on his wife.

Answer 14

Vetis

Don't be sorry for how you must be.

Answer 15

Vetis

*I said the same thing about a husband who was cheating on his wife.

Answer 16

kimbim

Xper 2

I'm currently engaged, and there is no girl who is better than my fiancee

yofuknutz

11 d
Remember bro it's just your turn
kimbim

11 d
@yofuknutz huh?
yofuknutz

11 d
Red pill/MGTOW, better watch your jockstrap Tommy
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kimbim

11 d
@yofuknutz is this some slang or something? You might as well be speaking Greek. I have no clue what you are telling me AT ALL
yofuknutz

11 d
Like I said, it ain't your turn YET. She is on the cock carousel 🎠.
kimbim

11 d
@yofuknutz go get an education
yofuknutz

11 d
Oh I did sweetie the question is are you experienced well I am

Answer 17

yofuknutz

Remember bro it's just your turn

Answer 18

kimbim

@yofuknutz huh?

Answer 19

yofuknutz

Red pill/MGTOW, better watch your jockstrap Tommy

Answer 20

kimbim

@yofuknutz is this some slang or something? You might as well be speaking Greek. I have no clue what you are telling me AT ALL

Answer 21

yofuknutz

Like I said, it ain't your turn YET. She is on the cock carousel 🎠.

Answer 22

kimbim

@yofuknutz go get an education

Answer 23

yofuknutz

Oh I did sweetie the question is are you experienced well I am

Answer 24

Iron_Man | 6.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

How would I know if they’re better if I didn’t start dating her? I would then have no reason to cheat and I would just be considered a plain cheater

Answer 25

fxllenone

Xper 3

I wouldn't be engaged if it was not with someone perfect!

Answer 26

punyman

Xper 3

Don't know about my wife but I would still get married.

Answer 27

ayomanwya

Xper 4

There will never be anybody better than person that I would be engaged to

Answer 28

icequeen03

Xper 3

Once I love someone, I LOVE them. There can be no one better than them

Asker

12 d
So why is this engaged guy cheating then and asking to meet up with me.
icequeen03

12 d
I was speaking for myself. He obviously isn't the same as me. He doesn't sound genuine
Asker

12 d
Yeah I wonder why he's doing that he's only engaged 3 months ago
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NarutoUzumaki007

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You never said anything about cheating in your question lol

Tbh if he cheated , you shouldn't even wait for someone "better" you should have dumped his ass ages ago

Answer 29

Asker

So why is this engaged guy cheating then and asking to meet up with me.

Answer 30

icequeen03

I was speaking for myself. He obviously isn't the same as me. He doesn't sound genuine

Answer 31

Asker

Yeah I wonder why he's doing that he's only engaged 3 months ago

Answer 32

NarutoUzumaki007

You never said anything about cheating in your question lol

Tbh if he cheated , you shouldn't even wait for someone "better" you should have dumped his ass ages ago

Answer 33

Anonymous

That's the problem with women these days.. Oh he might be better let's just throw a multi year relationship away because xyz might be better. And you wonder where have all the good men gone.

yofuknutz

11 d
Remember it's just your turn

Answer 34

yofuknutz

Remember it's just your turn

Answer 35

Janessa2021

Xper 2

Well keep in mind that "all that glitters is not gold" so I'll stay

Answer 36

Anonymous

I’d do what any female would do, just at the first sight of someone better, then get cheated on lied to and hurt, like women always do :)

Answer 37

Asianguy123 | 95 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

How would I know he is better in the long term? I doubt it.

Answer 38

Luckycharms12 | 115 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 6

It may seem that way until you go for it and find out you where wrong and then you have nothing

Answer 39

Anonymous

Don't be so surprised when this happens. Women just want our money and are skilled in pretending to be into us.
She's not yours! It was just your turn!
Briffaults law and hypergamy.

Answer 40

yofuknutz

Xper 4

But tell the person I'm engaged to I have a better offer can you match or even Beat It it

Screenwriter

11 d
Hilarious!!! Car salemanship 101!
yofuknutz

11 d
Damn right yo! Should have seen the look on her face.

Answer 41

Screenwriter

Hilarious!!! Car salemanship 101!

Answer 42

yofuknutz

Damn right yo! Should have seen the look on her face.

Answer 43

Uptowngirl88

Xper 5

Depends how would you feel if the guy you're engaged to left you for someone better?

Answer 44

Anonymous

How would you know the the new person was better if you didn't date them / sleep with them?

Answer 45

Elsa143 | 208 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

End it. It's that simple.

Answer 46

Madladd

Xper 4

I would say just cheat cuz you already did.

Answer 47

Paul09 | 180 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

If you would think like that, why ever get married? There always seems like there's better people.

Answer 48

karangill | 64 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 6

Is it certain that there's Noone better than the one who just came along?

Answer 49

Anonymous

Isn't that what commitment is for?

Answer 50

tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ | 136 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

You're what we call a gold digger.

Answer 51

Dinosaursandanime65 | 362 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

Be sad and accept my fate.

Answer 52

TheAfrikan | 204 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

That is why I am single.

GoogleWasMyIdea

13 d
Did you notice how girls voted versus guys? Smh.
TheAfrikan

13 d
@GoogleWasMyIdea nope where is that.
GoogleWasMyIdea

13 d
It's in the voting section. Majority of girls said they would end it and majority of guys said they would still wanna get married. It's only three girls but still, I can predict a similar pattern even among larger polls
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TheAfrikan

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@GoogleWasMyIdea these girls do not give a damn about how long you two have been a thing. Onve someone new comes in they jump out hahaha.
GoogleWasMyIdea

13 d
Smh. That sucks
TheAfrikan

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@GoogleWasMyIdea for sure it does for real. Love now dats is hard to be found.

Answer 53

GoogleWasMyIdea

Did you notice how girls voted versus guys? Smh.

Answer 54

TheAfrikan

@GoogleWasMyIdea nope where is that.

Answer 55

GoogleWasMyIdea

It's in the voting section. Majority of girls said they would end it and majority of guys said they would still wanna get married. It's only three girls but still, I can predict a similar pattern even among larger polls

Answer 56

TheAfrikan

@GoogleWasMyIdea these girls do not give a damn about how long you two have been a thing. Onve someone new comes in they jump out hahaha.

Answer 57

GoogleWasMyIdea

Smh. That sucks

Answer 58

TheAfrikan

@GoogleWasMyIdea for sure it does for real. Love now dats is hard to be found.

Answer 59

Anonymous

Erase, replace, embrace, new face.

Answer 60

AmeerX | 623 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

How are you defining better?

Answer 61

Anonymous

you stay loyal..

Answer 62

Anonymous

Have sex with both of them and her sister

Answer 63

Anonymous

Women really are that shallow wow.

yofuknutz

11 d
Red pill/MGTOW, check it out bro you ain't seen nothing yet the truth shall set you free

Answer 64

yofuknutz

Red pill/MGTOW, check it out bro you ain't seen nothing yet the truth shall set you free

Answer 65

HATR3D

Xper 3

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