Should a female friend hang out with a guy who has a girlfriend if she gets jealous?

[watrewks]

Depends on how jealous lol. If she’s controlling then maybe you should stay away or else something bad might happen. You can always hang out when he gets tired of her crap and leaves.


But honestly I would ask what your motivations are. If it’s innocent then by all means, but if you’re at least kind of playing with the possibility of doing something you shouldn’t then no.


That being said hanging out with a group of people is probably to more safe option.


But honestly I don't know what to do about the jealous girl. The only way I can envision myself in a situation like this is if I have a close female friend and my girlfriend was unavailable at the time so I decided to hang out with that girl to kill time.

[CubsterShura]

Depends. If he is no one important then yes I would tell him that because his girlfriend is jealous and I don't want this to lead to unnecessary trouble it's better that we don't talk anymore. If it's a close friend though then I'll think more about the case.

I myself told my boyfriend that he can have female friends but he must not hang out with one alone, with a mixed group it's fine though, and even if he has to see a female friend alone never in a place with too much privacy. It was mainly due to the pattern of his past sexual encounter. He didn't listen to my warning and 'mistakenly' had sex with some chick he went to see as just a friend. I told him that even if what he did was a genuine mistake, not taking my warning seriously is an offense of its own and cheating is never excusable.

[Screenwriter]

OH LORDY! Where are these women from and why do they have such self-esteem problems?

This is completely UP TO THE GUY. It's HIS DECISION if he wants to hang out with his female friends he's known for ages and who is nothing more than a friend. If his girlfriend doesn't understand this, I personally think he should get a better girlfriend.

People who are jealous, possessive, suspicious are walking problems.

[SirJeffers]

That's a hard one. I think it falls back on the guy, tho. If his girlfriend has a valid reason for being jealous (they had a fling before or he's had loyalty issues) then no, he shouldn't hang out with the female friend. But if the girlfriend is jealous for no reason and just smothering him or sabotaging friendships in spite, he should stand his ground and possibly rethink the relationship with her. Guys can have platonic female friends just like girls can have platonic male friends.

[kkirk4442]

It's not a yes or no answer. It's not fair of a girlfriend to expect a guy to not see a good friend, and hang out with them at times, just because the friend is a female. Of course, being as the guy is in a relationship, there are limits that would not be there, if her were not in a relationship.

[EssenceOfLight]

No.
Usually I care for stability of relationship of my female friends and I'm expecting they do that for me. If their guy is getting jealous I disappear for a while until my female friend asks for my presence. In addition I dislike being used as someone who should make their partners jealous.

[queenimpala]

Def ask him first. Personally my guy did this, he went out of town without telling me to see girl friends, and it made me really awkward and sad. If he had literally said “yo! I’m driving for the day to see my friends!” I woulda been like “Okay cool!! Have fun!” but he didn’t so I felt awkward.

Just ask him first to see if it’s cool, it might be all good.

[CriticalDiscourse]

I think that's her issue and she needs to find self-love, self-compassion and trust in her life.

Which isn't my responsibility, especially if I was his friend before she was his girlfriend.

[Avicenna]

Not alone with him. That will really provoke anger.

When I was married, I made sure I was never alone with a female friend. Either my wife was there or other people.

[s2firestar]

Thing is, if the guy has done nothing wrong, does not plan to, and the female friend is also like this, then this is encroaching on the guys' personal freedom. Which is unacceptable.

[slatyb]

You should pay no attention to her feelings. That's between them. Suit yourself.

[clampfan101]

I know men and women can stay casually friends, and would trust my girlfriend’s judgment unless I had a solid reason to doubt.

[Knightoffire]

should you even be asking that? Your common sense should tell you NO, probably it is hard to do it but it is the right thing to do.

[In_Trance]

Can't...

[Luckycharms12]

Probably not worth the hassle of it all

[Hangry22]

Nope.

[Iron_Man]

No not really