What are the things you bring to relationship to build a strong emotional bond?

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Answer 1

OlderAndWiser | 5.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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I have a loving heart, I am sincere, loyal, patient, nurturing and protective, and a huge desire to resolve conflicts and preserve my relationship. And I have a strong libido!

Answer 2

ughherewegoagain

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Respect, love, patience, thoughtfulness, servitude, laughter, clean home, meals cooked, finances, trust, beauty, compassion, loyalty, faith, humbleness, laughter, nurturing, understanding and positivity.

Answer 3

AffectionKing

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I really like this question. I tend to get emotional bonds with women but I don't know what i'm doing. If it's not broke don't fix it. But now i want to know. Lol

lightbulb27

2 d
you mean with one woman at a time, or just bonds with them... all over the place, like anyone. I apparently can develop bonds with women I didn't realize and that's problematic in relationship.
AffectionKing

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1 on 1. But with multiple women. Like im a jerk/asshole mean etc. But when i get 1 on 1 i can show empathy and i'm witty too so i make them laugh. I guess most eomen don't think i care I don't know.

But when i do date they expect me to change who i am when they met me. They say that i flirt which i dont think i do.

But when i create emotional bond with s woman she becomes clingy for some reason. Or she becomes attached
lightbulb27

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sounds normal. they are looking for emotional bond... she feels one, she wants it only for her. she will pickup on your interactions with other women. they have eyes in back of head..."emotional eyes".
How would you rate the level of attention/love you got from your caregiver/mother when young? low... normal... high?
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AffectionKing

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My mom and dad seperated when i was 6. I was eith mom monday-friday and dad weekends. Mom was very loving and affectionate. But i was raised to be tough and not shkw emotions in my community. So i have a tough time with that. But building emotional bonds with women is easy to me. I can get most women to be themselves around me or open up to me.

She picks up on it alright. Like I don't know how she knows but she seen me texting this 1 girl and she freaked out snd i'm still hearing sbout it til this day. Idc she has a friends with benefits but giving her friend (me) emotional, clingy problems. She's acting like my wife/girlfriend and not my friend. She told me i don't make her feel special anymore. I didn't know i made her feel special at all. lol I don't know
lightbulb27

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yea, forgot to mention their emotional reminds remember everything:) She's trying to catch you and pull you in.

History interesting... A theory would be that you are trying to make up for the lack of love early in life by making connctions with many women. But maybe you are just not ready to stick with a woman yet.

I'm evaluating myself with these question I ask, but consider these as well:
* Do you have a hard time submitting into an intimate relationship... emotionally. e. g. commitment?
* Or maybe you are not ready to settle down so you enjoy your youth and the enjoyment of women?
* Have many male friends? or make better friends with women?
AffectionKing

23 h
What do you mean pull me in?

Scared of settling down. I did a lot of women wrong in my youth (only 28). I feel like my freedom will be taken away. Mom only was affectionate when i was sick or in public. I have guy friends. Women tend to flock around me when i talk.
lightbulb27

13 h
Pull you in - women are like fisherman, they will catch and try to slowly or quickly pull you in emotionally... so you are theirs. They aren't "direct" like guys, they are "indirect" in their approach so can be sneaky, seem or be manipulative.

Ok - just looking for patterns. Things we learn as a child come out in adulthood. I didn't get as much attention from mom when young, so now I ended up seeking emotional connections (not physical, just talk/emotion) from many women and it feels good to do so, but that doesn't work when in committed romantic relationship... causes problems in relationship. If you know the "Erickson" child development stages you can learn about how current behaviors map back to certain ages where we learned who we are. Sometimes lose learnings are not right, a child doesn't know how to process or make sense out of things as adult. We want to learn trust, unconditional love, independence... things can be messed up as we learn. Those issues reflect into our adult lives and guide us, like a boat cast down stream in a given direction. And rather than finding a mate and building a family, we can end up hurting others, intention or not. My issues... I would run from women I liked, they would be frustrated. Were all different. Hope helps you reflect on yourself.

That's what I learned, inspires the questions...

Answer 4

lightbulb27

you mean with one woman at a time, or just bonds with them... all over the place, like anyone. I apparently can develop bonds with women I didn't realize and that's problematic in relationship.

Answer 5

AffectionKing

1 on 1. But with multiple women. Like im a jerk/asshole mean etc. But when i get 1 on 1 i can show empathy and i'm witty too so i make them laugh. I guess most eomen don't think i care I don't know.

But when i do date they expect me to change who i am when they met me. They say that i flirt which i dont think i do.

But when i create emotional bond with s woman she becomes clingy for some reason. Or she becomes attached

Answer 6

lightbulb27

sounds normal. they are looking for emotional bond... she feels one, she wants it only for her. she will pickup on your interactions with other women. they have eyes in back of head..."emotional eyes".
How would you rate the level of attention/love you got from your caregiver/mother when young? low... normal... high?

Answer 7

AffectionKing

My mom and dad seperated when i was 6. I was eith mom monday-friday and dad weekends. Mom was very loving and affectionate. But i was raised to be tough and not shkw emotions in my community. So i have a tough time with that. But building emotional bonds with women is easy to me. I can get most women to be themselves around me or open up to me.

She picks up on it alright. Like I don't know how she knows but she seen me texting this 1 girl and she freaked out snd i'm still hearing sbout it til this day. Idc she has a friends with benefits but giving her friend (me) emotional, clingy problems. She's acting like my wife/girlfriend and not my friend. She told me i don't make her feel special anymore. I didn't know i made her feel special at all. lol I don't know

Answer 8

lightbulb27

yea, forgot to mention their emotional reminds remember everything:) She's trying to catch you and pull you in.

History interesting... A theory would be that you are trying to make up for the lack of love early in life by making connctions with many women. But maybe you are just not ready to stick with a woman yet.

I'm evaluating myself with these question I ask, but consider these as well:
* Do you have a hard time submitting into an intimate relationship... emotionally. e. g. commitment?
* Or maybe you are not ready to settle down so you enjoy your youth and the enjoyment of women?
* Have many male friends? or make better friends with women?

Answer 9

AffectionKing

What do you mean pull me in?

Scared of settling down. I did a lot of women wrong in my youth (only 28). I feel like my freedom will be taken away. Mom only was affectionate when i was sick or in public. I have guy friends. Women tend to flock around me when i talk.

Answer 10

lightbulb27

Pull you in - women are like fisherman, they will catch and try to slowly or quickly pull you in emotionally... so you are theirs. They aren't "direct" like guys, they are "indirect" in their approach so can be sneaky, seem or be manipulative.

Ok - just looking for patterns. Things we learn as a child come out in adulthood. I didn't get as much attention from mom when young, so now I ended up seeking emotional connections (not physical, just talk/emotion) from many women and it feels good to do so, but that doesn't work when in committed romantic relationship... causes problems in relationship. If you know the "Erickson" child development stages you can learn about how current behaviors map back to certain ages where we learned who we are. Sometimes lose learnings are not right, a child doesn't know how to process or make sense out of things as adult. We want to learn trust, unconditional love, independence... things can be messed up as we learn. Those issues reflect into our adult lives and guide us, like a boat cast down stream in a given direction. And rather than finding a mate and building a family, we can end up hurting others, intention or not. My issues... I would run from women I liked, they would be frustrated. Were all different. Hope helps you reflect on yourself.

That's what I learned, inspires the questions...

Answer 11

DizzyDesii | 1.8K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Love, Commitment, Determination, Seduction, Desire, Energy, Fairness, Laughter, Similar Interests/Goals/Beliefs

Answer 12

FlyGirl95

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Laughter, goofiness, spontaneous insanity, sex, energy, emotion, empowerment and money.

Answer 13

Lliam | 529 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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Trustworthiness and dedication.

Answer 14

David_Bayer | 112 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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Anime. It's almost unlimited source of discussion.

lightbulb27

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what?
David_Bayer

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I've hooked all my friends to anime so I never run out of things to talk about

Answer 15

lightbulb27

what?

Answer 16

David_Bayer

I've hooked all my friends to anime so I never run out of things to talk about

Answer 17

Madladd

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Understanding.

Answer 18

Jamie05rhs | 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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Respect

Answer 19

Anonymous

Raging jealousy.

lightbulb27

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humm...

Answer 20

lightbulb27

humm...

Answer 21

Anonymous

Loyalty

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