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The only videogame I usually play it's videopoker and the game is so damn rigged in the computer's favor its not even funny.
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Would you date someone who is heavily into videogames?
Jean-Marie_Céline
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- It really depends on how much he plays. If it's like once, maybe twice a week to blow off some steam after a loooong workday, that's totally fine, let him chill a bit.
I wouldn't put an exact hour limit on playtime, as I enjoy video games myself and I know how a decent game can suck you in and you end up playing for 5-6 hours at on sitting. :D I rarely play, but when I do, it's a very long session. :D
The issue is when he spends a significant amount of his free-time cooped up in his room pushing buttons. No friends, no other hobbies... at all... so I'd rather it wasn't his main hobby and if it's his only, that's a huge red flag. Also, as you wrote, I wouldn't want to listen to endless blabbering about games, some is okay if he's that interested in a particular game and it happens to be the topic (maybe I'm also interested in it), but that's it. :D But that's coming from someone who usually gets really invested in whatever (and sometimes it does happen to be a game) and has so much to say about it and has to watch out not to blabber... too much. ;)
(as you can see from my mile-long post)
One thing that shouldn't over be done in my opinion (but that's for any hobby): no choosing a hobby over a proper - and especially a fixed - date! That'd mean he chooses video games over me, because that's quite literally what it is. Loved ones first, then hobbies. :) Especially when there's a budding romance.
All in all, playing is fine, talking about it is fine, but each only to an extent. If your life revolves around video games and you're not a developer, then I think it's unhealthy whether you have a partner or not.
P. S. If it's a multiplayer, I might as well join him. ;) A date like that could actually be pretty nice and romantic, even, it depends on what they make out of it. And it could still turn into many other things... ;) Hopefully not into a quarrel, though. :D
(I'd also say that such a date is more appropriate for an at least partially established relationship, but to each their own.)2|20|0Is this still revelant?
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- As a gamer, I'm attracted to pretty much any guy that's a gamer as well. Trust me, I'd love to date a guy that I can play video games or discuss them with! Do you know how awesome it would be to have a guy that we can play a game together?
One day I'm gonna find a guy like that... lol
With that being said, there are limits to being a gamer. If he's obsessed with gaming and unable to balance real life obligations, such as work or spending time with his girlfriend? Then it's an issue.5|140|0Is this still revelant?Probably not I’m sure you’ve spoken to plenty of guy that are gamers and you probably still expected them to ask you
Oh I know and game with several gamers!
However they're already married, taken, or not attracted to me in that way so...🤷♀️
It is what is it!I just don’t why girl say there trying to find a man. The reality of the situation is, there waiting for a man to find them.
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- No I wouldn't mind. In my opinion it's healthy for couples to talk to each other about their hobbies. And when it comes to gaming then there really needs to be moderation. I wouldn't play anything that requires all of my attention when I'm with my girl because my attention should go to her not the game, otherwise I'd be wasting her time, and if I want to play a game that needs most of my attention to enjoy it then I'd let her know in advance so that we can maximize our time together while also leaving some personal time for us to do our own things.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
- As a longtime veteran of controller thumbs
(the state in which the thumbs are too blistered and inflamed too hold a joystick, controller, lightgun, or turbotouch pad,) I do not see two addicts of the video gaining lifestyle finding time too date, shower, prepare decent meals, or do laundry, and Final Fantasy should be designated as an illegal, controlled substance, by the Attorney General and enforced by the FDA. 0|00|0Is this still revelant?Surgeon General's Warning ⚠️ Sitting on your ass for 20 hours a day, eating junk food and drinking energy drinks, is great for your health until I stop receiving kickbacks from all the industries that profit from video game addiction.
(the state in which the thumbs are too blistered and inflamed too hold a joystick, controller, lightgun, or turbotouch pad,) I do not see two addicts of the video gaining lifestyle finding time too date, shower, prepare decent meals, or do laundry, and Final Fantasy should be designated as an illegal, controlled substance, by the Attorney General and enforced by the FDA. Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions
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3768- No. I’ve seen what it can do relationships. It’s fine if he plays once in a while, but if it’s hours a day, every day, he’ll no.4|33|4
- Well I am heavily into video games so that would be a real dick move if I wouldn't date someone who also was into video games.1|12|0
- No, not in a jillion years!0|10|0
- Depends on your definition of "heavily".
I don't mind people playing video games for hours, but if it's gotten to the point where you've been "neglecting " me for days due to your games, then no.
My best friend was addicted to video games while we were in college. And the few times we did talk she would talk about drama from the people in her video game chat thing, so she'd only talk to me when she was having conflict and wasn't there for me when I was having conflicts. I was not happy and I cut ties for a while.1|10|0 - I’ve played video games since I could walk and still do so yes definitely, would also date someone who doesn’t play video games cause everyone likes different things and if they’re passionate about something I’m gonna judge them for it.1|60|0
A hardcore gamer is someone that has a type of addiction. An addiction is by definition
".. a biopsychosocial disorder characterized by repeated use of drugs, or repetitive engagement in a behavior such as gambling, despite harm to self and others...".
While I can understand that a person plays his/her video games 30 minutes or one hour a day, how would it make you feel if you always come in second place and that nothing else in the life of this person really matters as much as his/her video games?
To me, a person that is heavily into video games is, in my eyes, an addict and I would not be willing to accept such a relation.Well then, I understand the addiction because 30 minutes or an hour is definitely not enough time to beat most missions, and especially during the pandemic I’d rather my significant other be inside and safe rather than outside. If anything, I’d be playing video games with him because it’s also an interest of mine so that’s never been a problem. And if my significant other didn’t like video games, I can and have easily turned my pc or Xbox off and went out with him. But, it’s definitely not a harmful hobby/actually to like and even if I didn’t like to play video games and my boyfriend did, since he likes them I’d love for him to teach me so he knows I care for him and his interests. I don’t know if you’ve ever been interested in a show or something but, I know most people do not watch tv for just 30 minutes to an hour, that could also be considered an addiction just as easily as using your phone can.
It is true that everything that is done in excess of a given time frame could be considered as addiction.
Now, suppose that your boyfriend is having a good time with his hobby and that you have to deal with the regular house chores all by yourself because your boyfriend is having fun with his hobby. How would you see your relation in the long run? Would you be happy that his hobby take precedence over helping you out on what should normally be a 50/50 duty?
I have nothing against hobbies or passions as long as they don't rule the life of others. It is pretty healthy to have a decent hobby or genuine interest in an activity.
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a passion may not always be my cup of tea but if it truly does no harm to anything then be yourself and go ahead with your passion
yes playing together is the cool thing, especialy when the both are winning, being a bad sport isn't that nice, it only makes relations cold like ice
@Harris_2021 You don't have to be passionate, you can also be enthusiastic about something and devote some time to it.
What I am saying is that whatever you are interested in, whether it is video games, photography or perhaps smoking cigars, it should be done in such a way as not to take the lead over a relation. After all, people are in relation to do multiple things together and not only one single hobby or passion.@SueShe you could do the chores together and then afterwards play video games together. A couple is a team, remember?
@Jamie05rhs I fully agree with you.
However, tell a person right in the middle of an interesting scene or action to stop NOW and to come and mop up the floor, do the weeding and then take the dog for a walk. She asked him 3 hours ago to help her out.
A hardcore game will always find an excuse to postpone an activity.
@SueShe Well, that's a terrible way of doing things. You don't ask someone to stop when they're in the middle of a game. (It's very rude, actually.). What you do is you plan ahead. You sit down together for a house meeting, and you discuss the things that need to be done that week, and you make a list. Then you schedule in the times for when you are going to complete each task. Then you just execute the plan. No stress and no drama.
@Jamie05rhs If I understand your way of thinking, there is no room to undertake or do something spontaneously in this ideal relationship. Everything has to be planned in advance.
That is fine by me if you want to be in such a relation. Good luck.@SueShe Yes; you are understanding me correctly. Work should never be a surprise. It's very unsettling, and it makes life stressful and takes away your personal peace. Especially if it's your life partner and supposed lover who is demanding/ commanding it of you. That is a recipe for bad blood and resentment.
Also, anything romantic doesn't need to be planned. There is always room for spontaneity when it comes to romance (as long as you're both in the mood.)
Now, if it's an emergency, that's a different story. If you accidentally drop the jug of milk and it spills all over the floor, and you're like "Honey! Please help me clean this up!", then I would gladly rush over and help you out. I wouldn't do it for you, but I would help you. Because that's teammates/ comrades/ partners are for. You should feel secure knowing that you will be able to depend on them in sticky situations.Sorry my paragraphs got mixed up. Paragraph 2 should have been Paragraph 3. I don't know how that happened.
- This was my ex-boyfriend... If it wasn't a videogame on a console it was on his phone... He was constantly playing something, even when we were out to dinner. It made me feel like I wasn't important nor worth the time... At first I didn't mind it though, I can handle it, but it turned into ignoring the fact I was even there.2|50|0
- Heavily? No! I prefer the guy I’m dating to have a healthy balance to all all things! Just like I wouldn’t want a guy who was SO obsessed with me that he needed to spend every spare moment of every day with me, I wouldn’t want a boyfriend to be so into video games (or anything for that matter), that it consumes all his free time! Like all things in life, there is a time and a place for everything. Also, if he EVER cancelled a date because he was in the middle of a marathon, game, and he’s finally about to kick the ass of that DICK “MrSexy2284”! Relationship OVER!!!0|20|0
- Heavily, probably not. As a past-time it's the same as many others I guess. Better than drinking to excess or doing drugs. Maybe not the most rewarding thing to do with a life, but who am I to judge what people want to do for entertainment or to relax and deal with the stresses of life.1|20|0
- I have been a gamer, so I would give it a chance. As long as it is not an obsession where we can't date because he prefers to be sit on the couch all the day playing videogames, as long as we can have a time in a week where we can go out, walk in the park, have lunch, breakfast, watch a movie, doing something different once in a week from playing videogames.0|00|0
- I don’t mind honestly.
I just don’t want them to make me play a lot of video games. I get bored pretty easily and prefer doing real stuff, but if it is about having out home either watching a movie or playing videogames that’s fine by me.
If she likes to play a lot that’s okay, just don’t forget she got a big boy waiting to cuddle. Lol0|00|0 - I played pc and console games for a very long time as a way to escape my issues, whenever i hear of people that are really involved into videogames its out of avoiding problems. Just a personal thing but just because you can or like games is generally irrelevant in chemistry unless it becomes a time constriction with your partner.0|00|0
- Same thing with anime for me. Video games is one of my hobbies. I would definitely want to do other stuff than just play games all day long with my partner though and I would not want to watch anime all day long either lol. Long story short, dating someone that is a gamer is no problem since I was a former gamer before I started enjoying being productive because of school and work.0|12|0
- I find playing video games to be a waste of one’s life, but then trolling on here every day isn’t exactly my crowning glory either.1|10|0
I find making someone's day more miserable, both online and IRL, to be actually a profitable investment of time.
What if they were making gaming into an actual career, like a professional YouTuber or Twitch streamer?
- If she was a gamer,... I wouldn't have any issues with that.
If she was a gamer 24/7 none stop,... well that's going to lead to a number of issues.
I'm a gamer myself, but I don't play video games 24/7 none stop. I do like to do other things in life.0|00|0 - I guess it depends on if they are obsessed or if they have a scheduled time that they just play a lot
In general whether it’s gaming or something else if somebody’s not paying that much attention to me as they are to something else I typically move on0|10|0 - She’s going to want to invite you to her world... and I’m sure you’ll like it. It’s fun.0|11|0
- yes as long as thats not the only thing that will go on in life, I love videogames too, but also tons of other things in life, sometimes I put down the controller and enjoy the outside world, sometimes videogame help reduce stress and disconet from the outside world0|00|0
- No, I grew up with people addicted to video games and I don't want to live like that again1|10|1
- Ik it's not politically correct, but they're such a deal breaker. I can't even feel attracted to regular players so def not those interested a lot. But at least now a lot of women like videogames0|10|0
- I would not personally. I don’t play them myself and I think (a bias I’m sure) that most people who play video games tend to spend a lot of time on it. I find it to be a waste of time but I know not everyone feels that way.0|10|0
- As a teen, yes. In college, yes. After all that, no. I feel there's more to do. For me, gaming a few times a month is more preferred than dating a daily gamer0|10|0
I’ll only join in playing if its GTA or a racing game. But until GtA6 comes out, im not interested. I haven't played GTA5 since 2015
- no.
I won't.
video games girl doesn't have mature head.2|10|0 - I could date a girl who was videogame obsessed as long as that wasn't the only thing she was interested in and she wouldn't cosplay around the house.0|00|0
Anonymous23 dYep. When I am in the zone I can get really intense on my games like the Sims 4 or GTA5 so someone who heavily games wouldn't bother me at all just as long as every now and then we do something outside of that.0|00|0- I'd be good with that as long as we did other things too. If gaming is our only hangout activity that would get boring pretty fast0|00|0
- No, I would not date a person who was heavily into games.1|10|0
- ... Yes, definitely! Especially if we could play the same games together!0|00|0
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... Yes, definitely!
I remember back when I was about eight years old, when I would play New Super Mario Bros. on the DS with a family female friend of mine: In the game, you would play against each other, as Mario and Luigi, to get 3, 5, or 10 stars, and sometimes when she would steal a star from me... I would tickle her! Or when she would be about to get a star I would tickle her! Sometimes when she won (‘cause I’d be a “spoiled sport” 😁), or if she lost, and sometimes just for fun. 😊
... I just want that again. 😭
- No. As far as I'm concerned, it's synonymous with not having a life.0|00|0
- Depends on the game. Some are great. Others not so much. It's like saying would you date someone who is heavily into watching movies. Not all movies are equally worthy of my attention.0|11|0
- Yeah and I pretty much agree with your reasoning for it.0|00|0
- I like gaming but I really don't like hearing about the newest up and coming game.0|10|0
- You bet I would. That would be my dream, someone to share my heavy play time with. Someone I could play co-op games with.
If anyone is interested... 😏0|00|0 - Yes, even though I don't really consider myself a gamer, I do like many games, and any girl that shares those interests is someone that I would consider to be dateable.0|00|0
- Yes but not to the extreme that hygiene, nourishment or personal engagement with each other is ignored.0|10|0
- Yeah. I'm kind of a reformed gamer. I have a friend who met her husband playing WoW. So i know it works lol.0|11|0
- Chicks in my town don't like gamers, nerds or geeks0|00|0
Anonymous1 moAs long as she is not into otome or yaoi, sure! I can't stand those who play games where the only salespoint is "sexy" dudes :S0|10|0- Opinion Owner1 mo
I have no problem with a girl playing games with sexy girls. I do so myself. And I'm aware its a bit of hypocrtitical doublestandard but I really have a issue with the entitled attitude of those who play otome games. (In case anyone feels like commenting on this, I'm fully aware of it)
Why do you believe it's okay for you to play video games with sexy girls in them but nit a woman to play video games with sexy guys in them?
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- I would. I'm not a heavy videogamer but I would. It's one of my hobbies.0|00|0
- I don’t really play video games that often i kinda see it as a waist of time I mean it’s cool if she does as long as it’s not all she wants to do 🤷♂️1|10|0
- I am a gamer myself so why not. It is not like they are committing a crime by robbing or murdering people in real life or going out to parties where they might get drugged which can lead to bad outcomes.0|01|0
- yes cause i am a gamer but if the girl is in the mood best believe imma drop that controler0|00|0
- Sure, I'd play with her and have a ball. I can dominate in Soulcalibur 6 or Dark Souls 3 :)0|00|0
- YES, I'd hope she is. As long as it isn't Fortnite or PUBG.0|00|0
- @Jean-Marie_Céline I'd rather date a woman who's into video games over dating woman who doesn't play video games.0|00|0
- Ok if you are too, But from what I've seen, if you're not and like a little attention, I wouldn't recommend it!0|00|0
- I am a gamer my self, i wish sometimes my wife could join me playing. But i have my "me" time and she has hers time. I would not mind it at all0|01|0
- Yes I can. I love video games too. Especially Nintendo games.0|11|0
- no they'd be too into their video games and ignore me, but the good thing is that they'll be too into it to cheat.1|00|0
- Yes. Im a gamer and would love to date someone bwho shares a pove of video games0|00|0
- As someone who is looking into becoming a professional game streamer some kinda of interest is needed.0|01|0
- Yes I wouldn’t mind as I play games myself but would still want them to make time for us away from games0|10|0
- Absolutely, as someone who loves gaming, I'd love to have someone to share that with.0|01|0
- no problem as long as he is a good guy and already has or really trying for a job (not necessarily a high paying one)0|10|0
- I already am!
I mean, maybe She's not HEAVILY into video games, but She has a passion!1|01|0 - Yes, I love video games myself, I dont see this as a problem more of a gain, someone to share my interests and out me onto new ones0|01|0
- As a gamer, yes absolutely. In fact, I’d prefer it.0|01|0
- Sure, I'm a game developer, lots of ladies in the industry that are very nice.0|01|0
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