Well, to be honest that's why I try to control people.I can't control my health and my life, so I need to take control somewhere.
That's not a good answer, and in now uncertain terms does it give you the right to control anyone but your self, that's where it starts, your health perhaps can't be controlled completely, however your anger can be 100% , you just dont want to put the effort towards it because you are afraid of something new. but understand this if you take the steps towards understanding that anger, you will see a huge result very quickly, people around you would be drawn closer, knowing there not going to be called names and put down. You must understand that there not to blame for your misfortunes and as soon as you see and understand that, then my friend you are headed in the right direction. If you want peace then look deep inside yourself, that'd where the kettle boils.
You are right, that I'm afraid of trying something new. I admit it's easier to get angry and blame others, and I know it's wrong. However, now I want to do my best in at least trying to be more relaxed and not be mean towards people trying to help me out because they really don't deserve it.Even my mother, who is not the best mother in the world, is now doing her best to be close to me and help me out.
Im glad to hear you are afraid, by no means is that a weakness, thats courage and you just told me you are aware of what it does to people and want to change, there's 3 distinctive things that are positive in a world that's been negative, I applaud you for doing so, and a higher applause for you saying it where all these people can see and read, there's a lot of people who do the same thing, you have never been taught anything different and have justified your actions to be the only way you know of , however in doing that you know see the damage, I commend your mom for trying to be a mom, there is no rule book saying she has to do things a certain way, she is like you, human and doing the best she can even with your anger and controlling ways you have over her, to me thats nothing more than love,
Those are all excellent suggestion, thank you!I know what part of my pain comes from, and my anger comes from, and my inpotence about it makes me angry. But I'll do my best nonetheless.I'm sorry you too are having issues, I hope for things to get better for you.
No problem! What makes you feel impotent against the sources of your distress?Thanks for the concern, I trust everything eventually gets better with time.
Because it' a situation that can be slowed down but not resolved. Although getting angry about it 24/7 is surely counterproductive.
Are you certain there is no solution to it? Maybe there is an "outside of the box" solution that maybe does not solve the problem in itself, but might allow you to make this problem not as significant or maybe even not significant at all.It's okay to feel angry about it, especially if you feel powerless about the situation. You can see it as counterproductive, but there is a productive side to it : you are letting these feelings out through anger instead of bottling them in, which is still much healthier than letting it rot you from the inside.
No, sadly it's one of those things that can't be resolved not even with an iron will.Still, I agree with you that anger can be healthy, but naturally not always as it would become a poison by itself.
Is there any way to "let go" of the problem, to detach yourself from it to an extent so that it does not affect you as much? Yes, anger can be an issue in excess, like many things in excess can be. My point is, you don't have to feel guilty about being angry every now and then, no need to shame yourself if something makes you feel angry, especially if you control how you express your anger.
Thank you for your well-detailed and insightful answer, I really liked reading it and wholeheartedly appreciate it!You are sharing excellent methods and I think I'll try out some of them, thank you for dedicating your time to this question.I really hope you too are doing well and I'm sorry you have gone through or are still going through bad stuff.I really hope and root for you to overcome your problems and reach your goals, you are really intelligent and determined.
Your want a man with an anger problem to go to a shooting range? Im sorry but I can now see why you can't graduate. your information is dangerous, face massage that thought tonight, he's crying out for help, what you suggest is the ultimate in control for an angry person, a man with a gun. OMFG
@sheezuskist I'm not even physically capable of barely running anymore pal, I can't hurt anyone and don't even have a gun.I'm angry because of a terminal disease that's already progressed quite a bit.
@Jean-Marie_Céline You are welcome, thanks for your good wishes! I am trying to survive until the end of my wish list. I hope both of us can have the longest and fullest life we're able to have!
@sheezuskist That was my professor's suggestion for me, sir. You are right. It could be dangerous, if he was a violent person. I wrote my methods, i use this method and it is helpful for me. Of course, archery is definetly better choose than shooting but there is no archery center in my country. By the way, i know you are not asking but i want to say that i still can't graduate because i am only 18. About the face message, it is my slavic grandmother's method. They always use this method and it is really very useful method. This slavic method is one of favorites of my professor. Thanks for your attention!
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I wish I could be like you.I'm angry at everything in general.
Sometimes thinking about the very worst things happening in the world can desensitise you to the lesser things.
I understand. I think it's good to disengage, especially to avoid doing or saying something regrettable.
Agreed. That’s my usual go to on here, either ignore or block and ignore. But some people just set me off.
You are right, but one of the things that make me angry the most is the idea that I have stunted lifespan lol. But I want to stop taking it out on others.
I understand that. But that anger will pass when you realise that you don’t have time to be angry- particularly at those that you love the most. Your illness is no ones fault! Not yours, or anyone else’s- it just sadly happened. It sucks big time! Like bigger than Big time! But you need to use the precious time that you have left doing exactly what YOU want- particularly while you are still feeling ok. Hot air ballooning, sky driving, marrying your fiancée, etc.