Do you feel that your partner accepts you the way you are?

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Answer 1

Explorer

Absolutely, my wife accepts me and everything about me (and it's quite mutual). The way I see it it's due to two main reasons:
1) We met and later married in our mid 30s, older than the avergae couple (like a decade); and 2) we've always been honest to a fault about ourselves so we both knew exactly what we were getting into and had had plenty of time and opportunities to change our minds and back out of it before we actually married.

Still, being accepted doesn't and shouldn't mean a free pass, my wife shouldn't be punished for accepting me, so I should always strive to better myself (mentally, emotionally and yes, physically). I believe we all should.

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Bluemax | 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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She did. At the same time she inspired and encouraged me to be better.

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lilyanony1 | 295 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

No so I dumped him finally once and for all. I loved and accepted him. But he was quite unpleasant. Apparently I was so irritating, unlike whatever he could cope with we never used to go anywhere in public where people he knew would see me. He wanted to live elsewhere so he could control how little time we spent together. What's funny is he actually thought we could continue to live like this, and prepare to buy a home together under these conditions too. F*cking weirdo and I was too stupid to see what was going on.

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lilyanony1

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Thanks for mho x

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lilyanony1

Thanks for mho x

Answer 5

ftewolde

Xper 5

I feel like this is rarely the case. As much as we all want to believe that someone out there will love us for exactly who we are, it’s extremely hard to find that someone. We all obviously come with flaws and as humans we are all judgmental so like it or not, there will be a part of you everyone will wanna change.

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Answer 6

Jean-Marie_Céline

Influencer

She accepts me more than she should.

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Desconhecida

1 y
You sound displeased
Jean-Marie_Céline

1 y
I'm more rueful than displeased
Desconhecida

1 y
Something tells me you are done with this relationship but still are in denial
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Jean-Marie_Céline

1 y
She should be done with me actually, not otherwise...
Desconhecida

1 y
Why men do that?
They are done and miserable but still keep waiting for her to be the one to break things up. I'll never understand that...
Jean-Marie_Céline

1 y
I've told her over and over, she just threatened to get me hospitalized if I try to leave.
It will be her loss in the end. She knows I have a bad character, she knows I have a severely stumped lifespan, yet she insists.
Desconhecida

1 y
Don't say that. Don't disrespect yourself. You are a good guy -- I can tell. Just be honest and firm with her. Put yourself first for a change.
Jean-Marie_Céline

1 y
Thank you for your kind words but it's true that I have nasty outburst and that it'll be a bless if I reach 30.
Theoretically, a person like me shouldn't date or have a relationship at all.
Battooot

1 y
People would do absolutely anything to have someone that will love them and accept them as they are until they die. This doesn't happen even in dreams. And its even hard to happen in movies.

You have someone that loves you unconditionally and takes you exactly as you are and yet you are pushing them AWAY!! Can you stop self-hating and pitying yourself? And SEE the truth for what it is and accept it and be fking grateful?
If i was beside you right now i would freakin slap you or even punch you in the face really firmly. And then explain to you how the love of my life loved me very conditionally and in fact broke up with me because she could NOT accept me the way i am and whatever wrong decisions i may have done in life.

It is extremely hard to love someone despite their mistakes or bad habits in life. You almost never find this kind of love. But when you do. It is real, pure, and genuine. And you better hold on tight to it with all your might. Because people never get that chance again in life.
Stop pushing her away. And appreciate what you have.

I swear to me this looks like god is actually looking after you and sending you people to save you despite your stupidity and rebellion. Me seeing your post and writing this being one of them. Because im extremely NOT active in here and almost never post things. Yet here i am somehow god knows why im giving you a piece of how the other side looks like.
Jean-Marie_Céline

1 y
@Battooot you could be right, but to be honest I reject and have a strong hatred of God for many other jokes he played on me, so I'm not a big fan of those things.
I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with love, but despite my trying to get better something bad almost happens.
That said, I do try to treat everyone well and making them smile when I don't have too much pain.
Battooot

1 y
Your way of thinking about god and how he treated you in life is way too simplistic. And before i show you how simplistic it is... i would like to say that i very much expected you to act and think in this way before you even told me so.

You have a pessimistic way of looking at life. And life really is subjective. The way life looks to people is 100% influenced by their mindset and how they think. I've been seeing your posts all over gag and i see through your words how negative your way of thinking is and how sad and depressed you are. The way you look at life is negative. And because of that you only mostly notice the negative things that happen in your life and capitalize on them unconciously. And you will NOT notice the good things that you were blessed with in life. Like just now you had the most blessed thing anyone can possibly ask for in life, someone who loves you unconditionally. And you didn't even know it. You are blessed in so many way but you just dont know it. You really seriously dont know what you have until you lose it. Can you think for a moment what is the most precious thing in life a blind man can ask for? If a deaf man can have 1 wish come true in life what would it be? If an unloved man like me can have 1 wish in life what would it be?
Some people's most precious things in life are in your hands and you dont even know the value of what you have. They do because they lost them or dont have them. You only know the value of what you have when you lose it, or if you are lucky... when someone makes you aware of it before you lose it.
Battooot

1 y
So my summary is: your way of thinking of god is 100% influenced by the same pessimistic mindset that makes you focus on the negatives in life and the same one that makes you depressed.

Now to show you how simplistic your thinking of god is. It is so simplistic that even a book that was written ~1,450 years ago... spoken by a man who is known to be illiterate (by the way to muslims these are god's words letter by letter tramsitted to him through Angel Gabriel) predicted exactly how you would think.

Quran 89:15 & 16
"(The nature of) man is that, when his Lord tries him through honour and blessings, he says (puffed up), ‘My Lord has honoured me' "
"But when He tries him and restricts his provision, he says, ‘My Lord has humiliated me' ".
Battooot

1 y
Do you want to know what this book suggests about how you should think of god? Or curious about what it says of why he does those 'jokes that he played on you' ? Its all explained in detail and clarity. All those answers and much more are exactly answered. Maybe it could help you think of better ways to think of god or life in general. For your own mental health and wellbeing i mean.

Go Quran. com and read from anywhere you like. There is no chronological order of the chapters. It is like a spider web where you can read from the middle of the chapter then later read from the end or the beggining but the spider web of knowledge will still formulate in the same manner until it is complete.
Jean-Marie_Céline

1 y
@Battooot maybe you are right that my views on life are influenced by pessimism and pain, but it's really difficult to get out of this mindset in the environment I live.
However, it'd better for me to not read the Quran or if I did it'd be better to keep it private. I run a cooperative that's backed and funded by Christians, and with them I keep quiet about my personal beliefs too.
Battooot

1 y
Yes it is extremely difficult to change a mindset. Because you are trying to change something that is embedded in your subconcious and something that defines you as... you. But you have to realize that you are not "changing" your mindset. You can't just decide to change your mindset. Our mindset is formed based on what we know and learned about life and how we took all this IN. But is your knowledge and learning about life complete? Not in the slightest. Which means there is much more knowledge and learning to do. Which also means that as you experience, learn, and see more... those come into play in forming your current and future mindset.

In summary, your mindset changes by itself as you learn more and expand your horizon in life. Which means all you need to do is learn more and expand your horizon.

If your mindset as it stands is not doing you any good. It just means that the environment and learnings you were exposed to so far hasn't been to your benefit. Which means you gotta indulge yourself into more learning or explore how others think or what influences their way of thinking. Is it their beliefs? Their environment? and see what you like or what makes sense to you.

For me personally. My mindset that you currently see has been mainly influenced by 3 things that come to my head right off the bat. And they are in order of importance.

1. The Quran that I've been lucky to growup learning and taking all my life principles from and have all my life questions answered to the letter. 2. The anime/cartoon that i watched as a child from Spacetoon channel which only showed cartoons that teach courage, kindness, valueing friendships, and never giving up. 3. Having being raised by mum and dad who gave me a lot of love and both have a nice sense of humor.

And yes i see nothing wrong in reading the Quran in private. Infact. Thats how you should be reading it. No one needs to know.

Answer 7

Desconhecida

You sound displeased

Answer 8

Jean-Marie_Céline

I'm more rueful than displeased

Answer 9

Desconhecida

Something tells me you are done with this relationship but still are in denial

Answer 10

Jean-Marie_Céline

She should be done with me actually, not otherwise...

Answer 11

Desconhecida

Why men do that?
They are done and miserable but still keep waiting for her to be the one to break things up. I'll never understand that...

Answer 12

Jean-Marie_Céline

I've told her over and over, she just threatened to get me hospitalized if I try to leave.
It will be her loss in the end. She knows I have a bad character, she knows I have a severely stumped lifespan, yet she insists.

Answer 13

Desconhecida

Don't say that. Don't disrespect yourself. You are a good guy -- I can tell. Just be honest and firm with her. Put yourself first for a change.

Answer 14

Jean-Marie_Céline

Thank you for your kind words but it's true that I have nasty outburst and that it'll be a bless if I reach 30.
Theoretically, a person like me shouldn't date or have a relationship at all.

Answer 15

Battooot

People would do absolutely anything to have someone that will love them and accept them as they are until they die. This doesn't happen even in dreams. And its even hard to happen in movies.

You have someone that loves you unconditionally and takes you exactly as you are and yet you are pushing them AWAY!! Can you stop self-hating and pitying yourself? And SEE the truth for what it is and accept it and be fking grateful?
If i was beside you right now i would freakin slap you or even punch you in the face really firmly. And then explain to you how the love of my life loved me very conditionally and in fact broke up with me because she could NOT accept me the way i am and whatever wrong decisions i may have done in life.

It is extremely hard to love someone despite their mistakes or bad habits in life. You almost never find this kind of love. But when you do. It is real, pure, and genuine. And you better hold on tight to it with all your might. Because people never get that chance again in life.
Stop pushing her away. And appreciate what you have.

I swear to me this looks like god is actually looking after you and sending you people to save you despite your stupidity and rebellion. Me seeing your post and writing this being one of them. Because im extremely NOT active in here and almost never post things. Yet here i am somehow god knows why im giving you a piece of how the other side looks like.

Answer 16

Jean-Marie_Céline

@Battooot you could be right, but to be honest I reject and have a strong hatred of God for many other jokes he played on me, so I'm not a big fan of those things.
I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with love, but despite my trying to get better something bad almost happens.
That said, I do try to treat everyone well and making them smile when I don't have too much pain.

Answer 17

Battooot

Your way of thinking about god and how he treated you in life is way too simplistic. And before i show you how simplistic it is... i would like to say that i very much expected you to act and think in this way before you even told me so.

You have a pessimistic way of looking at life. And life really is subjective. The way life looks to people is 100% influenced by their mindset and how they think. I've been seeing your posts all over gag and i see through your words how negative your way of thinking is and how sad and depressed you are. The way you look at life is negative. And because of that you only mostly notice the negative things that happen in your life and capitalize on them unconciously. And you will NOT notice the good things that you were blessed with in life. Like just now you had the most blessed thing anyone can possibly ask for in life, someone who loves you unconditionally. And you didn't even know it. You are blessed in so many way but you just dont know it. You really seriously dont know what you have until you lose it. Can you think for a moment what is the most precious thing in life a blind man can ask for? If a deaf man can have 1 wish come true in life what would it be? If an unloved man like me can have 1 wish in life what would it be?
Some people's most precious things in life are in your hands and you dont even know the value of what you have. They do because they lost them or dont have them. You only know the value of what you have when you lose it, or if you are lucky... when someone makes you aware of it before you lose it.

Answer 18

Battooot

So my summary is: your way of thinking of god is 100% influenced by the same pessimistic mindset that makes you focus on the negatives in life and the same one that makes you depressed.

Now to show you how simplistic your thinking of god is. It is so simplistic that even a book that was written ~1,450 years ago... spoken by a man who is known to be illiterate (by the way to muslims these are god's words letter by letter tramsitted to him through Angel Gabriel) predicted exactly how you would think.

Quran 89:15 & 16
"(The nature of) man is that, when his Lord tries him through honour and blessings, he says (puffed up), ‘My Lord has honoured me' "
"But when He tries him and restricts his provision, he says, ‘My Lord has humiliated me' ".

Answer 19

Battooot

Do you want to know what this book suggests about how you should think of god? Or curious about what it says of why he does those 'jokes that he played on you' ? Its all explained in detail and clarity. All those answers and much more are exactly answered. Maybe it could help you think of better ways to think of god or life in general. For your own mental health and wellbeing i mean.

Go Quran. com and read from anywhere you like. There is no chronological order of the chapters. It is like a spider web where you can read from the middle of the chapter then later read from the end or the beggining but the spider web of knowledge will still formulate in the same manner until it is complete.

Answer 20

Jean-Marie_Céline

@Battooot maybe you are right that my views on life are influenced by pessimism and pain, but it's really difficult to get out of this mindset in the environment I live.
However, it'd better for me to not read the Quran or if I did it'd be better to keep it private. I run a cooperative that's backed and funded by Christians, and with them I keep quiet about my personal beliefs too.

Answer 21

Battooot

Yes it is extremely difficult to change a mindset. Because you are trying to change something that is embedded in your subconcious and something that defines you as... you. But you have to realize that you are not "changing" your mindset. You can't just decide to change your mindset. Our mindset is formed based on what we know and learned about life and how we took all this IN. But is your knowledge and learning about life complete? Not in the slightest. Which means there is much more knowledge and learning to do. Which also means that as you experience, learn, and see more... those come into play in forming your current and future mindset.

In summary, your mindset changes by itself as you learn more and expand your horizon in life. Which means all you need to do is learn more and expand your horizon.

If your mindset as it stands is not doing you any good. It just means that the environment and learnings you were exposed to so far hasn't been to your benefit. Which means you gotta indulge yourself into more learning or explore how others think or what influences their way of thinking. Is it their beliefs? Their environment? and see what you like or what makes sense to you.

For me personally. My mindset that you currently see has been mainly influenced by 3 things that come to my head right off the bat. And they are in order of importance.

1. The Quran that I've been lucky to growup learning and taking all my life principles from and have all my life questions answered to the letter. 2. The anime/cartoon that i watched as a child from Spacetoon channel which only showed cartoons that teach courage, kindness, valueing friendships, and never giving up. 3. Having being raised by mum and dad who gave me a lot of love and both have a nice sense of humor.

And yes i see nothing wrong in reading the Quran in private. Infact. Thats how you should be reading it. No one needs to know.

Answer 22

Battooot | 124 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

No. No. No. And NO. She did not. Could not. And was not able to. And it was the only thing that was hurting us and destroying us throughout our entire 3yr dating period. And it kept getting worse as our love for each other increased. Until it got to a point where it was unbearable for her.

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SnowyOwl | 87 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

I think that acceptance is a basis for a healthy relationship. You should never go into it thinking you're gonna change someone. But rather that you accept and love each other, and are taking the challenge to keep growing and learning together. As the MHO by @Bluemax said, a partner will inspire you to become your better self. That is your personal choice though. That is a healthy relationship. Regardless the ups and downs it may go through

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Answer 24

Iknowbestgirls

Xper 5

I just had a first date with my coworker. She seems to like me so far so we will see how things go on our second date on Monday.
She seems really kool and responsible. Sometimes I think she is out of my league but my friend said I shouldn't think like that.
Especially since she is the one that hit on me and asked me out.
Once things get serious between us of course I'm going to stop flirting with random online girls and delete this profile too.
Well I hope things with us go well.

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Account | 1.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

I have only been in long term relationships.
It might sound like an odd answer, but I don't think they ever knew me that well in order to accept me.
However, that is not only their fault, I can acknowledge the fact that it is mine too.

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Jjpayne | 2.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

That sure will be my aim once I get one but I've currently not found a date that accepts me... Well accept for one 🤔 😅 but I can't just date only one person so I'm waiting on that golden stable job when I'm more marketable

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electromagnetic | 469 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

I sure hope so. We’ve been together for a while he’s never pressured or suggested I change anything about myself. I’m sure there is something about me he’ll want to change but he’s too nice to say

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ohshee | 1.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

It's that feeling that brings you together it's that feeling that maples every thing happen I just answered the question before this one how that feeling works

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Daniela1982 | 691 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

If they don't it's time to move on. Do you feel that your partner accepts you the way you are?

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Lynx122 | 392 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Yes my non existent girlfriend is super accepting of me, I can do whatever I want and she supports me :) She's a keeper

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Espresso-Grande

Yoda

Yes. My husband is one of the few people who knows me and accepts me for who I am.

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SashaAMB

Xper 6

No. I have made big changes and yet he nitpicks at my little flaws. It’s demoralizing.

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Elliegirl | 417 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Definitely. He loves me for who I am and I love him for who he is ❤️

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Xoxocutekitty | 473 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Ya. He totally puts up with needy cuddling and phone misplacing ways.

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dtweed1996 | 65 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 5

As yes she when we are talking she is talking about how handsome I am and I talk about how cute she is but I think the constant love is still manipulating her

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LemiaOfTheCodes

Xper 7

I thought ahe did but aparrently not. Otherise she wouldmt of ghosted me.

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Answer 37

Anonymous

Sim, ela me aceita bem. Mas eu estou tendo alguma dificuldade pra aceitar nossa relação ultimamente... Andei percebendo que ela provavelmente é lésbica, e isso tem me deixado com receio de levar a relação adiante.

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humanearth | 992 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

I would say so. We would not be together for close to 30 years, if she didn't

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Answer 39

LogicalGal123

Xper 5

Yes. It's who U are. No one can change ur but urself.

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that_one_chick113

Xper 2

I’ve shown my boyfriend pretty much how I am completely so yes he accepts it. He matches my personality great

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