I agree. I don’t understand how some people I know prefer quantity.
Younger? Sometimes it takes more experiences in life to learn the test truth, about what's important in bout life and people... And some people think more friends shows how great "they" are, the "see everybody loves me" mindset...
*real not test
I think it’s the latter, because they’re all in their late 20s and early 30s so I wouldn’t call them young.
That's still young to me lolol cuz I'm pushing closer and closer to 50😱
The way I see it, our characters are mostly developed by 28. We can grow and develop further sure. But for the most part our character stays somewhat the same. As for age, we’re all aging and it’s just a number. 😂
Tell that to my bones and joints 🥺😂And character yes, but the longer you live the"more" you learn about things, through experiences you go through in life. Some people get right away hope important and what real friends are and some don't/won't realize till they hit rock bottom and see who's still there as their friendhttps://youtu.be/JREouTHpyJE
I agree! Rock bottom is a great teacher. I’m always thankful for the predicaments I face, as they often show the true colors of those around me. I think of it as trash taking itself out to the dumpster.
Also, thanks for the song lol
Very true, and welcome
It's like if a person has a hundred friends, probably at least a few are gonna watch their back and become lifelong friends just in terms of probabilities. If a person just has a few, I don't know. Maybe they're amazing or maybe they're not.
So my style was network like crazy -- if only to seek quality -- through numbers/volume. But I enjoy even the surface sort of acquaintances. They're at least fun.
And you know, if I felt like it, I could still turn some of those into lifelong best friends. I really think the volume strategy is the key to quality... a low-volume to quality requires luck. A high-volume diminishes the luck factor.
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That’s a good way to think of it, as long as we know how to balance it
True! Unfortunately, finding that one true friend is extremely hard.
It is very hard! I've been friends with my best friend since the age of 5. I value her friendship so much, because I know how hard it is to find a genuine lasting friendship. There's only 3 people in my life who I view as friends.
The number is 2 in my case and I’m grateful for them. 🙌🏼
Me too :)
How about friendships? Not necessarily romantic relationships.
I find 2 to be a high number in this day and age
That was just a randon number. I have quite a few valued friends.
That’s good. I just meant that good friends are rare.
That's true though. Had to go through many fake ones.
I didn’t mean in a romantic relationship. Just generally with friends.
To much I’ll end up having to pay for them all every time I go out with them
I didn’t mean that obviously! I meant relationships or friendships
Who said that? I actually like it.
Im sure someone at some point said it. In this case I just happened to think it up on my own.
Many people think of friendships as means to an end - even when they don’t admit that
Well yea, most friendships end, but I don't see why people would PREFER quantity
Read what I wrote again. I’m saying many people view friendships as a mean to an end. The end being something they’ll get from you, and benefit as a result. Not an end as in end of the relationship. That’s why they’d prefer quantity. They’d use the maximum number of people around them to achieve their goals. (Social climbers are an example)
Hm... well that's not true friendship, I guess that's what you meant by quality
Yes! Quality is true friendship. Unfortunately, we all have “quality friendships” that turn out to be fake.
But then I'd have to go back to my initial comment: why would anyone actively prefer quantity?
So they’d use this quantity to achieve their goals! 😂What’s so complicated about this?
Well, people who'd say quantity, from what you're saying would be bad people then.. who would admit to being a bad person?
They’d not necessarily view it as bad. Some people openly admit that they’re social with a large number of connections. Doesn’t necessarily mean they’re bad. They might not backstab you, but they often ask you for stuff (referrals, favors, etc.)
Using people never good at least
Are you from NY? Lol. That’s what’s up man.
Quantity? Why’s that?