What do you do when someone hurt you badly and yet tries to play the victim?

[Karmaknowsit]

You should talk to them, tell that person he/she is hurting u by this.. sometimes the person would have had a very bad past where he was he or she was made with them so they take it out on others know sometimes they want to look I am innocent because they want you to support them one of my friend every time she will fight with me at the end of the day she will be like I did this because you did that to me and it makes me feel sorry then later I came to know she was abused in her family so she was trying to like I didn't do anything. tell the person whenever you face a problem with them tell them that this is the thing what you did hurt me and you should be clear with them or should understand them or another option is stay away from them if you can't take it this way you will be happy

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Disassociate myself from that person. If someone hurts you and then tries to play the victim, they're
1-someone that can't admit, own, take responsibility for their own actions or mistakes.
2- shows things won't change or get better, if they can't admit they did anything wrong their behavior, actions won't change.

[Jjpayne]

It's a unqine place... I guess they are trying to vindicate their decision... to get you to agree it was the right choice to the point where they make you feel guilty...

I think it depends on what it is and how they hurt you. Different situations call for different approaches 🤔 but overall, standing your ground and making your opinion strongly known is a start. Depending on the relationship, a boss, a teacher or a family member, you might not be able to totally space yourself from them but a boyfriend, friend or ex.. you could simply ghost them until they behave, or block their number and remove from social media.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Distance myself socially.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

My mother is like that.
I'm considering pressing charges.

[Aguysopinion4799]

Admittedly I tend to make them the victim... if they want to play the victim I often decide to make sure that the situation is fitting. But if they do something to me and then recognise their mistake and apologise then I will be less likely to cause a scene about it.

I mean, I know so many times in my life when a person has played the victim card and I just make sure they regret using such a method... if you give someone one bad experience and it is linked to a certain thing they did, they learn fairly soon not to do it again.

[glamz091506]

I try my best to make my case towards the person whom hurt me that their actions put some damage towards me on how I view him/her. If this person is one to make a spectacle in saying that I'm the "attacker", I'd share my view to those whom matter most to me in telling them my side of the story in hopes they see my vantage point. If this person continues to mistreat me, I'd cut them out of my life.

[Espresso-Grande]

It depends on who they are and how they hurt me.

I may hear them out, because sometimes people only see one side of things when they've been hurt. I may have also hurt too them without realizing I had. So it really depends on a situation.

If I know someone is trying to manipulate me by playing the victim, I'd just ignore them.

[Toast792]

I don't typically let people close enough to hurt me. But when people try to play the victim in an argument, I keep a stone cold attitude and a monotone voice, and try to overwhelm them with facts. If they are too stupid to give up on their trash 'victim' routine, then I will likely stop talking to them. I would rather not be associated with that kind of person.

[Ewgies01]

Sounds like you are both hurt. You need to have a heart to heart and understand where each of you are coming from. Make SURE you own anything that’s your responsibility or close. you will have a much better chance of reconciliation. Listen, set boundaries, share your truth and be open minded.

[Horny-ashell]

I'm not sure that I would actually do anything. Just because someone has hurt me and wants to be the victim doesn't mean that I would want to have anything to do with them trying it act as if I had wronged them in any way. I would probably just move on and try to avoid them for what they have done to me. I try my best not to hold grudges towards anyone that would make me as bad a person as they are. Nobody wins in this kind of situation.

[JustinTheGreat]

I’ve always been way too nice and forgiving of a person. I used to be manipulated very easily. And I’ve finally learned to see when someone is being manipulative and to cut those people off. It’s still hard for me and I still feel bad no matter how bad a person treated me, but I’ve been forcing myself to cut contact with people who try to play victim and I’m definitely more stress free because of it.

[EssenceOfLight]

Generally I go in full escalation mode with them.
I'm kidding with sarcastic phrases like "Aww, you poor boy/girl..." Psychos are obsessed with their status quo as credible person and can't handle handle situations when someone treats them like spoiled children.

[RingOfFire]

I'll counter with "What do you do when someone hurts you badly because they think THEY are the victim and you ARE actually the victim?"

Everything is about perspective.

The answer is to not be so sure you are right and try to see things from their perspective. If you BOTH do that, you can work anything out.

[dezzydoodles]

my mom is like this and i relly think its dumb bc its shows the immaturity and the failure to grow up and take reponsibility for your actions yet you can call out and bitch when someone hurts youand let them deny iy its ww3

[ZackBan]

Im a pragmatic person I don't really go into emotional debates with people.
Those who hurt me usually make my list of enemies and I make what they did clear to them in a conversation. It doesn't matter if they play the victim once you are my enemy anything you say is irrelevant and you'll figure out eventually that you made a costly mistake.

[RolandCuthbert]

Put distance between yourself and that nonsense. Don't try to reason with it or try to argue with it.

Get away from that kind of poison. You don't need that in your life.

[likelyOK]

I have seen people like that but not experienced myself maybe call them out on their shit that is probably what it takes

[Jayla2000]

Time to cut them out my life.
My rule is
Ya bring no value to my life, I got no place for ya in my life

[Hannah_le]

Mm i hurt them lol UNOOO

[lonelyfortune]

Being a victim and hurting someone else doesn't exclude each other. It's quite common for victims to hurt others if they don't know how to process it. It's a part of misguided venting.

[EyebrowChewie]

They dont really succeed as theyve likely been doing that most of their life.

[ct1243]

Forgive them and move on. Block them and stop communication

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Set them straight on the event in no uncertain terms.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

4 of my fingers get erectile dysfunction while the other gets a raging boner

[Hanoi_Jane00]

Best to ignore them. They hate that more than anything
.

[Citizenkirk]

Stop being the victim by removing them from your life.

[Thedivinechic]

Ignore it. They probably just suffered a lot of abuse in the past. So, they see themselves in that light. Give them a chance. Be patient. Just love them

[Anonymous]

Advise them that they have been very hurtful, that their behaviour had been thoroughly deplorable, and that you have no sympathy for them given their victim culture.

[ArrowheadSW]

I had that happen a long time ago in my mid-twenties. I was trying to make sense of it and I tried to reason with her. After so long I realized that she was a toxic person and I distanced myself from her.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I just have to move on and give them the silent treatment, I know it sounds bad but for females who have hurt me I resorted to the silent treatment

[Steve1071]

😈 Oh how revenge is so sweet and time is eternal and patience is a virtue. People who hurt others very badly get what they have coming to them when they least expect it.

[sagebeat]

Do your best to disconnect completely. Someone like that is going to be manipulating for the rest of their life. They will not hesitate to do more damage to you or the people around you the next time their back is against the wall.

[Anonymous]

I usually apologize and if I feel wronged by them then I slowly pull back and fade into the background.

[shade_19]

Leave them
Don't meet them ever, if met by mistake go with silent treatment
Or other way
Take a bottle and break their head

[Chris_here]

If you did nothing wrong don't feel bad about it and move on, of course you'll be upset but it'll be for the best.

[Alexa703]

I go no contact my parents tend to that and throw money at it.

[Mav12]

Walk away as quickly as possible, that's a narcissist

[Nick568]

This was literally my dad after years of physical abuse. He's an amazing gaslighter. I've learned to ignore what people like him say and cut them out of your life.

[msc545]

I get away from them and stay away. The false accusations are likely to follow very shortly and I don't want to be around for them.

[TayTay21]

I shit on them until they get so hurt that they crawl away and never come back. That's the only way to handle those type of users.

[ohshee]

Just smile there's nothing i want to do i would rather them just keep talking ,, because the truth always comes out

[thimmslicc]

My ex did that.
Ignoring him works well
He was confused and he finally admits he was wrong when I ignore him

[Luigie]

Listen and learn from mistakes. It takes 2 to be a couple, and the same 2 to fix things and make the right decisions for the 2.

[ayomanwya]

Can’t really do anything when it’s the opposite gender and I know for a fact that I am a guy that will never do anything to cause that

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Lol i can't do anything in such cases, especially if it's a girl.

It would be a big drama and you know who side will the people take so I would suck it up and move on let them win.

[colin77]

Lol... honestly alkind of things run through my mind... but I do control my anger

[offendedsorbet]

Call them out on their bull shit then cut them out of my life

[Lliam]

Ignore them. Be cold if they try to approach you. Treat them as if they don't exist.

[Agape93]

Same as anyone who hurts me. They’re in deep trouble

[sheikalana]

Dump them out of my life. I don't play those games.

[REALSTEEL]

i went threw that only thing you can do is forgive and forget and move on life is to short so enjoy each day as your last

[MrCreep]

Not a lot I can do with people like this but avoid them

[Coulis]

Ignore their ass. You can't reason with such people.

[mydisgustingfather]

Whatever happens, i forgive her or him. Normally i'm a spiteful person but i can never use it where it should.

[douride2]

I disown & avoid them. If someone does that to me there is never any going back.

[phoebe245]

Let them go. Cut them out. No need to keep them in your life

[MrOracle]

I call them on their bullshit immediately.

[Shizuoko]

I simply block them from my life.

[Kas19]

Let them. I don't have time for narcissism.

[SavageGirl101]

Block them and cut the out of my life

[Hydra6544]

If that ever happens to me I would be very angry.

[loveslongnails]

Can't say that's happened to me yet.

[Sia_nee]

I just let it go and move on.