These are all good points, but some fat people also have eating disorders which is something they can't control.
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So don’t judge or try and help your drug addicted brother? Your alcoholic mother? Your depressed father?
Obviously this is within reason.
If your mothers fat and dying of diabetes you gonna stay silent?
You said to judge, not to express concern.
You have to judge the behavior is negative to express concern.
You don't have to outwardly express judgment though.
By expressing concern shows your belief the activity is bad does it now?
Yes but you can do it in a way that isn't harsh. Example:"Wow you are really fat, shouldn't you lose weight if you have diabetes?" ✖"Hey, im worried about your health, can I help you get on a plan to manage it?" ✔
The point is you just contradicted your original statement. If I don’t want to date fat girls because their unhealthy it’s fat shaming and unfair. All because I have a preference. at least I say what I think and stick to it.
I'm not contradicting myself. You don't need to put someone down to say no to them. You can just say no.
“Don’t judge or mention it”You have shown a clear difference between judging someone and putting your judgement into action with this statement here. Also I think your being a bit loose with your definition of judge. Judge is something done in your head not something you put forth into action.Furthermore admitting expressing concern is judging someone and you say “but you can do it...” meaning you agree under certain circumstances you believe to be right that you can judge someone.This is why hypocrisy exists. People say the first thing they feel without considering their feelings then they have to twist their own words to be all encompassing or else don’t give enough information to be properly understood...Now going back do you think, under the right circumstances, it’s ok to judge people by height and weight?
Judging someone : "to express a bad opinion of someone's behaviour, often because you think you are better than them: You have no right to judge other people because of what they look like or what they believe."Expressing concern "to say or show that you're worried about something."When I say don't judge or mention it, I was under the impression we are talking about strangers.I never said expressing concern is judging someone. You can think negative things about someone, but expressing your concern doesn't necessarily correlate to that.I said you can express concern in a way that isn't harsh. That isn't going to come across as judgmental.No I don't think it is ok to judge someone by height or weight.
You judge a person by their character. Not the way they look.
So you will date an extremely ugly person With a good personality?
I'm pansexual im probs the worse person to ask this. I'd date a gay man given the chance
@Smashingdoozy exactly it’s the person, their personality etc, not their body shape, ethnicity, or even sexuality.The amount of body shaming that goes on is ridiculous.
Yes but we’re constantly being judged. A fat person is generally fat because they choose not to workout or eat healthy. There’s outliers like thyroid problems but that’s a whole separate thing. A lazy person is judged for being lazy. Do you think being a few extra lbs in the belly I get dates when I try? Na man I’m not desirable. I’m also short so that’s a double wammy. I’ll get my 6pack back over the next few weeks but facts are facts wether you like em or not. We should not promote and embolden fat people to remain so it’s not healthy. Should you walk up and call her fat on the street... prob not. But I can choose not to have her cause she’s fat she can choose not to have me cause I’m short... choices choices.
Never said that you couldn't have preferences mate. All my point was is that you don't need to tell the person and make them feel like shit, chances are that they know they are fat and you have no idea if they are doing anything about it or not. Being a judgmental person about things like this can lead to those you judge forming bad habits.
You seem focused on doing something about judgement whereas the question to me made me thing judge in your mind and allow it to effect your decisions. Judgement sucks but it’s part of being human.
I don't know how many times I have to repeat the same thing I've said over and over.
I mean it seems like people were MEANT to judge. Not mean. Lol