Have you ever been involved with someone who later turned out to be married or in a relationship?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Yes, it happened right after my first serious break-up.
I had met a woman to the fairs and struck up conversation with her, and offered her a ticket that was meant for my ex. We hit it off and had some dates, but actually she was just having a moment of distance from her fiancée and I was convenient to fill the gap I guess.
I detailed it here - What happened when I approached a random woman in the street

[OlderAndWiser]

No, but about 40 years ago, I had two different gfs leave me to go back to an ex. That was the last time I got involved with someone on the rebound.

[coachTanthony]

Yes a couple of times. It wasn't pretty.

[meetkitty123]

Yes I did & I loved every moment of it. It was a torrid forbidden yet perfect love affair. He had a girlfriend I had a fiance He & I worked together we could gotten in serious trouble. He was the man every girl wanted (not I. I was indifferent to him at first) He was the tough rough kind of guy The sexy cowboy type who's only real love was his daughter & his truckYet we happened We were tossed together working late night shifts & then an emergency tornado alert forced us to bunker down together I a nervous wreck & he suddenly went from bad ass tough guy to sweet compassionate county gentleman because he saw me distressed. We fell in love though never spoke about it. We did start talking about rooming together since my man was an ass & a real piece of sh! t. My lover told me to leave him and room at his place. that never happened 😞 he died 3 weeks after in a terrible car accident. It was at his funeral I found out how much he loved me. His family who I did not know they knew me pulled me to their side & treated me so kindly. They informed me he would never stop talking about me he shared pictures if me told them I was his girl. Then they told me he had a ring on lay away down to the last payment He was going to propose to me 💔😞. 😥 yes I loved that man & that love affair dearly. I never regretted it because he was the first man to show me what it meant to be loved! Now I am currently in a complicated marriage We are courteous to each others now that we have reached an agreement our marriage is a marriage of convenience & Its become a respectful friendship. We need each others financially & in co parenting We can't afford to split & we both benifit best remaining married We sleep in separate rooms & for the most part I keep the household up with the help of his higher than mine income I also drive him to all his doctor appointments and make sure he takes his meds I make certain all the bills are paid & of course his part of the income helps with this. It works but its a bit overwhelming & gets lonely at times. I must say An affair at times seems tempting. I currently have a friend who has offered to be a lover. He says he wants to be my "2nd" & my"next". He wants me to offer my future, have his children (choose him as my sperm donor), become his wife (when I become available) & eventually move in with him which would require me moving to a different country and (most likely) selling my home. This would be a major commitment & clearly more than a plain love affair. I adore him & his friendship. I admit there is also a sexual appeal to him however I foresee problems & I am not in agreement with how he would like to proceed. For example I was on the phone with him recently & he hushed me He didn't want his mother to hear me She knows of me & knows I'm married & he's not open to facing criticism for being with me so he wants to keep me on the down low. Now this is where I am in disagreement. The way I see it Its no secret I am married if you are not ok with people knowing you are engaged to (Or dating) a married person then dont go after married people! If this was going to be an issue for a man then he shouldn't be attempting to woo me. I can understand him wanting to hide it if It was I seducing him and pleading for his attention but its the other way around. It may not make sense to others but I'm claiming this as my prerogative if I'm going to engage in an affair I want it all or not at all. I know If a man proves himself worthy and I fall deeply in love I won't be planning to keep it secret from my family because they understand the circumstances of my marriage. I want the same respect back. The way I see it if I can't have all of the man then I want no more than friendship. I rather just make due with my marriage and have ONLY one half relationship than have TWO half relationships. Sorry in this case 2 halves just doesn't equal a whole.

[JoseyWales4]

Kind of. STORY TIME. So I practice Brazilian Jiu Jistu and the owner of the gym organized a tubing event on the last day of summer to go tubing down these rapids in the Delaware River. He invited his friend who owned a gym and she brought a lot of her clients. Honestly there wasn’t many BJJ clients who went on the trip but a lot of CrossFit people from the other gym. Long story short I see this women (from cross fit) who is a bit older than me but she looks good. Super attractive. Anyway I start putting the moves on her and we hit it off. I hang out with her friend for awhile and when we finally get ready to go tubing in the river she makes it very obvious she wants to hang out with me on the water. So we tie our tubes together (we had a group of other people tied as well but she was directly tied to my tube and she and I were flirting the entire time). Half way into the journey her tube pops mid rapid and I convince her to hop in my single tube and she without out hesitation agrees and climbs aboard. Mind you her friend I mentioned earlier was still attached to our small group and she had a double person flotation raft. She could have got in with her friend not me. So naturally I’m thinking “oh my god this is going really well”.
On top of that earlier in the trip a BJJ guy from my gym was trying to hit on her while we were chatting and what not (this guy is a lot more fit and a tiny bit better looking than I) but she’s more interested in me and he backs off. At this point everyone wants to go off on their own and we all untie and me and this woman are alone on the River flirting and I’m making her laugh a bunch of times. And there was some not so innocent touching. Through the whole day if you know what I mean.
so the day ends the whole rafting party goes back to the gym owners house and we have a caterer there and when everyone leaves I ask her for her number so we can hang out more. She said “sorry I’m actually not single”
I was actually speechless. Turns out she was married with two children.
now at first I was upset, like “oh man I struck out again” but then I felt bad for her husband. Because the entire day after so much flirting, touching, her basically sitting on my lap for 2 hours on a single inner tube, and leading me on by letting it go really far and actively contributing to it. She didn’t let it slip she was married.
If I had known, it won’t have happened. I wouldn’t have flirted I wouldn’t have invited her on my raft and I definitely wouldn’t have allowed her to touch me the way she did the whole day.
So that’s sort of my story. I feel sorry for the husband because she really violated his trust and crossed the line.

[Sheyhoney]

Yes. I met him at the restaurant he worked at and he asked for my number. He was very sweet and handsome so I agreed. Later on I realized he would only text me during his work hours and he could never find time to hang out with me outside of work. I remember we hung out about 4 times though and each time he would buy me flowers and take me to eat and do something romantic. He really had me hooked and it seemed like he really wanted me too. We made out a couple times but I never let it get further than that.
The way I found out was bc my friend found his second social media account where he had his WIFE and newborn baby posted.
I felt horrible and I went to the restaurant he worked at and cut him off.
I didn’t know whether or not to tell his wife and I ended up not telling her.
I still feel guilty to this day, especially bc she seemed like a really nice girl that loved him.


However I did see her about a year ago with her baby but he was nowhere in sight. I overheard her aunt tell her she was glad she left his ass so I guess in the end she ended up leaving his cheating ass, and that truly makes me feel better.

[ohshee]

Guess what I was 16 and a half 17 I was babysitting for a lady when she got home the lady that she was with that night asked if I wanted a ride home and I said yes was she only lives a few blocks away to ask her if you can stop by her house and it was the little house behind the house I said sure anyway for almost 9 months I would meet with her every other night and just about eight and a half months into it I went to see her and she was all beat up and ask what happened and she said her husband beat her up I didn't know she was married she tried to explain to me that he owns a big business in town and he's been having affairs she got sick and tired of it so she wanted to have one she said she had never ever been touched or been made to feel the way that I could make her feel couple days later I told her I didn't feel right about her being married can I get my hair to get beat up again so I broke it off with her and in doing so she had one of her friends come over to talk to me and the next thing I know her and I are doing the same thing but what's a month the first lady would call me up and I would go over and see her and she would talk me into making love with her all day I told her about the second lady and she said yes she knew he's okay as long as I was happy

[PaynefulPleasures]

Yes I was young & naive. He basically swept me off my feet. I'd been to his place no signs of another woman. Long story short he takes me to dinner says he hasn't been entirely honest & that his wife was moving back in & they are going to work on things. Yet he had the audacity to say to me you don't mind waiting just in case this doesn't work. I got up cursed at him & walked away never to here from him again friggin ahole 🤬😠
I wish people would be honest from the start. Even though that was many moons ago my guard is still up.

[Lady_Ann]

Oh my God, yes!
I've dated a man for like a month, we had sex twice and then he vanished.
After months his fiance texted me and I was socked!
We met on a dating site, he said he was single and there were no indicators that he wasn't so imagine the mind state I was in when his fiance send me a message in my fb account asking to know if we had sex.
I told her everything, she thank me for saving her from getting married to him. We stayed friends for a while. She was so cool and he is such a pig.

[Espresso-Grande]

Yes

I was dating a guy and I started to really like him. But I found out he was in a long-term relationship with another woman.

I ended it with him when I found out. He started "blowing up" my phone with texts messages and phone calls , telling me to give him a chance because he was gonna leave his girlfriend for me. I just ignored him and changed my number

[amadimal]

Count me in as well. In my early 20's I found myself caught in a few situations like this, and what left a mark on me, each and every time, was the ease the guys told me after a while they already had a girlfriend. After my first experience, I asked the other guys if they were single and even though they weren't, they said they were. My favorite answer, which I heard it from several guys, is ”Why would I be talking to you/spending time with you if I already have a girlfriend?”.
Another recent example that shocked me - my best friend (early 30's) moved in with her boyfriend right before the pandemic started. She found out a few weeks ago that he already had a girlfriend and he was taking advantage of the lockdown restriction to visit her less (but they were still meeting nonetheless).

[Screenwriter]

yep. Assumed he was divorced when he was only "separated."

People are "divorced in their minds," but separated means NOTHING. I don't know what the percentages are, but separated people reconcile ALL THE TIME. Don't talk to me unless you're DIVORCED and divorced for more than a year. People are on the rebound when freshly divorced. Don't want to get involved. That's been my experience.

[meggykentums]

Yes, she had a husband and didn't tell me. I actually enjoyed being the other woman which I fully recognize makes me problematic.

[doopayo]

Yes. I had liked this one guy in school and I never told him but I guess he liked me back or something because he started flirting with me in class and later on I found out he had a girlfriend so I just instantly stopped liking him and that was that

[volleyball_bigirl]

Went on a couple dates with a guy that was married, never wore a ring and had no indent or other sign that he wore a ring.
The last date we had he forgot to take it off apparently, worst day ever as I was really starting to like him. Thankfully never went further than a kiss and date

[TheorionMage]

Yes, I'd had an 'open marriage' friends with benefits torrid intimate relationship with a married woman whose spouse apparently either couldn't or wouldn't impregnate her. She was amazing... our tryst concluded by her choice with formalization of my 'common law' cohabitation by civil service with her standing as our Matron of Honor. To this day, I miss her unique playful lustiness and overt libido~ ;'(

[infinitybreaker2018]

I've had a few girls who I didn't know we're in a relationship flirt and push the issue, but I would pretty quickly find out they had a boyfriend.

I went a few dates with this girl in college, but stopped seeing her when I found out she still lived with her ex.

[InfobotLives]

Yes, my mom. When I found out that she was married to my dad I was like wtf mom, I thought we were exclusive 🤔

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I felt bad for this one girl cause she had a boyfriend, we all went to this Partial Program together and I kept staring at her well, she broke it off with him, to go with me and I feel bad cause of the breakup and I would never do anything like that again so yeah we learn from our mistakes I know I did?

[CrazyGirl2]

No! (Unless you count the guy who raped me… he was married to my aunt)

[Flower7]

Yep, a guy told me he was single and we dated for a few weeks, but it turned out that he'd been in a relationship the whole time. I found out because the girl started texting me, and also threatening me.

[Kaneki05]

No but i have sext with an Ex who i didn't know she had a new boyfriend at that time.

[avicennagal]

Yes. I used to work in Aviation so many people could get away with a pretend life while away from home. The most common story was being divorced. I dated one man for one month. I called his phone while he was home... a lady could be heard in the background. I was informed that not only was he not divorced but they were not even separated. We broke up...

[Anonymous]

Oh yea and it was such a fucked up situation. This man lied about everything. He ended up getting a divorce two years after. He has a girlfriend now and still cheats. I don’t understand why not just stay single

[ArrowheadSW]

Once in my late twenties. She was separated but not divorced, and she told me that she was divorced. She hadn't even started the divorce process yet. If I knew that I don't think I'd got involved.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes I have, on both occasions, I specifically asked if they were single, they said yes but later proved not to be the case.

[weysally]

my only involvement sexily has been with married men in a MFM threesome, namely because they keep their mouth shut,

[Needtovent]

I’ve definitely gone on dates with guys who weren’t single but I was lucky enough to work things out before I got involved with them

[Andres77]

Yup, she was married and her husband was traveling and she was bitter so she used me for my body... and I let her.

[Jjpayne]

I'd say the closest I come to this is looking around for women to think about talking to and asking on a date, only to find that as I watch them from a distance or talk to them, their So comes up or their kid.

[Massageman]

Well, for my disaster high school prom I took someone who had a guy in the military. I was considered a "safe" date for her.

[worldscolide]

No thankfully. I know if i found out later that i was, i would leave immediately and make sure and tell her boyfriend or husband. I dont want to be part of cheating.. Not on any side of it.

[Mark987]

Ya... I kind of knew but lo I was young and didn't care

[jessiie06]

I was seeing this guy when I was a teenager, turns our he had a girlfriend. I stopped seeing him right away and was pissed at him.

[DrunkenMaster]

I haven't and I'm 100% sure I'll figure it out within a week or 2 if the person was in a relationship.

[Just_call_me_Levi]

Sorta, but she was in a polyamorous relationship, and the other girl was okay with me joining too... I backed out of it though, and somehow our friendship survived.

[spartan55]

No, I get that information up front.

[Jamie05rhs]

I chatted with a girl who I later found out had a boyfriend. I was mad. I told her off.

[WhiteWolf69]

Not to my knowledge. I've been involved with a married woman before. I knew upfront

[Dchrls78104]

That would describe every girl I've ever looked at.

[AmeerX]

Yes :/.
I didn't have sex or anything but it broke my heart

[hello_kitty_man]

No, sorry I don't have to worry about this because I am observant enough to not to get involved with someone who is either married or in a relationship.

[Neko911]

No. He got in one after

[always_og]

Haha, kind of, but it was two people who were married to each other and we all got together at the same time

[nicdaddy]

Yyes it was an affair but she had the best pussy ever forget that she was married and fucked her over and over and every single day

[WowwGirl]

I think most females have sadly

[Fennec4xx]

2 girls said that to me after I tried to have relationship with them... probably lies, who knows!

[Sarahr123]

Nope I never have and I never would be.

[Leavesbound]

Been there done that.

[KrisRez]

I personally haven't but knew a friend that did.

[Grond21]

Yes. From here actually. And it wasn't pleasant

[sensible27]

Something similar, her, you know..

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

Does love hate relationship count?

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah... it really sucked.

[itzzzzniya]

Nope

[COMMODOREII]

I hope not. 😮

[loveslongnails]

Indeed, and it was quite a surprise.

[Wise4myage]

No, but I’ve heard of some bad situations.

[Guardian45]

Yes, I am and it's complicated.

[CubaPirate]

Yeah and but she got an upgrade with me lol