I had a bestfriend for 6 months who told me he caught feelings for me, I told him I felt the same and we would call for around 5 hours everyday. He told me he loved me etc. Hower, he has temper issues and smokes weed everyday so he's high daily. As he got comfortable with me he would get more rude to me. He also had a huge argument with my bestfriend where he told her he would "spit on her" and "back hand her" and that she's a slag etc. He would always tell me that he hates my friends and to stop listening to them. This strained mine and my bestfriend of 9 years relationship and me and her ended up having a huge argument as she wanted me to cut him off, I never. He asked me to be his girlfriend near enough every week and I said no every time. Little things started to get on my nerves such as he would call me dumb and immature as he was older than me and always dated older girls than himself, NEVER complimented me but complimented every single other girl when we were bestfriends. This made me feel like shit, especially when I would post a picture of me and have around 10 guys telling me how beautiful I was but him. So I told him I lost feelings for him and didn't want a relationship which I partly did but I was also and still am very confused. He at first took it very badly and wanted to cut me off but then we just continued to talk as if we were in a relationship. For a month I told him to move on and find someone else but he would tell me that it would take him like 2 years to get over me and that he lost interested in speaking to other girls. However, his 18th birthday just happened and his bestfriend told him to talk to this new girl. He did. He stopped calling me everyday like he used to. He would take ages to respond to me which drove me insane and I even logged into his account to read their chat. His replies got so long to me and whenever he did reply it was about her, he's only known her for 3 days. So i blocked him and now I don't know why I'm sad over it.
I don't understand my feelings, do I actually like him?
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Aakash_Hangargi | 490 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Lol girl relax, you just have residual feelings for him that will be there but you don't have to say everything to him now.
His out of your life just let him go, you have spent a lot of time with him so your mind will drag you to think about him it's not never heard of thing its quite common.
You just have stop chatting with him untill you have control over your feelings you can try finding a new simple guy or staying away from this relationship quest for now you are young hell lot of time is there..
So yeah just move on and he doesn't seems to look like he cares and also of you be like this vulnerable to him he might use you.
So best is to not be in contact with him
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20yearsolder | 268 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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I don't give a shit if you like him or not, run like the wind. He is showing tendencies of a guy that likes to dominate his girlfriends. Next thing you know you don't have any friends, you're not allowed to talk to your friends, you are being questioned continuously what you are doing, where you have been. Find somebody else this is not the right guy for you
I don't think he's like that tho he's always said I can meet up with any of my guy friends and when we were just bestfriends he was honest with me and he doesn't seem like the controlling kind I don't know
Why would you want to be with a guy that is threatening your friends, you should be disgusted by a guy that says he wants to spit in your friend's face and would slap them
she did tell him that she would fuck him up and they both threatened eachother as she's also aggressive in general but I don't know i just thought it was one mistake
Even so, a guy should never threaten a girl. He smokes weed everyday, how productive do you think he's going to be. I'm just telling you from what I've seen in the past. You can take my advice or not.
Once again, it's just my opinion but focus on finding somebody new. Somebody that doesn't smoke weed everyday, unless you're a weed smoker yourself. Find somebody that has the same interests as you.
Yeah no I've never done it but i tend to guy for guys like that unfortunately but I'll try stay positive and lay off guys for a while which was my initial plan 😂😂
He is abusive and manipulate your emotions. You deserve better. What you have is not love but deep dependant attachment. And unfortunately it happens when you're insecure and you doubt your worth.
A woman gain also confidence (not only I insist) by the gaze of her man. But before that try to work on yourself. The right man will only boost your installed confidence.
Give yourself time to heal and meet new people too !
It’s typical to feel sad over this because it affects your sense of worth. You liked him. He led you on with emotionally abusive behavior. The best way to get over this feeling is to purposefully interact with others especially men. Find a hobby to focus on. This man is not worth your time and attention. He wanted you for the wrong reasons.
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EmotionOfFear | 104 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Drop him. He gets high, he disrespects your friends. Your feelings will go, and when they do, you'll look back and wonder what you ever saw in him. I know it takes an active effort to get over them, though
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23His out of your life just let him go, you have spent a lot of time with him so your mind will drag you to think about him it's not never heard of thing its quite common.
You just have stop chatting with him untill you have control over your feelings you can try finding a new simple guy or staying away from this relationship quest for now you are young hell lot of time is there..
So yeah just move on and he doesn't seems to look like he cares and also of you be like this vulnerable to him he might use you.
So best is to not be in contact with him
I don't think he's like that tho he's always said I can meet up with any of my guy friends and when we were just bestfriends he was honest with me and he doesn't seem like the controlling kind I don't know
Why would you want to be with a guy that is threatening your friends, you should be disgusted by a guy that says he wants to spit in your friend's face and would slap them
she did tell him that she would fuck him up and they both threatened eachother as she's also aggressive in general but I don't know i just thought it was one mistake
Even so, a guy should never threaten a girl. He smokes weed everyday, how productive do you think he's going to be. I'm just telling you from what I've seen in the past. You can take my advice or not.
Yeah thank you, well I've cut him out my life rn i just don't know if i should try get him back. But i appreciate it :)
Once again, it's just my opinion but focus on finding somebody new. Somebody that doesn't smoke weed everyday, unless you're a weed smoker yourself. Find somebody that has the same interests as you.
Yeah no I've never done it but i tend to guy for guys like that unfortunately but I'll try stay positive and lay off guys for a while which was my initial plan 😂😂
Find somebody that treats you like a queen, you don't have to go out with a guy thinking he's doing you a favor by going out with you.
He is abusive and manipulate your emotions. You deserve better. What you have is not love but deep dependant attachment. And unfortunately it happens when you're insecure and you doubt your worth.
A woman gain also confidence (not only I insist) by the gaze of her man. But before that try to work on yourself. The right man will only boost your installed confidence.
Give yourself time to heal and meet new people too !